The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

codemonkey

vesper wrote: »

Oh hugs code. xxx
I swear parents don't think about telling people about that sort of thing Code.
A lot different but hubby's mum didn't tell him about he having mumps as a child instead decided to tell me about it, so I had to tell him. She hadn't told him as she believed it affected sperm production and thought it was best to not tell him (I'm still not 100% if it does or not, but the doctor says it won't have affected him). Mind you she drunk so much alcohol while pregnant with him I am surprised he has turned out remotely healthy.


Luckily I don't have to deal with work colleagues so dodge a lot of those sort of baby questions, due to being self employed.

You'd think so, but when we told them about it, I said they might want to mention it to his brothers so they could be tested for it if they wanted.

Honestly, every time I think I'm getting stronger, I fall down again. Sitting her in tears for the baby I'll never have.

vesper

Oh code, I can not express how sorry I am, wish I could rush over to you now with all the crème eggs you could want and give you a giant squishy hug.


The only thing that's stopping me from feeling too glum tonight, is a rather amusing facebook conversation of one of my friends deciding which one of 2 men she wants to date of nicey nice lad, or a bad lad. Certainly doesn't make me miss dating.

codemonkey

vesper wrote: »

Oh code, I can not express how sorry I am, wish I could rush over to you now with all the crème eggs you could want and give you a giant squishy hug.


The only thing that's stopping me from feeling too glum tonight, is a rather amusing facebook conversation of one of my friends deciding which one of 2 men she wants to date of nicey nice lad, or a bad lad. Certainly doesn't make me miss dating.

Easy, have sex with the bad lad, feel crap the next day then date the nice guy. Ugh, I do NOT ever want another first date. I had so many horrible ones. Seriously, if there was a proper crazy guy in a 40 mile radius, I'd end up dating him. Bet they're all bloody fertile.

vesper

Hubby was my first proper relationship. I had only had one 'proper' bf (as proper as a silly 17 year old girl can make it) and a couple of school girl bf's where you have a quick kiss, before him when I was 17 and we just migrated together until he confessed he was gay. So I really don't have any experience with dating, me and OH met and moved in together 4 months later.


Apparently every single of my bf's have turned out gay. Not sure how much reflection that has on me,

codemonkey

vesper wrote: »

Hubby was my first proper relationship. I had only had one 'proper' bf (as proper as a silly 17 year old girl can make it) and a couple of school girl bf's where you have a quick kiss, before him when I was 17 and we just migrated together until he confessed he was gay. So I really don't have any experience with dating, me and OH met and moved in together 4 months later.


Apparently every single of my bf's have turned out gay. Not sure how much reflection that has on me,

Just about every one of my previous bfs have turned out to still be in love with their ex. If I were in a romantic comedy, I'd be the girl standing in the way of the the main characters who gets dumped at the end.

Part_Mouse

Oh code huge hugs to you.

good_vibes

*hugs* ladies
Vesper my OH had mumps twice as a child and so far is seems to be the root of his problems for us ttc.
Follow up appointment this week for us

vesper

good_vibes wrote: »

*hugs* ladies
Vesper my OH had mumps twice as a child and so far is seems to be the root of his problems for us ttc.
Follow up appointment this week for us

I've had so much conflicting advice from Doctors it's stupid. We were always told since hubbys first SA about 6 years ago that as he had had mumps it had affected his S count.
Our present Doctor reckons that it won't have affected it at all, as it was when he was a toddler. So I have no idea.


All I know it that the SA years ago showed a lower than usual S count (but don't know exactly what) and that he's had 2 tests this year which come up with lower than usual s count and very very low mobility, but they said it could have been because he didn't do a big enough sample, he has since had another test as well as blood tests to triple check the results, as the sample may just be the normal amount he does, and the blood tests to show if he has any hormone imbalance/ other problems, we are currently waiting for these results and will be informed of them at our next appointment in July.




I just wish they didn't leave such big gaps between appointments it leaves time to think about these things. More annoying when you get told not to dtd for 3 weeks so lose another month of natural ttc. The only upside it does it give a bit more time for me to lose weight and get that bmi down.


The doctor has already said that we won't conceive naturally going on the tests, (the 3rd one is just to confirm it), and that we will need referring to the next stage what ever that may be.

good_vibes

Vesper is your hubby taking any supplements? It has improved my OH's sperm across the board.
Will be paying for another SA at next appointment to see how it's going.

vesper

good_vibes wrote: »

Vesper is your hubby taking any supplements? It has improved my OH's sperm across the board.
Will be paying for another SA at next appointment to see how it's going.

He was told to take zinc and multivits. I've left a packet of multivits on the work top but I very much doubt he has taken any. I've got to get some zinc tablets.