Weekly Flylady Thread 27th January 2014

Dustykitten

Gov meeting decluttered and all is quiet as2 at cricket nets and one at work so tea and ski cake for me.

Lamewolf I would always come and take you to a GP (or anywhere else). I know that would be hard for you and understand that but I want you to know the offer is there.

Dancemum hugs re DS1's mocks - which subjects were they? Did he revise for them? how far off of what he expected/is targetted was he? What do the school have in place to support him?

LSD you have done brilliantly today, gold star for you. Re the curtains the only issue I can see is possible condensation in the room as they dry.

bossymoo

Honey_Bear wrote: »

it hasn't stopped raining since October last year - or was it the year before?.

It really feels like that, doesn't it?

LW I really wish there was something we could do yo help :grouphug:

Well I managed to get some groceries in this afternoon, so had a sort in the fridge and made tomorrow's lunches. I've also washed their school coats (mud all over his from a fall at school, but no bumped knees this time )

DS did some writing in his notebook tonight. I'd written happy birthday to him, and he wanted to write it back. So when I said it wasn't my birthday he wrote "to mummy have a good work love from <DS>" :rotfl:

I haven't done any more out in the conservatory. And its a bit cold now. We've opened the last cards and presents so I know what I'm dealing with now.

Kitchen is tidy after dinner so I'm having a brew and mentally decluttering

YORKSHIRELASS

Hi all

Sorry but I have read all todays posts and very little of it has been absorbed into my brain. I have done 7 hours flat out at work without a break, came home and cooked tea, did 2 loads of washing, cleaned the bathroom, hoovered the stairs and cleaned DSs room including changing his bed.

So I have been on the go since half six this morning and have just got finished. However, I have achieved a lot and wouldnt have done it without the motivation of you lot so thank you!

Tomorrow is going to be another manic day so I need to keep flying wherever I can.

Oh and Pixie, glad it worked. And yes just lay your undies and socks on top of everything else. If I am at home I shuffle everything round after a few hours, maybe turning big things like sheets over. Makes a difference doesnt it?

And LW sorry to hear you arent getting any joy from the doctors. From my experience you have to keep pestering them, which isnt how it should be but there you go. I also have trouble juggling work and appointments for my son so I can sympathise with that too.

I feel an early night coming on.

pigpen

Dancemum... they are grading really low on these mocks to encourage them/scare them into working harder.. DD2 was one of 5 who didn't get a U in a couple of subjects.

FizzWhizz

I've decided I have a UTI; I've been feeling under the weather for a week and a half now, (TMI alert) peeing every five minutes for the past few days and unable to "hold it in" for more than a couple of minutes; usually I'm fine for an hour or more. I'll pop into the docs tomorrow morning when I drop DS2 off, the surgery is off the same car park.

As a result, I have barely flapped at all this week Have done dailies and loads and loads (literally) of laundry but little else. Hoping I can find some GUAG for work tomorrow.

Like YL, I have read but not much has sunk in so hugs, sticks, spoons and chocolate cake for those in need xx

Valli

I don't deserve to be a flylady.

My 'pile' is in a box (for easy moving/hiding) and it has been steadily growing since - erm christmas

Narc0lepsy

Valli wrote: »

I don't deserve to be a flylady.

My 'pile' is in a box (for easy moving/hiding) and it has been steadily growing since - erm christmas

Pah - call that a pile? I have an 'in' tray which was full before I added to it when I left work in July. I'd say you well and truly deserve to be a flylady - actually if it is in a nice manageable box, perhaps you are TOO organised to be a flylady.

love Rent-a-Sloth

decogecko

Hello All

My GUAG has gone (will explain later in the post be feel free to ignore it) but managed to cook lasagne & a tuna pasta bake yesterday. Need to play freezer tetris to get the lasagne portions in the freezer though. Today WM on and washing needs to be hung on the indoor line.

**Self indulgent ramble**

Sorry not sure where to post this.

OH passed away almost 4 years ago. 6 months prior to his passing I was severely depressed (considered taking my life) but knew I needed help so went for counselling. From that I was able to work out for myself (i.e. the counsellor didn't talk me into it or put words in my mouth) that the relationship wasn't working for me. I was devastated as I loved him so much but he'd 'cheated' and lied to me about something that was and still is fundamentally important to me. Which made me feel that the relationship was based on a lie. I feel that he didn't really love me, I was forever jumping through hoops to prove my love for him and no matter how hard I tried he never believed me.

I've grieved him, our relationship (what was and what might have been). Up until very recently I had the belief that OH hadn't loved me really (if I went into all the reasons why I felt this way this post would be as long as war & peace!). But i'm now trying to come to terms with the fact he did love me, just not in the way he said he did or the way I thought/hoped he did.

I'm now comfort eating as I feel hollow. I don't know where to begin to deal with the loss of his & our love. I know I won't ever stop loving him but need to deal with this as it's holding me back and I want to go forward with my life.

***ramble over***

Sorry I just needed to empty my head of these thoughts.

Deco x

roxy7699

LW I have no idea where you are and never met you but I would take you to the drs too coming from London - I dont like the thought of you having to sit in discomfort.

bossy your son is sweet

Yorkshirelass you have me wanting one of these airers and I only just got a maiden for the first time in 2 years - I've been a banister radiator girl

fizzwizz I feel for you, I was the same this morning but the other side, I had to pop two painkillers (never do drugs) just to take the edge off the urge, hope you get it sorted.

I did no further flying just tidied the mess I made. Found one of my plastic bedroom boxes fits a space in the LR perfectly for toys. I will head back to W!lko for more. Tiny went down nicely tonight so managed to tidy kitchen. Still have two more bookshelves and 2 cupboards in the LR to sort. So happy with the progress so far thank you for the list and motivation. My clutter corner with swinging chair, bouncing chair, play mat, bum seat, bouncer and light now has - a bouncer and a light!

ETA deco crossed message, huge hugs. One thing I've learnt for my young unmarried years is men dont love in the same way we do I dont think. Hopefully someone wiser can come with a coping mechanism but I think four years is no time at all. I still miss a past relationship, the person is still on this earth although ill AND I have moved on and have a new baby. What you had will take time and the bad things that happened dont mean he had any less love for you. x

Narc0lepsy

decogecko wrote: »

Hello All

I'm now comfort eating as I feel hollow. I don't know where to begin to deal with the loss of his & our love. I know I won't ever stop loving him but need to deal with this as it's holding me back and I want to go forward with my life.

***ramble over***

Sorry I just needed to empty my head of these thoughts.

Deco x

Don't apologise. Is your original counsellor still available? It may be that you could talk things through with them, as it was one you trusted. Some things are too big and/or too close to think them through on your own. I would have thought it was still part of the grieving process; a different aspect of the same loss. x