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paulineb_2

jamiefly wrote: »

erhh! es I think I have and that is just my opinion you are entitled to disagree.

Well, maybe you could post a similar thread on there and see how you get on.

Im actually not even sure what being a mumsnetter means, Ive only ever advertised on there, never posted on the boards, Im assuming you mean its a cliquey forum, not that its full of people who talk about saggy boobs, incontinence and stretch marks or even periods.

iammumtoone

balletshoes wrote: »

woah - seriously? you'd have a really rough time in my workplace then (2/3rds women, 1/3rd men in my immediate office) - and we regularly discuss stuff like that (and the men get an education into the bargain ).

I think that is different. I worked in an environment similar split to yours we talked about things like that all the time, the men were quite interested and would even ask questions :rotfl: However we all knew each other as we worked together all day 5 days per week (some saw more of each other than we did our partners), it is completely different to going to a mother and toddler group for a couple of hours each week where you don't know anyone.

Katem

jamiefly wrote: »

At the risk of sounding stereotypical they were invariably out of work mums (never had a career to leave) and not pretty on the eye (statement not judgement). All the mums I stayed in touch with were by definition physically attractive and have professions like teaching, corporate and accountancy.

Those words sound like you're a proper shallow, snobby piece of work.

I hope you're not as rude and judgemental in real life, and you're just not good with words - because you haven't a hope of getting and keeping a job with that sort of attitude.

Georgiegirl256

jamiefly wrote: »

I have no issue with what was said it was in the manner and tone to which I took offence to. At the risk of sounding stereotypical they were invariably out of work mums (never had a career to leave) and not pretty on the eye (statement not judgement). All the mums I stayed in touch with were by definition physically attractive and have professions like teaching, corporate and accountancy.

It's got to be said, but you really are coming across as a snob. Judge people on their personalities, not their looks or their professions.

balletshoes

iammumtoone wrote: »

I think that is different. I worked in an environment similar split to yours we talked about things like that all the time, the men were quite interested and would even ask questions :rotfl: However we all knew each other as we worked together all day 5 days per week (some saw more of each other than we did our partners), it is completely different to going to a mother and toddler group for a couple of hours each week where you don't know anyone.

but if you're new to the group you're new to the group - whether thats the newbie in the office or the new parent at toddler group. A bit of time spent there and you're not a newbie anymore.

Georgiegirl256

I actually think this OP is real, but with his airs and graces, thinking he is better than everyone else, and being totally judgemental, he is coming across as a troll.

Change your way of thinking OP.

Hermia

GobbledyGook wrote: »

Then why not describe them as 'like minded' or 'with similar interests'.

The 'other subset' could probably sense your judgemental thoughts about their lack of career and looks. I find judgemental folks tend to give themselves away quite quickly.

That's what I was thinking. Judgemental people are rarely as good at hiding their feelings as they think. And give those women a chance. I've worked with everyone from the aristocracy to cor blimey types and found the cor blimey types to be the nicest people to be around. And they would do anything for you unlike some of the posh ones who seemed to keep a tally of favours in their head.

Can you just not block out the convo you don't like. I used to be the only women in an all male office & would just zone out of the convo and zone in again when it was a topic more to my liking.

paulineb_2

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

I actually think this OP is real, but with his airs and graces, thinking he is better than everyone else, and being totally judgemental, he is coming across as a troll.

Change your way of thinking OP.

Well yes, there is a hint of troll, because when some people said things he didnt agree with out come judgements about the people he mixes with. His wife sounds like a crashing snob, but thats just my opinion and Im sorry for anyone who would ever be made to feel that a job they wanted to do wasnt good enough, but in turn comments are being made about people's appearance or lack of qualifications.

I actually think sometimes that people will stay in a relationship no matter how bad its got because theres something keeping them there, kids, love, but no one should be sitting crying because they arent happy with their life even if on the surface they seem to have everything.

He doesnt sound happy, shes clearly not happy but while shes out earning a lot of money, looks like the status quo will be maintained.

victory

Hermia wrote: »

That's what I was thinking. Judgemental people are rarely as good at hiding their feelings as they think. And give those women a chance. I've worked with everyone from the aristocracy to cor blimey types and found the cor blimey types to be the nicest people to be around. And they would do anything for you unlike some of the posh ones who seemed to keep a tally of favours in their head.

Can you just not block out the convo you don't like. I used to be the only women in an all male office & would just zone out of the convo and zone in again when it was a topic more to my liking.

I agree with this , I used to have a friend , a cor blimey friend if you like that had an absolutely beautiful heart, so caring, a fantastic laugh, brilliant mum, a true pleasure to be around, she never had ££ to her name but if she had she would have given you her last one , with her it was what it was, no airs no graces, no games, straight talking, full of life and fun

jamiefly

Hermia wrote: »

That's what I was thinking. Judgemental people are rarely as good at hiding their feelings as they think. And give those women a chance. I've worked with everyone from the aristocracy to cor blimey types and found the cor blimey types to be the nicest people to be around. And they would do anything for you unlike some of the posh ones who seemed to keep a tally of favours in their head.

Can you just not block out the convo you don't like. I used to be the only women in an all male office & would just zone out of the convo and zone in again when it was a topic more to my liking.

And this post isn't judgemental? Posh people? Pot kettle black!

I have a cut accent this doesn't change who I am and who my friends are from all walks of life and they see through the 'plums in my mouth'. I am very generous in time, help and money and don't expect anything in return other than trust and friendship. People being rude to me are people being rude to me no matter where they are from. I can read signals otherwise I wouldn't be where I am now (marriage and good friends).