Weddings - evening invite

lostinrates

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

I'm not sure if could bring myself to ask where the restroom or bathroom was, it's too cringey! I'd have to plump for bathroom purely because it's the lesser of two evils.

The impart a t thing is to go with the flow....(um, not that flow....don't go there, find somewhere cleaner)

And just fit in.


There is nothing wrong with making people comfortable. I use lavatory but I never would dream of correcting anyone for using other. In US I use bathroom because I'd be waiting a long time otherwise and its its polite and correct.

You fit in with the culture where you are as best you can I believe, and then get on with being yourself within that parametre.

Its a rare thing when person one and I agree but snobbery is pretty ridiculous and unpleasant , as is inverse snobbery. Its also pretty limiting for oneself IMO.

thorsoak

jaylee3 wrote: »

I have been reading this thread with much amusement at how virtually EVERYbody on this thread is now calling the 'wedding reception' a 'wedding breakfast,.’ And it’s only been since someone slyly implied that if someone has not heard it called this before; it’s because it’s a ‘class thing.’ (Suggesting that people who say 'wedding breakfast' are in a ‘higher class’ than those who hadn't heard of it, and say ‘reception.’)

Right up to when that post went on suggesting that only commoners don’t say wedding breakfast, people WERE saying ‘reception’ and ‘meal.’ Nobody was even saying wedding breakfast LOL.

Fact is, ‘wedding breakfast’ is more an old fashioned-term and especially refers/referred more to people who had religious weddings, and ‘reception’ is a more modern term, more associated with non-religious weddings. It is NOTHING to do with class or intellect.

So if someone hasn't heard the term wedding ‘breakfast’ before, and they say ‘reception,’ it doesn't make them less intellectual or lower class than someone who says wedding breakfast LOL.

So to all you people on here who are saying ‘wedding breakfast’ (and who probably never called it that before this thread; ) you can go back to calling it a ‘reception’ again. That’s what most people call it. Gotta laugh at the pseudo intellectuals who try and sneer at people for not saying what they class as the ‘correct term.’

A ‘wedding breakfast,’ is NOT a common term at all. I have been to a dozen weddings in the last 8-9 years, and to the best of my recollection, they ALL said 'reception' on the invite, and not 'breakfast.'

And as I said, I am pretty sure the majority of people on here never called it that before this thread either.

Apologies for bringing into the conversation the term WEDDING BREAKFAST - that was what it was called 50 years ago when I married. Doesn't make it pseudo intellectual! As I suggested in another post, different areas have different customs - my in-laws went to great lengths to make people think that they'd gone away on honeymoon - or they would have been "kettled" - pots and pans being banged outside their house together with lots of - shall we say raucous behaviour - on their wedding night! That was in Berkshire in the 1930s!

There is no right or wrong way of going about any wedding, imo - what's right for the couple concerned is the right thing for their wedding.

Georgiegirl256

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

I'm not sure if could bring myself to ask where the restroom or bathroom was, it's too cringey! I'd have to plump for bathroom purely because it's the lesser of two evils.

I prefer to use bathroom in the US too, I felt silly saying restroom for some reason!

HPoirot

jaylee3 wrote: »

No, it's always been ceremony, reception, (meaning the after wedding meal,) and then in the evening, the night do/evening do.

And I'm not getting worked up at all, just finding the thread highly amusing, as people are desperately worried about looking stupid or people thinking they're not middle class, so everyone suddenly decided to start saying 'breakfast' instead of reception LOL.

LOL, who says 'wedding breakfast?' :rotfl: Hardly ANYONE.

With all the wisdom you are trying to impart here, it is a wonder you do not realise this says more about what you look for in people's posts rather than their reasoning behind the posts themselves.

Gloomendoom

jaylee3 wrote: »

A ‘wedding breakfast,’ is NOT a common term at all. I have been to a dozen weddings in the last 8-9 years, and to the best of my recollection, they ALL said 'reception' on the invite, and not 'breakfast.'

There is probably a reason for that. The wedding breakfast is a part of the reception, not an alternative name for it.

lostinrates

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

I shall enlighten you then!


It's the jub seat - can be used for other lone seating situations!

And rosebudding, some of our friends call it peanutting. This was the height of school cool around 2003-2005

I've just asked my husband and he hasn't come across either this seat nor the tie thing either.

But, um, we'd left university and got married while you were still at school, maybe that's why? We're just too old.

daisiegg

lostinrates wrote: »

I've just asked my husband and he hasn't come across either this seat nor the tie thing either.

But, um, we'd left university and got married while you were still at school, maybe that's why? We're just too old.

I can't be MUCH older than her (depending on what stage of school she was actually at in 2003...) but have never heard of either, either! Maybe a regional thing?! I have seen buses with one seat at the front but never heard anyone calling it anything and never wondered what it might be called. As for the tie thing...no idea. Not come across that at all!

daisiegg

jaylee, just because your invitations haven't said wedding breakfast, doesn't mean it wasn't called that our invitations did not use that term either but believe me, our venue used it and it was what was written on our invoice! So our guests would also be able to say 'it wasn't called a wedding breakfast at daisie's wedding' but they would not know that in all planning and discussions with our venue, it actually was. I always thought it was a very common term. It is nothing to do with class but just to do with what the meal after getting married is technically called.

lostinrates

daisiegg wrote: »

jaylee, just because your invitations haven't said wedding breakfast, doesn't mean it wasn't called that our invitations did not use that term either but believe me, our venue used it and it was what was written on our invoice! So our guests would also be able to say 'it wasn't called a wedding breakfast at daisie's wedding' but they would not know that in all planning and discussions with our venue, it actually was. I always thought it was a very common term. It is nothing to do with class but just to do with what the meal after getting married is technically called.

May I suggest to avoid confusion that you might actually mean a frequently used term?

Buzzybee90

daisiegg wrote: »

I can't be MUCH older than her (depending on what stage of school she was actually at in 2003...) but have never heard of either, either! Maybe a regional thing?! I have seen buses with one seat at the front but never heard anyone calling it anything and never wondered what it might be called. As for the tie thing...no idea. Not come across that at all!

I started school in 2003, secondary.

The seat thing may have just been us - none of our uni friends had heard of the term 'jub' or 'jubbed'. We were very rural and had a lot of buses, with this one seat, so I guess that's how it took off!

The rosebudding thing was known by friends from all over the country though, albeit as peanutting!