Weddding Invite without Daughters name

Mojisola

donnalou wrote: »

Yes I think that is the problem I feel deeply offended because I expected to be invited, I would never go away without my daughter, I always put my daughter first that is why I won't be going to the wedding

donnalou wrote: »

Am I over reacting? I will be replying to my niece I don't want to upset her but I think that it was pointless even sending me an invite like I would travel 350 miles without my LO.

I think you are over-reacting. If you go on your own, you're not going to be abandoning your child - your OH will still be around for emergencies.

Don't you have any friends who could look after your child? It's a good thing to get children used to spending some time with other people in case of emergencies. If you got rushed into hospital, you couldn't take your child - who would look after her then?

laurel7172

It's incredibly high handed to imagine that anyone but the couple is entitled to make substitutions to the guest list.

My former mother-in-law invited some of exH's cousins to our wedding, because the parents wouldn't come if they weren't invited. She decided that because another aunt and uncle weren't coming, she was entitled to dish out invitations up to the number originally issued to her family. None of my cousins came-we couldn't afford the numbers-and it was my family who paid for the wedding...

Almost twenty five years and a divorce later, it's still not something of which one reminds my mother...

spacey2012

It is the latest fad.
Invite guests and make know you are doing them a favour.
Militant wedding planning.
Children make a wedding in party dresses and mini suits IMO.
What a drab formal stuck up their own backside day it will be.

If your children are not good enough, then IMO neither are you, wish them all the best, but no thanks.

donnalou

Mojisola wrote: »

I think you are over-reacting. If you go on your own, you're not going to be abandoning your child - your OH will still be around for emergencies.

Don't you have any friends who could look after your child? It's a good thing to get children used to spending some time with other people in case of emergencies. If you got rushed into hospital, you couldn't take your child - who would look after her then?

Yes in an emergency I have family that could look after her but they will all be at the wedding!

Stephb1986_2

spacey2012 wrote: »

It is the latest fad.
Invite guests and make know you are doing them a favour.
Militant wedding planning.
Children make a wedding in party dresses and mini suits IMO.
What a drab formal stuck up their own backside day it will be.

If your children are not good enough, then IMO neither are you, wish them all the best, but no thanks.

Some people just don't want other peoples screaming snot nosed kids there. Doesn't mean they are stuck up. We don't have kids yet so why would I want to put up with other peoples kids all day? Our venue is charging us the same price for a adult or child I don't particularly want to pay £80 for chicken nuggets and chips that doesn't make me stuck up.

spacey2012

Once upon a time, weddings were about "families"
Not spending the day kidding yourselves you are some kind of celebrity that everyone needs to awe at.

newbutold

donnalou wrote: »

They have been planning the Wedding for years but have been engaged for 2.

One of the Bridesmaids is the same age as my daughter. The others with children are not relatives that have traveled miles, Maybe friends that live local so it is not the same.

I don't see how it is rude to ask if my daughter can come instead of my husband if it's not an adult only wedding. Even if my DH could get the time off work we would never go away without my daughter.

I don't think it was rude to ask if you could bring your daughter in lieu of your hubby. Did you explain why you was asking and. Hubby was working etc to her? However as she has said no, to push the matter more would be in bad taste, in my opinion.

I think you can either chose to turn the invite down now or find childcare whilst hubby is at work and he can mind her after work, thus enabling you to go along.

spacey2012

Stephb1986 wrote: »

Some people just don't want other peoples screaming snot nosed kids there. Doesn't mean they are stuck up. We don't have kids yet so why would I want to put up with other peoples kids all day? Our venue is charging us the same price for a adult or child I don't particularly want to pay £80 for chicken nuggets and chips that doesn't make me stuck up.

Probably the most "stuck up" post I have read.
Some people do have very well behaved polite children who do not all eat Chicken nuggets and chips.

tinkerbellkirst

Its a difficult area I think, children at weddings.


We are torn, we will have the children that are part of the day but considering not having children for the ceremony and meal just purely because we cant afford it. having everyones children adds a lot onto our price and we don't have that kind of extra money.


We went to a friends wedding recently my DD was a flowergirl so she came, my DS didn't have a role so wasn't invited. I was a bit upset he wouldn't be there to enjoy the day but respected the couples wishes and had a lovely day, DD was old enough to go play and Ds wasn't wanting us to be with him all day. Family looked after him and that was fine.


I agree that really if you want to go OH should book the time off to look after your little one and you should go.


It is a child free wedding, those children with a role in the day don't count, they are exceptions to the rule, but if you take your child who has no rule the others who have had to leave children at home, or had to decline would be upset.

Stephb1986_2

spacey2012 wrote: »

Probably the most "stuck up" post I have read.
Some people do have very well behaved polite children who do not all eat Chicken nuggets and chips.

LOL :rotfl: