Boyfriend bought me a ring but won't let me have it

System

I dunno if I'm the only one but I wouldn't want a ring off a man unless it actually meant something to us both that I wore it.

Georgiegirl256

Person_one wrote: »

Wedding rings aren't sexist precisely because both partners wear one. They aren't the stamp of ownership that engagement rings are.

When the man never wears one and the woman does, I like them less.

Even though I hardly wear my wedding ring, and my engagement ring even less, I'd hardly consider it sexist. My husband doesn't wear his wedding ring either, so even if I did wear mine I wouldn't consider it sexist because he's not bothered if I wear one or not, and vice versa.

No one makes their spouse wear a ring, it's not a mark of ownership, just that most people just like to wear one.

Georgiegirl256

jaylee3 wrote: »

How very odd. Never known anyone who is married where neither one of the couple ever wears their wedding ring.

Can't see anything wrong with it myself?

Totally agree with the rest of your post though.

pollypenny

I often have bare fingers, as I just forget to put rings on. OH never wears his ring. Not practical for work and he got out of the habit. Doubt it would fit him now.

Buzzybee90

Person_one wrote: »

Wedding rings aren't sexist precisely because both partners wear one. They aren't the stamp of ownership that engagement rings are.

When the man never wears one and the woman does, I like them less.

Not really, I know a lot of women who have bought their fianc! a beautiful watch as an engagement present.

I know my boyfriend wouldn't wear a wedding ring, and I wouldn't want him to. Men and jewellery don't mix for me!

GoldenShadow

Pollycat wrote: »

From an earlier post:



And because I and my OH can afford to indulge my love of jewellery.

Is that answer OK for you?

Maybe you just don't understand where I'm coming from because of the (possible) difference in our ages.

Maybe my opinion is merely different to yours. That does not mean I 'don't understand'. It simply means that I do not share your viewpoint. You were the one probing for other people's opinions.

I would wear a ring to show my commitment to my OH and his to myself. I don't like rings very much, but it is a reminder I would very much like to have should my OH and I ever go down that route. I wouldn't wear it some days and not others, so it would be very much stamp like, some may argue.

Pollycat

GoldenShadow wrote: »

Maybe my opinion is merely different to yours. That does not mean I 'don't understand'. It simply means that I do not share your viewpoint. You were the one probing for other people's opinions.

I said this:

Pollycat wrote: »

Maybe you just don't understand where I'm coming from because of the (possible) difference in our ages.

I really think our difference of opinions are because there is (I believe) a pretty large difference in our ages.
As I posted earlier, I've had my engagement ring at least 25 years, probably nearer 28.

GoldenShadow wrote: »

I would wear a ring to show my commitment to my OH and his to myself. I don't like rings very much, but it is a reminder I would very much like to have should my OH and I ever go down that route. I wouldn't wear it some days and not others, so it would be very much stamp like, some may argue.

I'm confused.
Are you saying you and your OH are not married and so don't have an engagement/wedding ring but would like to have one should you decide to get married?

seven-day-weekend

I have worn my wedding ring every day for forty-three years and never take it off. Initially it was a sign of commitment but although it is still that, now it is just habit, I never think about it.

GoldenShadow

Pollycat wrote: »

I said this:


I really think our difference of opinions are because there is (I believe) a pretty large difference in our ages.
As I posted earlier, I've had my engagement ring at least 25 years, probably nearer 28.



I'm confused.
Are you saying you and your OH are not married and so don't have an engagement/wedding ring but would like to have one should you decide to get married?

Potentially.

Yes. I haven't said anywhere that I wouldn't want one. I'm not a huge jewellery fan really. Should my OH and I go down that route I would like one (as would he). That doesn't alter my view that they are also a mark of a promise made to commit, ie. I wouldn't go near anyone who was wearing one. They 'belong' to someone else via commitment.

I also don't know anyone who takes their rings off in ordinary life. They always wear them, perhaps that influences my view also. I don't know anyone who wears them at certain times and not others, not unless they're at risk of damage. So they very much have the opportunity to act as a deterrent to others if you like.

mrsHall2b

my engagement ring cost £50 and his (yes he also has an engagement ring) cost £15, but the cost is irrelevant its what they mean to us, we bought them together and they where bought with the promise that one day (when funds allow) we will be married, we bought them after being together about 9 months. weve now been together 2 and a half years and hope to get married next summer (if the registry office isnt too booked.

registry office wedding and either church hall after then upto our house to spend the remainder of the day in the garden (so we have somewhere all the children can go to play/sleep if need be)

its not going to cost much but its our wedding.

it wasnt even a 'proper' proposal laying in bed one morning he said i think you ought to marry me.. i said yeah i think so too & thats been it.