What Were Your 20's Like ?

Tiglath

Spirit wrote: »

Until quite recently i still thought I was in my 20's. I am 53!

I'm convinced the years start to accelerate - I could've sworn I went from 26 to 46 overnight! I still feel mentally that I'm in my 20s, but my body's closer to 55 ....

ska_lover

Angelinaxoxo wrote: »

Thank you, I needed that. Everyone around me seems to have time constraints on how our lives should be, what I need to achieve and do etc. Seems like a huge race..

Just do things in your own sweet time.

Since I got married last year, people seem to think we are suddenly going to start popping out babies. (We won't be)

One person even said 'Well, Normal people get married and have babies not long after...'. :rotfl:

ska_lover

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

Cinema, visit my friends, occasional concert. All but two of my friends left my university city.

I live with my boyfriend so it's not like I'm all alone knitting.

Ahh I see cool, I love the cinema - don't go very often as is so expensive these days

Angelinaxoxo

sleepymans wrote: »

To be honest.... a struggle...a failing marriage, a new future to plan for, sharing house with parents, having to learn how to date again, not having much money.......

30s and 40s were better.....50's ave been THE TIME OF MY LIFE!!
So take heart:)

What would you say were the few things (mentally or physically) that got you through the struggle ?

I'm aware that there are going to be ups and downs, what are those few things that will get you through the huge extenuating things which life obviously will throw at me ?

Buzzybee90

ska_lover wrote: »

Ahh I see cool, I love the cinema - don't go very often as is so expensive these days

Orange Wednesdays only of course but seriously I'm way more interested in saving up and getting out of renting!

Btw Angelina, isn't your avatar an American model? Recognise the picture.

HPoirot

Aren't you thinking things through too much? At 22 you'd want to be going with the flow, wherever life leads you, whatever comes your way...

balletshoes

at 22, I wasn't the same person I became just a few years later, I was still "cooking" at 22. Still forming my opinions on life, still finding my way, still looking around for what I wanted in life. I'd say the person I am now is fundamentally the same person I was at 26 or 27.

I don't think I've ever made a plan more than a couple of months in advance in my life - can't see that changing anytime soon.

Angelinaxoxo

Spirit wrote: »

Built my career worked hard, long hours
moved about for my job
Took professional exams
Stopped dating, committed to a long term boy friend
Bought a house
Married
Bought a bigger house
Had summer holidays and skiiing holidays
Had a soft top sports car
Gave birth
Carried on with the career


I was very happy, thought I could have it all.

Any regrets?

Too much time on work and career not enough time with my baby
A bit too yuppyish (it was the eighties)
Not enough on personal diet/fitness for life
Little time for for my mum (and I lived a long way away and did not make time for her)


Same husband now though, great family life so it worked out for me, but I cannot get back my daughters early years or time with my now deceased mum.

Until quite recently i still thought I was in my 20's. I am 53!

Any financial decisions you regretted making during that 'yuppy' phase ?

Tiglath

Angelinaxoxo wrote: »

I'm aware that there are going to be ups and downs, what are those few things that will get you through the huge extenuating things which life obviously will throw at me ?

"This too shall pass, and in 100 years it won't matter."

The hardest thing I dealt with was my Dad dying when I was a student. You think you'll never survive and that the pain will always remain the same, and yet when I was listing what my 20s were like, it didn't even occur to me to mention his death. The pain did change into something else.

Angelinaxoxo

HPoirot wrote: »

Aren't you thinking things through too much? At 22 you'd want to be going with the flow, wherever life leads you, whatever comes your way...

It's HARD being in your 20's now. EVERYWHERE it's doom and gloom.

The houses are soooooooo expensive (I live in London) so all my friends are already speaking about saving for mortgages.

ALL my friends are talking about how expensive houses are, money, work, etc.

Couple that with all my older family members telling me not to 'waste my twenties!!!'

At uni so many people were interning to make sure they got jobs.

There's just so much. Jobs are hard to get, you're scared you'll never own a house, it's just scary.

I'm carefree but it's literally ALL my friends talk about.