What Were Your 20's Like ?

balletshoes

Angelinaxoxo wrote: »

I do want to get married but I'm conflicted. I keep receiving conflicting advice some people harp on that now is the best time for me to meet someone? And how the pickings become slimmer the older I get but other people say 20's isn't time for serious relationships ?

don't listen to anyone else about that - just let it happen if its going to.

Angelinaxoxo

Brighton_belle wrote: »

eh??? Where does that come from?
True, some you may naturally outgrow, quite normal, other friendships will ebb and flo with life and some will probably remain quality friends for ever. But why do you believe your will lose them all?

Okay that's good then. Just things about losing touch, people having families, no time etc. I'm guessing that's a myth then ?

Spirit_2

Built my career worked hard, long hours
moved about for my job
Took professional exams
Stopped dating, committed to a long term boy friend
Bought a house
Married
Bought a bigger house
Had summer holidays and skiiing holidays
Had a soft top sports car
Gave birth
Carried on with the career


I was very happy, thought I could have it all.

Any regrets?

Too much time on work and career not enough time with my baby
A bit too yuppyish (it was the eighties)
Not enough on personal diet/fitness for life
Little time for for my mum (and I lived a long way away and did not make time for her)


Same husband now though, great family life so it worked out for me, but I cannot get back my daughters early years or time with my now deceased mum.

Until quite recently i still thought I was in my 20's. I am 53!

valk_scot

I stayed firmly single as I was having far too good a time doing what I wanted. That's not to say I didn't have boyfriends or a couple of long term relationships but I definitely didn't want to get tied down as half of a permenant couple. I finished uni, got a job, went back to uni, got a better job, worked abroad for a bit and spent my life doing what I wanted to. Once I turned thirty though I'd worked my way through a lot of what I'd set my sights on and this coincided with meeting up with an ex of mine. Five years later I was married with mortgage and a 3 year old with another on the way. I became a SAHM for many years. No regrets there, I knew that was the right choice for me. I also had a solid financial base set up by then, we could afford the house we wanted.


What I do regret? Not having taken better care of myself, if I'd watched my weight more and exercised more I wouldn't have some of the health problems I have today. I wish I'd travelled more and drunk less, looking back on it the amount of cash I spent/wasted(?) in clubs and pubs would have financed a few more air fares! And I wish I'd not been quite so shy, I really only found my self confidence after thirty.

balletshoes

Angelinaxoxo wrote: »

Okay that's good then. Just things about losing touch, people having families, no time etc. I'm guessing that's a myth then ?

you don't lose touch with friends unless you want to.

Angelinaxoxo

thorsoak wrote: »

My 20s were exciting and full of promise - got married 3 weeks after my 20th birthday,moved away from the town I'd lived in, bought a new house with OH, worked at various really exciting jobs in Swinging London, we worked hard and partied hard - three years later we started our family and started growing up......still loved parties and festivals - went to 1969 Isle of Wight festival with 2 babies - saw and listened to Bob Dylan, The Who, Pretty Things --not sure whether Jimmi Hendrix was at the 1969 one or the 1970 one (when we went with 3 babies ;-) ) - my 20s were a magical time, full of promise, love and security.

Enjoy your 20s x

How have you found going through your life, different decades, kids, career changes with your OH ? Did you find you just grew naturally together ?

ska_lover

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

No. What should I be doing?

To the person up top. None of my friends (all over the country) go out anymore. I think it's cos when we all finished uni, most people left, leaving the odd few people dotting about. No one goes clubbing alone. My best friend would go out a few times a week at uni and now never does.

I don't really see the appeal.

There is nothing wrong with not being into the clubbing scene, not everyone is - but you say you are in your early twenties and all you do is work and sleep all weekend? What do you do for socialising?

sleepymans

To be honest.... a struggle...a failing marriage, a new future to plan for, sharing house with parents, having to learn how to date again, not having much money.......

30s and 40s were better.....50's ave been THE TIME OF MY LIFE!!
So take heart:)

Angelinaxoxo

geoffky wrote: »

The grass is always greener..Change what you want and can change,But do not fall into the trap of thinking the world is having a ball while you slave.

There is one rule i have always worked with and that is never ever let negative people get in your way because they bring you down...
Keep them at arms length.

Thank you, I needed that. Everyone around me seems to have time constraints on how our lives should be, what I need to achieve and do etc. Seems like a huge race..

Buzzybee90

ska_lover wrote: »

There is nothing wrong with not being into the clubbing scene, not everyone is - but you say you are in your early twenties and all you do is work and sleep all weekend? What do you do for socialising?

Cinema, visit my friends, occasional concert. All but two of my friends left my university city.

I live with my boyfriend so it's not like I'm all alone knitting.