Weddings Abroad bit Presumptuous

Rottensocks

Surely the whole point of getting married abroad is to deliberately limit the number of people who attend?

Pollycat

Rottensocks wrote: »

Surely the whole point of getting married abroad is to deliberately limit the number of people who attend?

But when getting married abroad, aren't you limiting the people who can attend based on the financial circumstances of the people you invite?

I think I'd rather limit the number of people who could attend by deciding who was the most important to me, not who has got the most spare cash.

Gloomendoom

Person_one wrote: »

It used to be called eloping, now its a 'destination wedding'! :rotfl:

Ha ha! I had one of those. In a small town just over the Scottish border.

Didn't last.

AcidHouse

If you feel you can't afford it, don't go. Don't cause yourself financial problems because they want the wedding held in another country.

They made the choice to risk people not coming by holding it abroad, so if anyone comments, there is your response.
It also sounds as if you're not getting much time to save up to go anyway - my friends that have gotten married abroad gave at least a years' notice, then people who want to go have time to put money aside for it and it takes the pressure off.

Anyway, I'd rather put the money towards a decent gift for them to open when they get back home. I've done this with a couple of weddings because they've been held too far away - bought something special from the gift registry.

catkins

I would find it difficult in this situation as I would want to go to a sibling's wedding. If I couldn't easily afford for all my family to go though I would turn down the invitation.


I personally think it is pretty selfish to get married abroad unless you do it because you don't want anyone else there

pinkshoes

If your sister wanted you there, she'd pay!

Just send her a polite letter wishing her a lovely day, but say that due to financial reasons, you will be unable to attend.

If she doesn't understand, then she wasn't worth travelling for in the first place!

Errata

FishHookPockets wrote: »

We were as thick as thieves as kids but she seldom bothers to see her siblings or parents in recent years.
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In that case tell her you'd love to be at her wedding and are very disappointed that it will be financially impossible. I doubt it would be any great loss to either of you.

Tanswell88

Its their prerogative to have the wedding abroad just as much as it is whether you decide to go or not.
I imagine as they have chose to have the wedding abroad they will expect some people not be able to make it anyway.
She may be a bit upset her brother wont be able to make it to her wedding BUT she needs to accept that, that is what it is as its just not fair for you to spend so much to see her get married when you have your own family to think of.

mrcow

FishHookPockets wrote: »

I have priced it up using any cockroach free looking hotel in the area and the price is OK if I went alone but with the same money I could drive somewhere nice in UK for a weekend break and take my whole family. Or I could buy something we could all enjoy for the house.

Well you could say that about pretty much anything.

Do you want to go to your sister's wedding or not? If you do, then the price is worth it.

If not, then decline the invite politely and move on.

You don't need to make an issue of it. I'm sure they are prepared for people declining considering it's abroad. If you are not that close and aren't bothered, thenn just don't go.

Person_one

mrcow wrote: »

Do you want to go to your sister's wedding or not? If you do, then the price is worth it.

Well, I don't think its that simple!

I'd love to go to my sister's wedding if its happening with an hour's journey of home and only takes 12 hours from start to finish on a Saturday, add in a plane fare and a week's annual leave and its an altogether different prospect.