Weddings Abroad bit Presumptuous

FishHookPockets

I have priced it up using any cockroach free looking hotel in the area and the price is OK if I went alone but with the same money I could drive somewhere nice in UK for a weekend break and take my whole family. Or I could buy something we could all enjoy for the house.

Person_one

FishHookPockets wrote: »

I have priced it up using any cockroach free looking hotel in the area and the price is OK if I went alone but with the same money I could drive somewhere nice in UK for a weekend break and take my whole family. Or I could buy something we could all enjoy for the house.

There's a definite irony about somebody expecting you to spend a fortune watching them make a commitment to each other and becoming a family, and expecting you to leave your own family behind to do so!

thorsoak

I really do not see this as a problem worthy of losing sleep over! Family member has decided to get married abroad - and must realise that not everyone will be able to attend.

You and your family cannot afford to go - therefore decline, gracefully, send a nice present - and LET IT GO!

There is no way that you can expect that they pay for everyone they wish to attend, there is no way that they can expect everyone they wish to attend to afford to - and there is no right or wrong position here.

DKLS

Its just an invite, if you cant make it or cant justify the expense simply don't go.


I was invited to a wedding in Hawaii last year I didn't go to the wedding but attended a Wedding Party which was held for all the people who couldn't go, i.e. nearly everyone and last week I was invited to a stag do in vegas for 10 days! erm no thanks.

duchy

I'm getting married abroad - I don't expect family to attend-Any that make it will be welcomed but I have no expectations . Goes with the territory if you want a destination wedding.

claire16c

On a different note - if you aren't married I hope you've got all the legal protection/wills etc prepared to ensure your children would be ok incase of worst case scenario. Marriage isn't about religion it's a legal contract essentially.

jackieblack

I always thought that the whole point of getting married abroad was that you didn't have all the usual stress and aggro of a whole load of family in attendance :cool:

Pollycat

Person_one wrote: »

There's a definite irony about somebody expecting you to spend a fortune watching them make a commitment to each other and becoming a family, and expecting you to leave your own family behind to do so!

I absolutely love this quote :T and would be pretty tempted to use it if my 'sorry, but I can't go' response to the invitation wasn't accepted without argument.

claire16c

jackieblack wrote: »

I always thought that the whole point of getting married abroad was that you didn't have all the usual stress and aggro of a whole load of family in attendance :cool:

Sometimes it can be.

I got married abroad and although a large amount of the people we asked came, DH has a huge family and frankly it meant we could invite them all but knew most wouldn't come. In the UK they would have all come or we would have offended people by having to cut the guest list down. So it worked like that for us.

Maybe the sister isn't expecting everyone she's inviting to come!

Person_one

jackieblack wrote: »

I always thought that the whole point of getting married abroad was that you didn't have all the usual stress and aggro of a whole load of family in attendance :cool:

It used to be called eloping, now its a 'destination wedding'! :rotfl: