Weddings Abroad bit Presumptuous

victor2

If sister was expecting you to attend, she should have made some provision for it, as she presumably knows your financial status.
Just offer your apologies and say that you'd love to be there but simply can't afford it, even if you were to go without your partner & kids.
She ought to understand that, and may well arrange some sort of celebration when back in the UK for those unable to make the trip.

arbroath_lass

Has she actually presumed you will attend? Or just invited you?

TBH I do think you are being a misery about them getting married - just because it's not for you and your partner. There are lots of reasons to get married. Including being religious.

Given the prices for hotels that some people book for their weddings, here in the UK, it's probably cheaper for them (and their guests) to go abroad.

Talk to your sister and tell her you can't afford it.

Person_one

arbroath_lass wrote: »

Given the prices for hotels that some people book for their weddings, here in the UK, it's probably cheaper for them (and their guests) to go abroad.

That's a bit of a stretch, especially the bolded! :rotfl:

FishHookPockets

Thankyou for the replies. I think it is assumed I will attend and that I will be alone, and have been told to treat it as a holiday (I think her indoors and the kids will love that!)
We were as thick as thieves as kids but she seldom bothers to see her siblings or parents in recent years.
As far as finances go I think I may seem better off than I am as we have some nice things but we trawl ebay, freecycle and gumtree for months looking for what we need. We rarely holiday.

Person_one

It doesn't really matter how well off you are anyway, your sister doesn't get to dictate how you spend your money!

Be strong OP!

arbroath_lass

Person_one wrote: »

That's a bit of a stretch, especially the bolded! :rotfl:

I only meant the ones that book the expensive places! If you add in travelling and an outrageous room price then, yes, you could go abroad for what some guests pay (not all guests).

I didn't mean everybody, promise :rotfl:

Mojisola

FishHookPockets wrote: »

Thankyou for the replies. I think it is assumed I will attend and that I will be alone, and have been told to treat it as a holiday (I think her indoors and the kids will love that!)

We were as thick as thieves as kids but she seldom bothers to see her siblings or parents in recent years.

As far as finances go I think I may seem better off than I am as we have some nice things but we trawl ebay, freecycle and gumtree for months looking for what we need. We rarely holiday.

I know what I would say to her "assumption"!

arbroath_lass

FishHookPockets wrote: »

Thankyou for the replies. I think it is assumed I will attend and that I will be alone, and have been told to treat it as a holiday (I think her indoors and the kids will love that!)

You still don't know though. I think that is just a wee bit of guilt that you can't go making you think it is expected. (I hope it is).

I wouldn't be treating it as a holiday if my family couldn't go.

Please, talk to your sister. I hope you are pleasantly surprised by her attitude.

FishHookPockets

I have no problem with other people getting married. I have attended lots of other weddings in the UK. They have their reasons it's just personally it means very little for us. I realise it probably works out cheaper for some but believe me money is not the concern on their behalf as they are not paying. They just don't want to do it in the UK

Person_one

Why on earth would they feel guilty?