Fallen out of love with my wife

lillie_put

hearing those words HURT An DESTROY people
you are a Coward
I hope your wife is ok it is her An the son you both adopted I feel for
Contempt maybe is the word I would use for you

bendis

@matt_haw: not sure if you're still reading this but I'd like to recommend a book (novel) to you: Silk by Alessandro Baricco. It's a short book, you can read it in several hours.

elaine373

Try talking to her before you sound off about how you don't love her any more, to strangers on the internet. She may be just as fed up as you.

Tancred

Since when do relationships have anything to do with being 'in love'? You are not in love with your mum yet you still love her? Does everything always have to boil down to sex? Being in love is always a temporary thing and it will never last. It's like a drug induced high that mother nature gives you to enable you to find someone to breed with.

heartbreak_star

Tancred wrote: »

Since when do relationships have anything to do with being 'in love'? You are not in love with your mum yet you still love her? Does everything always have to boil down to sex? Being in love is always a temporary thing and it will never last. It's like a drug induced high that mother nature gives you to enable you to find someone to breed with.

I could never remain in a relationship with someone I was not physically attracted to...and that's from someone who doesn't want to "breed".

Emotions will generally deepen over the years, but staying with someone who I didn't even want to snuggle up with? No way.

HBS x

Tancred

heartbreak_star wrote: »

I could never remain in a relationship with someone I was not physically attracted to...and that's from someone who doesn't want to "breed".

Emotions will generally deepen over the years, but staying with someone who I didn't even want to snuggle up with? No way.

HBS x

You've misunderstood what I said. You can still be attracted to someone without being 'in love'.

Cotta

Tancred wrote: »

You've misunderstood what I said. You can still be attracted to someone without being 'in love'.

What is the point in being with someone whom you don't love?

Being in love does not equate to mere physical attraction.

Tancred

Cotta wrote: »

What is the point in being with someone whom you don't love?

Being in love does not equate to mere physical attraction.

I agree entirely with your first statement but being 'in love' is all about attraction. Loving someone is something else altogether - it's about sharing your life and commitment. It's about knowing someone is always there for you.

Cotta

Tancred wrote: »

I agree entirely with your first statement but being 'in love' is all about attraction. Loving someone is something else altogether - it's about sharing your life and commitment. It's about knowing someone is always there for you.

Was your point not that love is not needed in a relationship?

Tancred

Cotta wrote: »

Was your point not that love is not needed in a relationship?

No, I'm trying to differentiate between genuine love and merely being 'in love', which is infatuation.