Fallen out of love with my wife

heartbreak_star

Person_one wrote: »

BINGO!

How many women after 8 years of fertility treatment and then the whole adoption process do you think would be seriously contemplating walking away from husband and child at this point?

Hee! Well played

No, I get the feeling if it was "I don't love my husband anymore" some of the replies might be "well kick him out/take your son and go, and make sure you get your maintenance".

But then again, I'm jaded and in a grouchy mood

HBS x

Errata

The loser in all this isn't the husband or the wife, it's the little boy who thought he was going to live with a mum and dad who loved him and put his needs before their own 'romantic' fantasies.
'Fallen out of love' belongs in a Mills and Boon, not a marriage with all the rough and tumble and striving.

Candy53

OP, incase you're still reading the posts, my question to you is have you 'ever' been in love with your wife?

When you met, were together, then married, did you feel real romantic love for her?

Sometimes, people who say they don't love their partner anymore, haven't felt proper love for them from the beginning. Real love endures.


Candy

DannyBo

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

I think his wife needs to take the decision out of his hands and just tell him to get out. Honestly what woman would want someone who wasnt sure if they loved her? She would be better off by herself than have these head games especially when she got a child to bring up as well.

Candy53 wrote: »

OP, incase you're still reading the posts, my question to you is have you 'ever' been in love with your wife?

When you met, were together, then married, did you feel real romantic love for her?

Sometimes, people who say they don't love their partner anymore, haven't felt proper love for them from the beginning. Real love endures.


Candy

This ^^^^^^^^^^

And grows....

housebuyer2

Person_one wrote: »

BINGO!

How many women after 8 years of fertility treatment and then the whole adoption process do you think would be seriously contemplating walking away from husband and child at this point?

I can't imagine many people (m or f) would consider walking away from a child they adopted only 18 months ago ..... As I already said ANYONE who would consider doing that is unbelievably selfish and cruel - I have absolutely zero respect for this guy (I am also m) - he is scum

claire16c

Has the OP deleted some of their posts?

FBaby

Anyone considering a separation when there are young children involved consider how it would impact them. Some stay just for the children, and in almost most cases, it ends up a disaster anyway. Some go on, and out of this cohort, some become terrible parents, whilst others, away from the stress of the situation, actually do belong better parents.

My mum left my dad when I was two because she didn't love him any longer (and as pointed above, never really did). I can honestly say that I never wished my parents had stayed together. I just couldn't picture them in a happy contented relationship. However, both of them remained good parents and I did feel less loved by them because they were not together.

daisiegg

FBaby wrote: »

However, both of them remained good parents and I did feel less loved by them because they were not together.

Do you mean did not feel less loved by them? Otherwise that is very sad...

Prothet_of_Doom

matt_haw wrote: »

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Heard enough, you've made me see sense, thank you MSE.

I don't LOVE you anymore.

FBaby

daisiegg wrote: »

Do you mean did not feel less loved by them? Otherwise that is very sad...

Oops pre - coffee brain rather than Freudian slip I promise it was meant to be didn't!