OS Singlies - We Do It Our Way!

rosieben

Mrs_Bones wrote: »

... I still like taking photos but now it's in the summer of my garden. In these winter months I hardly do any photography and I think that's something I need to change. I have a weakness for afternoon teas and last summer stared getting the cake stands out of the cupboard and actually putting them to use but again apart from a couple of family gatherings I've not done it in the winter months. There's nothing stopping me treating myself by setting up a little cake stand with sandwiches etc for myself. ...

When I had a garden I used to take photos of every season, particularly of the trees in the hedge, some flowering cherries etc. I always meant to use them in a collage or in some other arty way but haven't come up with the right idea yet.

I love afternoon tea too. I have a pretty tray, 2 lovely teapots to choose from and some old fashioned bone china plates, cups and saucers; it feels quite indulgent to lay the tray nicely, complete with napkin, and enjoy a cuppa and a sweet treat.

boddy

Morning everyone.

Bit of a cold one this morning. Icy out there as well.

My book has arrived and I had a quick whizz through it last night. Looks really good and easy to understand.

My rewards to myself are usually a book and chocolate. Though really trying not to eat chocolate at all. It's hard but I'm using an alternative therapy to see if that works. Also I read if you don't have something for 28 days it makes it easier. We will see.

Winter Phoenix. I had some work done on the outside wall of the kitchen this week. I used the laser gun before it was done and afterwards. There was a 4 degree difference afterwards. Kitchen feels warmer now.

LavenderBees Thinking about old boy cat. Hope he is feeling better.

Think I will get make a cuppa and leap back into bed for a while. I'm at my voluntary job later.

moneyistooshorttomention

BookWorm wrote: »

MoneyIs - well done you for accepting all the new offers and meeting new people. I often have good intentions but then I get worried that I won't be able to find some common ground or that the conversation won't flow. Then because I worry about - often it happens I am going to keep working on it though

"Ask questions"....nowt too intrusive, but that tends to get the ball rolling. That tends to be a motto of mine anyways for getting the ball rolling and in this part of the country it's almost obligatory.... Where I am, even the workmen often ask questions when they come here to do jobs:rotfl:. I'm not one to have much sympathy with people who have made their own problems, but I do sympathise with people who try to "lead their lives tidy" and get problems anyway (jobs/health/bad neighbours). Most people seem to have "something". Everyone has their "cross to bear" and it does seem that nearly everyone has one or more "painful situations" not of their own making there in their life and usually appreciate any genuine sympathy and/or "I've been there too" (if you've also got/had the same "situation") type comments.

CALICO
Fireplace....errrm....found more bodge-jobbing by the builder of the house to rectify:wall::doh:. Hair still being torn out with the house renovation...between original builders' bodge-jobbing and present-day workmen having to be watched to make sure they don't do bodge-jobbing and/or do things differently to what the customer (me) expects.

BookWorm

Morning all

Just whizzing through to say TGIF and hope you all have a good day.
Will catch up properly later on

BW

MummyBobble

Hope all is well with everyone.

Busy weekend ahead with my niece's wedding. After school today we're off up to Kendal, then on to Ambleside for the wedding tomorrow. I'm already starting to stress about the length of time I'll have to spend socialising (arrive for the wedding between 12 and 1, wedding and meal etc, evening reception and breakfast the following morning) because my depression does make it difficult for me to cope with too many people for any length of time. At least we are staying in the hotel where the wedding is so I can always hide in my room if I need to (goodness, I sound like a really miserable, ungrateful old mare!). Trying to focus on the fact that it's a weekend with my children and family :j

For some reason though I've also managed to volunteer to help organise a 5k run to raise fun for DD and DS's high school in the middle of today so I have that to do (probably will involve standing on a wet field for an hour and a half :eek:) as well as trying to organise the three of us for the weekend. I do sometimes think I need to practice the "no" word instead of always jumping up saying "I'll do that"

It's Friday! :beer:

RosiePuddingPaws

springdreams wrote: »

THE book has arrived :j

I shall therefore attempt to tackle my first DIY task covered by the book this coming weekend - the wobbly toilet seat

I've got one of those! Still waiting for my copy to arrive but please let us know how you get on.

My treat when I need a pick-up or achieve something, or just feel like it, is a free kindle book. In an ideal world there will be a bar a chocolate lurking in the cupboard (rare - they seem to evaporate!) and some good music on the Ipod. Add in a cuddling cat (again rare) then all is bliss.

LB Hope the puss is a bit better again this morning and soon able to come back to sleep on your bed.

RPP

LavenderBees

Morning all

I've skipped a page or two as the subject was too upsetting to me, given what is going on here, so apols if I've missed anything important.

The vet has just rung to tell me that pusscat has improved slightly, and is showing a little bit of interest in his food and wants to be cuddled. Yesterday, he wasn't interested in anything, so that is an improvement. However, his temperature is still very high. So, we're still playing the waiting game.

Young-boy-cat is stressed....he's tried to tiddle behind the curtains, but have managed to persuade him the litter tray is best ...so I've doubled his anti anxiety meds, and he will relax and sleep today. Hopefully, we'll have old boy home soon, and that will help restore YBC's equilibrium. It doesn't take much to knock him back these days.

I slept the sleep of the exhausted eventually last night, but was very conscious that life is just not right. I hate waking up on days like this, where it takes a few seconds to understand why that horrible ball of anxiety is tying your tummy in knots, and then the realisation of what is happening to cause that, hits you. Had that far too much last year, and it's continuing into this year, which I knew it would really, but it's still very hard to live with.

Still, to be kind to myself as I can feel I'm struggling, I've taken today off work, and will decide over the weekend as news comes through, what I will do next week. I learned the hard way last year to be kinder and more caring of myself. And not to expect miracles of myself, being a mere human being.

This year is different though, as I have local friends to help support me, as well as Far Flung Friend, and that makes such a huge difference, I can't tell you. :A

Well, I'd better get on with the day, though to be honest, I feel like I'm wandering in a bit of a daze; feel quite disconnected. I need to get a grip! . Maybe another cuppa wil help...

Hope today is good for you all

xx

bugslet

@Pollyanna, good to hear that you are feeling settled and contented after difficult times. It takes a while to make an adjustment even when it's for the right reasons.

melanzana wrote: »

Hi folks.

So.... A few days after the funeral, her VBF who also has two cats also, and loves them to bits said to me, " I have just written a note for x and y her executors, that if I die before the cats, they are to be euthanised." She just could not deal with them being left behind her.

I don't know if anyone agrees with that, and it may be a bit controversial, but I could understand totally. She doesnt have to worry.

What do you all think?

Wrong personally. My hounds would probably be happy with other people. Three are going to one friend and two to another if anything happens. I doubt that it is possible for them to be adored as much as i adore them:o, but they will be loved and walked and taken care of. I think it's better to accept things that you cannot really influence and make the best provision you can for them to continue to have a happy life.

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Being in a new area, I appreciate "friendly faces" and have a policy of being "open to offers" if someone seems decent. Have just come back from having been invited in for coffee by someone I have had a couple of friendly chats with whilst out walking around. I duly accepted and that was a pleasant chat later and am hopeful that that's another "new friend in the making". I guess the point I'm making is I am tending to think these days its worth being open to friendly overtures and these "friendly links" are all part of what helps to make a social network for singlies.

We DO need our social networks more than people who are coupled-up.

Besides no Mr Bugs, I have no family either, so I really rely on friends. I did that even wehn Mr B was alive and it's not always easty to initial contact and to continue a friendship, but it's well worth the effort. I've actually made friends via another forum, both casual and a couple of really close friends. I don't think I'd manage with them.

@mum2one. Your parents are old enough for you to ask them to refrain from making comments on the grounds that it affects your D. As long as you explain it politely, and that it's for her benefit, they should be OK. I get the feeling that they are probably worried for you as well, which is nice, but maybe reassure them at the same time, that it is going no further ever, than friends.

As for your D, she's growing up and again, I see no reason for you not to have a chat along the lines of, now that you are old enough to have a grown up chat, you need to realise that Mum has friends that she has known for a long time and this chap is just a friend, nothing more of a friend than X (mention a girlfriends name). I just think honesty is the best policy. I really don't think it's right for her to be able to affect your choice of friends, not that I'm saying you brush her worries to one side, just that you are the adult here. Good luck.

wilsooon

Morning singlies! Love that term, much nicer than singleton!

LavenderBees, so glad there's a slight improvement with old boy-cat, when they want cuddles and food its a definite plus! Fingers crossed for you both. Just a thought, have you tried feliway for young boy-cat? Anyway, hope he settles today.

Wilson

moneyistooshorttomention

My sympathies LavenderBees and can understand why you and younger cat are both feeling upset re your older cat at the moment. Fingers crossed though that, if he is after cuddles, then that sounds positive.

Errrm...it can take a while for the "penny to drop" sometimes, but can I second CalicoCat's comments asking that we please drop the topic of what happens to cats if anything happens to their owners?

Moving swiftly on to another topic and waiting for the workmen of the day to turn up:( and usual feelings of "Deep Joy....NOT" about that. I am rather coming to the conclusion that one motive for learning DIY myself might be in order to know that jobs will follow through in an orderly fashion of first bit of job, then second bit of job, then third bit, etc all the way through until they are finished.

With workmen it often seems to be the case that they do a bit of a stage, then something else or a bit of a later stage, then another bit of the first stage and its driving me nuts. I want things done straight through in an orderly fashion.

Have already made a comment of "I can see what's happened. I would have done this, then I would have done that...etc etc". Don't think it went down very well:rotfl:

I don't quite understand why workmen do this, when they know the customer can look up how to do any job going these days on the Internet (or books) and know how to do it (even if we aren't capable ourselves).

I can sympathise with a woman I chatted to the other day here who said that they were having a rather large building converted into a house here (many bedrooms touch) and were driven up the wall by the builders doing the "bit of this, then bit of that" approach right across the whole house-to-be, rather than finishing one room, then doing another room and so on. In the end they got so fed-up with the builders' piecemeal non-logical approach still going on many months down the line and an incomplete house that they told them they were just moving in anyway and proceeded to do so:rotfl: