OS Singlies - We Do It Our Way!

Mrs_Bones

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Having gone through the kaftan era, I would just like to be able to find some nice kaftans to wear around at home. Comfortable, but still attractive and presentable in case of visitors.

I just tend to resort to putting on a fleece dressing gown over whatever clothes I have been wearing during the day for lounging round at home (as I can whip that off fast if the doorbell goes), but I get "stuck" if those clothes have been of a more uncomfortable nature (eg skirt and tights or a pair of jeans).

I just haven't really been able to work out just what to wear at home to be comfortable and yet "presentable" in case of a ring at the door whilst I keep hoping somebody somewhere will make some attractive, warm know").

I remember the kaftan era, not seen any now for ages but then not looked for any. Afraid the onesie craze baffles me. I use to dress up for various fairs and I've still got some medieval style gowns in my closet. You don't feel so conspicuous at fairs when others are dressed the same way. I get them out to look at now and again they are very comfy but not sure what any visitors would think if I answered the door dressed in them. :rotfl:

calicocat

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

I saw that house and instantly thought "One for Calico Cat...I think not:rotfl:".

Ditto to hoping The Mogster is soon feeling well again.

Lol............that house is Ken and Barbies..!!

LB how is puss?? Only just come on and doing quick catch up......scrub that, just seen next message. I'll text.

pollyanna24

I’m one of the single mums on here too. Work part time in London which is great for me as it means I get to do both sides of it. Still get to do the school run on Mondays and Fridays, but also get a break from the littlies.

I’m at the stage now where I’m in a place where I don’t think I want anyone right now. I’ve spent the first two years of ex leaving me desperately wanting him back and I was useless in my own company, couldn’t bear staying in the house by myself, very young kids driving me mad etc., but now I’m, for want of a better word, content, although I still don’t think I’m quite there yet.

My life did a complete 180 when he left leaving me with two very small children and I wasn’t really up to looking after them after injuries I got in a car accident. Everything that I had in my head for my future all of a sudden wasn’t going to happen and that certainty throws a spin on things.

But now I can look at things without thinking “oh, it would be so much better if he was there/doing it with me etc.” and can focus on a life for me and my two little girls.

Now I’m grateful that I have my two little ladies as they are getting the ages where I can talk to them and actually have a conversation, although they do still have their moments!

I don’t have to worry about the old biological clock ticking because I’ve been there, done that. More and more I’m thinking that it’s easier being by myself, my money is mine, I can do what I want when I want (within the limits of having two small children of course) and there’s no nagging about a messy house (yep, he was a clean freak!)

I do really need to think about a will etc., but haven’t gotten round to it (oldest excuse in the book I know) and I work for a lawyer… so what am I waiting for?!

I own a house with my brother and we are joint tenants, so if I die, he gets the whole house. Suppose I really do something about either tenants in common or putting a Trust Deed in place so that my kids are looked after financially (not that I have that much equity in the house, but hey ho).

I also don’t have a pension which scares me quite a lot, another thing to sort out. At the moment, me and brother are ploughing as much as we can into the mortgage in order that we can get it paid of in, hopefully, 7 years, when I am 40.

He has recently got into a new relationship which set me in a flap if they get serious, but he has said that he will always want to keep the house as an investment and if he moves out, he doesn’t want to sell it, just when I decide to sell it, we get half the money each.

springdreams

Hope your kitty is on the mend soon LavenderBees.

That is an eye wateringly busy house Bugslet!

RosiePuddingPaws

Hope your cat is soon feeling better LB. It's such a worry when they are not right.

Okay, question for everyone. I'm sorting out my car insurance renewal (and isn't it a pain?). What difference does my marital status really make? I'm talking here where you have to click between separated/single/divorced and they already know you aren't in the first flush of youth. Sometimes they only give the choice of single/married/divorced which is worse since being separated I don't feel able to claim any of them!

Are they thinking that I am more likely to have an accident now that I'm on my own? (Not that I really go anywhere as funds don't allow!). It seems a bit off, particularly since I was the one that usually drove before.

RPP

LavenderBees

RosiePuddingPaws wrote: »

Hope your cat is soon feeling better LB. It's such a worry when they are not right.

Okay, question for everyone. I'm sorting out my car insurance renewal (and isn't it a pain?). What difference does my marital status really make? I'm talking here where you have to click between separated/single/divorced and they already know you aren't in the first flush of youth. Sometimes they only give the choice of single/married/divorced which is worse since being separated I don't feel able to claim any of them!

Are they thinking that I am more likely to have an accident now that I'm on my own? (Not that I really go anywhere as funds don't allow!). It seems a bit off, particularly since I was the one that usually drove before.

RPP

Years ago I worked in the motor insurance industry, and the stats apparently showed that single people (i.e. unmarried) were indeed at greater risk of accidents than married people. However, to counteract that, they did, at the time, take gender and age into account, as well as predicted annual mileage. Unsure what they do now that the EU has interfered in it all.

I woud say though, that whatever you do, answer honestly...if they ask a question answer it truthfully...or it will invalidate your insurance policy.

Quick update on flufster cat - apparently his temp spiked today at over 40 degrees which is horrendous, but it's gradually coming down, thanks to the zillion drugs they have got into him. They will be starting to syringe feed him tiny amounts this evening and hope he keeps it down. I've asked for the night duty nurse to ring me before bedtime as I can't possibly go to bed and not have an update. Either way I won't sleep well without his furryness somewhere beside or on top of me, but an update will help, especially if it is more positive.

It just shows how life turns on a sixpence. But thank goodness I wasn't working away last night, so could act quickly.

Thanks for all your hugs and kind thoughts. They do help, defiinitely.

xx

metherer

Hugs to you LB, and gentle ones to the old boy too.

Our oldest cat is 18, so we're at the point that if anything happens it will end up being terminal. I don't like to think about it because she's been with me since 2001, when I moved into my first home. Hope she's still around to see the move into my next home.

moneyistooshorttomention

Fingers crossed that the Mogster responds well to treatment then.

On that DIY theme, I was googling round and found:

http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2010/jan/18/paint-a-room

Looked like very precise step-by-step instructions to me and I spotted a side column to the right of similar type articles. Time for a browse...

melanzana

Hi folks.

Was just reading about the dilemma of your pets when you pass away.

Well, it struck a chord with me, even though I don't have any animals in the house (except myself!). it's not that I dont like them or owt, it's just that I feel I couldn't give them time. I'm too bleddy selfish I reckon!

Anyhow, back to the Dilemma.... My youngest sister died last Summer, and I am still grieving, and miss her so much. Wonderful girl, all to live for, and so many plans.

On the day she passed away her no 1 cat went missing. Her hubbie found him dead in a garden a few doors up, next morning. Then on the day of her funeral, the mammy of no 1 cat died. It was absolutely awful. They both loved those cats like kids, as they were unable to have any of their own sadly.

So.... A few days after the funeral, her VBF who also has two cats also, and loves them to bits said to me, " I have just written a note for x and y her executors, that if I die before the cats, they are to be euthanised." She just could not deal with them being left behind her.

I don't know if anyone agrees with that, and it may be a bit controversial, but I could understand totally. She doesnt have to worry.

What do you all think?

groatie_queen

Hugs from me too LB, I hope LavenderPuss has a good night.

Work has been quite intense this week, but also enjoyable. Some of my clients are attending a self esteem course at present, which I'm sitting in on, and one of the handouts suggested putting together a list of rewards to refer to when you need a pick-me-up, or when you've achieved a goal.

My clients' rewards were things like getting their hair done, a manicure, a new bike (the client is a keen cyclist), a takeaway.

It struck me that all their rewards involved spending money. It made me wonder what MSE rewards we singlies use for pick-me-ups, small treats and rewards for goals reached/frogs munched? Free or low cost?

One of mine is visiting a heavenly wee loch not far from home with a flask of tea. If it's nice I'll go for a walk, if not it's a picnic in the car. Another is phoning friends. A hot bath. Listening to music.

My biggest reward is usually achieving what I set out to do, really - satisfaction is a great feeling. But we all need wee pick-me-ups from time to time, especially as singlies with no one else at home to cheerlead for us!

I'd love some new ideas, so all contributions welcome!