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elona

I have been havering about looking for a place to live but finally decided to bite the bullet and get a friend to help me negotiate an offer for the chalet bungalow I viewed a few weeks ago.

There are a couple of smaller bungalows around but one is in a noisy location and up a slope so no good in winter. They all need "modernisation" as well. (I recognise the kitchen from one I had installed in 1984 in a previous home).

It still seems strange to be deciding things without DH but I will get used to it. Family are very supportive and are starting to clear the garage for me whenever they stop by.

BookWorm

Evening peeps Just popping in for a few mins to say hi. I'm shattered and won't be long til off to bed.

Mum2one - hope the check up with your Dad went ok. Good news re: all quiet on the ex front

Elona - congrats on picking a new home. Fingers crossed it all goes quickly and smoothly for you

mum2one

BookWorm wrote: »

Evening peeps Just popping in for a few mins to say hi. I'm shattered and won't be long til off to bed.

Mum2one - hope the check up with your Dad went ok. Good news re: all quiet on the ex front

Elona - congrats on picking a new home. Fingers crossed it all goes quickly and smoothly for you

Thank you, touch wood that one went perfect, - next week be a difficult one, got a biospy on Tuesday then consultant on Thurs.

Very pleased with myself - got 2 more xmas presents ticked off the list, finished one friends present with the santuary spa set from Boots (half price deal), another friend - ordered Shea stuff from Body Shop - got 40% off the order.
Hoping to get last bits this week, then I can concentrate on family xx

BookWorm

Good evening all Hope everyone is keeping safe in the storms?

mum2one

Touch wood bar rough wind were ok, thou was due to go up north wales 2day.

Xx

JustKeepSwimming_2

mum2one wrote: »

Thank you, touch wood that one went perfect, - next week be a difficult one, got a biospy on Tuesday then consultant on Thurs....

Hope all goes well Mum2one. Regarding your DD & family issues - obviously you know your DD best, but I will say that once some information has been revealed to her, it can't ever then be put back into the unknown pile. You can always try to explain your reasons for not telling her something difficult & as she matures hopefully she'll agree that you kept that info from her with the best of intentions, even if she feels you should have told her before IYSWIM.

Depending on what you may say about your time with her father, it may also cloud her relationship with you. For many years as a teenager I couldn't understand why my mother had put up with such appalling treatment from my father for such a long time - why hadn't she just left him if it has truly been as awful as she said (to me at 14)? I wondered why she was so weak, or what was so hard about being a single Mum that she felt she couldn't do it (oh, the irony :rotfl:) or even if she'd told me the truth about my dad's behaviour (surely nobody in their right mind would put up with it?).

If she'd told me when I was more mature & able to understand more about domestic violence/living with an alcoholic etc. I'd like to think I'd have been a lot more understanding.... Isn't hindsight wonderful?

Hope you're on the mend BW? Our area seems to have been hit with a D&V virus - lots of kids are off school & my neighbour has had it, so I've been running errands for him as he doesn't have family nearby. Hoping I won't go down with it either.

I have another funny story to tell, concerning my ex-friend. I have seen her around a few times since she dumped me as a friend - isn't that always the way; seeing someone whom you'd really rather not see everywhere . But each time had been fine; she'd tooted her horn & waved while driving past me, she'd yelled a hello as she was getting onto the train I was getting off, so I thought we would be fine as acquaintances.

Last weekend I met her husband in the library as we were both collecting kids from the monthly bookclub, so I said hello as I went in to return a few books. He grabbed my arm & told me he wanted a word, then gave me a humiliating dressing down in front of everyone there, adults & children . It seemed to go on for hours although it was probably only minutes & the take home messages were "Who the F did I think I was giving his wife a hard time?" & "Why would I think his beautiful, talented, gorgeous wife would ever want to hang about with a stupid, fat loser like me? She was just being kind, as that's her way".

Those were his exact words - they are now seared into my memory for eternity.

It was utterly demoralising - more so as nobody, not even the library staff, said anything to stop his tirade even when he was swearing. I'm just thankful that DS didn't hear it, & that he bought my excuse that my contact lenses were playing up & that's why my eyes were watering. Thank goodness for the self-absorbedness of teens

His wife sent me text to apologise on his behalf the next day - apparently he's under a lot of stress at work & exhausted. Oh, the poor lamb, that's fine then :rotfl:

I'm not planning on doing anything about this - I shall just ignore both of them if I see them out. It has rocked my already low level of confidence though, & I didn't think it could get much lower. It has certainly put me off going out anywhere, not that I'm awash with invitations, but now I think I'll retire gracefully from the world & stay in, alone, for the rest of my life. Obviously I'll still go out with my kids, & I'll still have to go to work but that'll be it.

I don't think I can take any more criticism for just being me.

Hope all of you are OK in this dreadful weather - fingers crossed for all of you further north than me.

elona

JKS

He is damn lucky the library staff did not call the police for abusive behaviour.

You are well rid of the couple of charmless losers.

You are worth a hundred of the gits - sorry to be blunt.

I am so cross on your behalf.

elona

If he grabbed your arm and started being abusive and swearing then surely that is a breach of the peace.

No wonder she is apologising for him - she is petrified his behaviour will land him in well deserved trouble.

You are so much better than this rabble!!

You are obviously not stupid, you are kind and thoughtful and if you do need or want to lose some weight, then that is up to you. Nothing will make those so called friends intelligent. sensitive, kind, thoughtful - or even decent!!!

greenbee

Well said Elona.

3forholidays

JKS I'm shocked to read about the incident with the ex-friend's husband. His behaviour was disgusting and swearing in front of children is horrendous - I'm not surprised that your confidence has gone south. :mad: