OS Singlies - We Do It Our Way!

mum2one

not the best of dads, took dad to see Oncologist - they were concerned he could be anemic and need a blood transfusion (no panic - been down this road 3 times when he was having chemo), they took bloods to use as a marker...

Mid afternoon - phonecall he needs to get to hospital asap, his blood counts are through the floor.... could be internal bleeding, blood clots, dont know, they found a heart murmer, had to get DD out of school, (they were ok) - took him up, apparently quicker than getting an ambulance.

Stayed with him for 3 hrs, - he had bloods done, check up, ecg, saw a consultant, then oncology nurse and doctor - they dont know what really is happening..

He's on a medical trial, they dont know whether he is on the placebo or the real, we dont know - there having to dig into the system and find out.... There also trying to fast track his mri results from last week

He rang about 10.30pm they had just found him a bed... no news on his blood transfusion

It could be as simple as he has blood thinning jab, transfusion then gets referred to outpatients... view to camera and more blood transfusions

worst case scenerio, blood clots, internal bleeding, cancer returned...

Its left to me to be the strong one again, I've got mum breaking down on and off, DD quiet, so I know shes worried sick as her and dad are 2 peas in a pod, dog is missing him...

We managed ok when he was in hospital last yr for a month, and that 150 mile round trip, think we can manage the local hospital xx

JustKeepSwimming_2

Quick hug to you Mum2one - sorry got to rush out now to work, but will pop back later. x

vodkawitch1

mum2one - hope its not to serious - Hugs

LavenderBees

JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

As for my friend's book; I'll have to drop it round as its her book :rotfl: but I shall ask her what she was playing at.

NO you don't HAVE to do anything at all or you could simply post it to her or you could do as you suggest.


I am concerned though that you could put a load of effort in, have a confrontation and come away feeling worse than ever.


You CHOOSE, YOUR choice. The world wouldn't end if she never got her book back!


But it is, of course, up to you how you handle this woman. I wish you luck whatever you do.


Welcome to the Newbie - sorry, I don't have any dating advice worth giving! But maybe move the conversation by asking what she is planning to do that day, if she had the ideal day what would it be, that kind of thing. It doesn't have to be heavy, in fact, best to keep it light. Also, maybe mention something to her about what you are up to today. It's the little things like what you like for dinner, that build up over time. But take your time, and good luck with that, too!


Mum2One - sorry to hear the news about your Dad. Fingers crossed it is better news than it might be, and good luck with the hospital toing and froing. It's a toughie, too.


LB xx

greenbee

LavenderBees wrote: »

NO you don't HAVE to do anything at all or you could simply post it to her or you could do as you suggest.


I am concerned though that you could put a load of effort in, have a confrontation and come away feeling worse than ever.


You CHOOSE, YOUR choice. The world wouldn't end if she never got her book back!


But it is, of course, up to you how you handle this woman. I wish you luck whatever you do.

Agreed. After all, if she wants her book back she can get in touch and ask for it... and maybe explain exactly why she couldn't make it last time

JKS - I know sometimes it is hard when you have few friends to give up the acquaintances you have, but she doesn't deserve you. As for work, next time the comments about being single start, tell them to stop - ask them to think about how they might be making you feel. And perhaps make a point about workplace bullying, because that's what it looks like to me. I know it's easy to tell funny stories and get people to laugh about the things that happen to you, but that's no reason for them not to accept you for who you are.

I found it very hard to cut myself off from toxic friends, but I've done it. There are a few who I still have occasional contact with, but who are now firmly in the 'acquaintances' category. Similarly I tend to keep work colleagues in the 'colleagues' category and don't socialise with them much - although in a number of cases we've become friends or at least socialised as acquaintances after I've moved on to another job.

Boundaries need to be clear, and when behaviours and comments are unacceptable you need to call them on it.

I forget how old your kids are, but are there any activities they do that parents go to, and where you could build a circle of acquaintances (even if all you have in common is that your kids have similar interests).

BookWorm

Just popped in to say... Happy Birthday LB! xx
:bdaycake:
:beer:

BookWorm

Mum2one - sorry to hear there are more hospital trips for you. Fingers crossed you get some good news from your Dad's tests x

It's blowing an absolute gale outside...not seen it this bad for a long time. Keep safe everyone!

springdreams

Happy birthday LavenderBees :bdaycake:

mum2one

:bdaycake::bdaycake::bdaycake:

happy Birthday LB, apologies for late entry...

A bit of good news, went to see dad 2ngt, looks a lot better, he's had 2 blood transfusions, they were pleased with his blood results this morning, but they want to see how they hold up overnight, - if ok - let him home refer him as an outpatient, - if dropped - camera down throat - there be looking for internal bleeding.

DD took it ok this time, think more from she was involved with him going into hospital (not like last time) opefully onwards and upwards xx

dekaspace

When is something being paranoid and something being possibly right im confused.

That girl I am texting may go days or more without texing me, then one day text me a few times and have a short conversation then she goes quiet so I am not sure if I offended her or shes texting when shes low and needs perking up and times when she doesnt respond maybe a few hours later I will send another text, then about 2 or 3 days later I will text her and ask how shes getting on and she will reply "oh I thought I responded to your last message, sorry im fine" or along those lines.

I know her mum died about 12 years ago and we had a good text chat then I mentioned christmas was soon and I was staying at my parents which I have done every year since I was a child.

She never responded back.