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ellie99

BookWorm wrote: »

Do you think the man in the cupboard can cook?

:rotfl:

The imaginary man in the cupboard can do anything we want him to do.... such a pity he's imaginary :rotfl:

BookWorm

ellie99 wrote: »

:rotfl:

The imaginary man in the cupboard can do anything we want him to do.... such a pity he's imaginary :rotfl:

hmmm now there is a thought....... !:rotfl:

JustKeepSwimming_2

ellie99 wrote: »

JKS I'm not surprised you feel like you're banging your head against a brick wall, you must feel as if you have to do everything by yourself.
Things which seem so obvious to us just don't seem to penetrate their heads sometimes, do they?

Good luck tonight, ignore the ex, he doesn't have to do all the day to day stuff. Have you ever tried telling him that you are happy to discuss arrangements for the children, but you're not going to listen to his opinions of yourself? If you cut him off often enough he might get the message? Then again it might make him even more awkward!

Ex is never wrong though, so why wouldn't I want the benefit of his superior knowledge about all things

Thankfully the timings worked out so that I could do the few appointments DS made early (including sneaking in with 2 teachers that he didn't want to see) before ex could come, & then he covered the final appointment. I didn't have to see him at all :beer: just talk on the phone.

There weren't too many surprises - DS doesn't like writing anything down & sitting down & concentrating for more than a nanosecond, but he's getting on OK with the listening & talking part. Hes behaving well, just not very organised with books & getting homework in on time.

DD however has an extra parent's evening on Wed (which I found out about yesterday so has scuppered my plans for going out ) as she's doing so badly. She's supposed to make appointments with 4 teachers but she's away on a school trip today & not back til the day of the evening so I'm not sure how that'll wok out - oh wait, I'll need to do it all. Of course :rotfl: So yes, Ellie, I do feel like I have to absolutely everything all of the time....

I'm a bit annoyed with school about the last minute-ness of it all - the last appointment slot is 5.45 so I feel for all those working parents who are going to have to try & leave work early at such short notice. Unfortunately ex can make this meeting

As for not allowing him to pontificate about things that don't concern him - well, as much as I often don't agree with what he says, I do believe that he genuinely thinks hes saying the right thing, & only rarely does he say something downright unpleasant for the sake of being unpleasant. He really does think I'm a rubbish mother on many levels (I expect hes right on some points) so I think I'd be matching him for arrogance if I refused to listen.

Unfortunately he knows about my dysfunctional family & past, so he's probably got a point that I don't have experience of normal family life, whatever that is, & what I've experienced does colour almost every aspect of life. I think he does genuinely want to make life better for all of us (as long as his happiness comes first :rotfl:) so I listen - just wish he'd do me the same courtesy.

CRANKY40 wrote: »

I'm indoors too. Just sitting here thinking I am fed up of being head chef. I am fed up of food. Fed up shopping for it, trying to figure out what to cook etc and the boy doesn't like much anyway. To top it off my official allergy tests have been done. I am allergic to eggs (I love poached eggs, sob), chicken, mushrooms (love those too) and tomatoes. I need someone to invent a pill that you have instead of eating that gives you all the nutrients and stops you feeling hungry.

Sorry you've had a bad day BookWorm.

Cranky - that's rubbish news about your allergies. I adore mushrooms too & wouldn't want to cut them out, although I suppose I'd just have to get on with the new diet. I have seen a friend transformed by cutting out wheat & oats, yeast (she had to give up wine :eek:) & something else that I can't remember. She was very strict with herself & after about 5 months she's lost at least 2 stone, her skin tone & nails had changed, she lost the dark circles under her eyes & she said she's never felt better. There is no way she'll go back to her old ways, although now she can tolerate the odd glass of wine, or have normal bread with a meal out & not suffer.

Hopefully you'll see a similar improvement, & if you do it would be easier to keep on the restricted diet. She did literally change before my eyes; it was amazing to see.

ellie99 wrote: »

...I hate being head chef, it's *every* single* day* ...they want to eat every day :rotfl:

Kids are just so unreasonable like that, aren't they I do catch myself thinking the same thing, & wondering why we can't all just have a day off from eating. then my tummy grumbles

I would love it if I didn't have to feed people every day

Me too. I'd rather do more cleaning chores than anything food related.

I forced myself to go out on Wed & had a great evening at a bookgroup (nope, I hadn't read the book. Again.). There was much discussion about books v films, & general chat & even though I only knew 1 of the 6 really well, it was a fun evening. It does make such a difference to go out & socialise, even if my life doesn't "work" as well as most of the others, & I must make more of an effort to go out. I'm even optimistic that I can read the next book....

The house was still standing when I got home too :rotfl: Kids were in bed but not asleep, & I couldn't see any evidence of feasts or fights.

LB - you've been quiet lately. How's it all going?

BW - I wish you a stress free time at work!

Hugs to all that need them & lets all hope for a fabulous long weekend.

Byatt

Oh gosh JKS, you're a better woman than I am. Even after 10 years, if my ex said anything about my parenting skills, I'd annihilate him. I mean, he does say stuff to my DD, but I just wouldn't have the patience if he said it directly to me, well intentioned or not...

I don't know your history but if my ex had been on par with Mother Theresa, after he left and what he did, would negate all that! But then I do bear a grudge for ever...

I am :mad: on your behalf. How dare he say you are a rubbish mother, on whatever level. None of us are perfect, I bear a lot of guilt for mistakes I made...hindsight however is always 20:20. Just based on your posts here, you come over as a loving, caring mum, doing what you can whilst working and juggling life. I'm guessing he's never had to do that. We can only do our best, and sometimes that may not be to the standard of others, but no one can walk in our shoes.

Cranky, sorry about your allergies...can you say a bit more about the allergy with chicken? I can understand the mushrooms...

BookWorm

Afternoon all - I've had the afternoon off work Couldn't resist popping in to say hi

I might also have detoured via a well known fast food place on the way home too but it sure was tasty :cool:

JKS - the bookgroup sounds like fun. How did you find out about it? I've often wondered if I would enjoy one...

springdreams

No idea where LB is hiding, but ...

The alphabet thread need an L !!

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/5223038

JustKeepSwimming_2

Byatt wrote: »

Oh gosh JKS, you're a better woman than I am. Even after 10 years, if my ex said anything about my parenting skills, I'd annihilate him. I mean, he does say stuff to my DD, but I just wouldn't have the patience if he said it directly to me, well intentioned or not...

I don't know your history but if my ex had been on par with Mother Theresa, after he left and what he did, would negate all that! But then I do bear a grudge for ever...

I am :mad: on your behalf. How dare he say you are a rubbish mother, on whatever level. None of us are perfect, I bear a lot of guilt for mistakes I made...hindsight however is always 20:20. Just based on your posts here, you come over as a loving, caring mum, doing what you can whilst working and juggling life. I'm guessing he's never had to do that. We can only do our best, and sometimes that may not be to the standard of others, but no one can walk in our shoes.

Cranky, sorry about your allergies...can you say a bit more about the allergy with chicken? I can understand the mushrooms...

Thanks Byatt - I'll take some praise!

A lot of the time I can shrug off his always knowing best-ness, but sometimes it does get me down (just in case all of you on here haven't gathered that by now ). He wasn't around very much since he was always away with work, or then having a holiday without us as he worked really hard & deserved a break (need a roll eyes smilie), so no, he's clueless.

His current wife once said to me that he really didn't think about DD & DS as he should do. She said that when they'd split up for a while, yet a few weeks later they we're back together & planned a family soon after :wall: At least she's gone into it all with her eyes wide open.....

Parenting is just so f'in difficult sometimes. (But don't let it put you off fostering LB!).

BookWorm wrote: »

Afternoon all - I've had the afternoon off work Couldn't resist popping in to say hi

I might also have detoured via a well known fast food place on the way home too but it sure was tasty :cool:

JKS - the bookgroup sounds like fun. How did you find out about it? I've often wondered if I would enjoy one...

I was introduced to it by a friend who'd be going to it - originally I think it was started by a few of the mothers at her DD's primary school. But its evolved through the years as friends of friends have appeared, & other members moved on. We average about 8 per meeting, although sometimes it can be as many as 15.

Work friends are in other groups - one goes to the local village book group, & another goes to one run by our local Waterstones. She gets to wander around the shop when its closed & just look at books - bliss. Our library has a group, but that meets in the day.

It is good fun - we did think about starting a work bookgroup, but some of us feel that we see enough of certain work colleagues :rotfl: Plus you can never mither about work.

I like going & hope to go more regularly now DD & DS are older, even if I rarely have time to read the books. We're not strict, luckily for me, but I was in one group many years ago where two of the alpha-mums used to bring a pile of notes about each book :rotfl: It was all a bit too competitive for me.

So glad its Friday :j DD went on a school trip & isn't back til Tuesday, & DS has just gone to youth club & is staying with his friend until his mum drops him back home to me later. The house is still & quiet, & I'm not missing either of them. I'm celebrating with a glass of wine & watching rubbish TV.

See, I am a bad mother

No idea what DS & I will do for the rest of the w/e - he can choose something, so I expect we'll end up in a toyshop for a few hours while he looks at everything.

What are you all doing?

CRANKY40

Byatt wrote: »

Cranky, sorry about your allergies...can you say a bit more about the allergy with chicken? I can understand the mushrooms...

Willingly but sorry if it bores the rest of you. At 8 I had skin pr i c k tests for allergies as I was sneezing and wheezing. Allergies identified at that point where cats, dogs, horses, house dust mites and feathers. Everything rolled along fairly steadily apart from colds which set off asthma attacks too until I was pregnant aged 37. I had a massive allergic reaction to my baby son while he was inside me. I was on steroids from 20 weeks to try and suppress some of the reaction which was an itchy rash from my neck down. The rash was very bad at night as the dermatologist told me that is when the hormone cycle reaches it's peak. After the baby I was unable to have the 3 monthly contraceptive injection as it made me feel nauseous, faint and caused huge pink itchy bumps to appear on my legs.

Two and a half years ago I started following slimming world. I've always had a bit of a problem with eggs in that they may me feel a bit queasy about half an hour after eating them and that feeling lasts a while so eggs seemed like the ideal diet breakfast. If I felt a bit queasy it would put me off eating until lunch time. The rash started almost straight away. Large red itchy patches across my back and down my legs. The doctor tried various potions and lotions until we found one that calmed it down as I couldn't figure out the cause. There were no tests done as I wasn't having breathing problems. One day about a year ago I licked a spoon with raw cake mix on. The reaction was fast and very itchy. I had a circle of hives appear right round my middle. I started to suspect eggs, so I cut them out. The trouble was I had the same reaction if I ate chicken. The tomato give away was Asda cheese pizza. There's nothing on it but tomato puree and cheese but the reaction was every bit as bad as the eggs. Tomatoes were added to the list of suspects.

Just before Christmas I reacted badly to a chinese takeaway. My breathing was affected and I needed steroids. My doctor was new as we'd moved house and he kindly agreed to blood tests. I would rather have had the skin ones again, but you take what you can get. I had to list possible suspects so gave onion, tomatoes, mushrooms, chicken, eggs and rapeseed oil. The mushrooms gave the highest reading, followed by tomatoes then the eggs and chicken. The chicken one is unusual apparently. All cause the itchy rash which looks like hives. It's a red itchy rash on my body which fades to purple then appears as another patch somewhere else if I continue to eat the trigger food. On my lower arms I get bright red spots like dots from a red felt tip pen. There could be other allergies but only the ones that I were requested were tested, sigh.

The doctor has tried two different very strong anti-histamines but they don't really help if I eat the trigger food and they were making me want a nana nap about 2pm so I'm back to the one a day from Asda tablets. I can take 3 a day if I need them.

CRANKY40

Enjoy the peace and quiet JKS. Even if you have one child left at least that one has nobody to squabble with ha ha!

ellie99

CRANKY40, what a nightmare! The body certainly is a complex thing, isn't it?

JKS, enjoy the weekend with DS. It's nice to spend some one to one time with just one child at a time.


I swear I've shrunk...in the height department, not in tummy measurement, more's the pity :rotfl:
I had a bath, and if I'd put my feet fully to the end of the bath I'm sure I would have drowned...usually my head stays out of the water when I'm lying back. Can you shrink in less than a week? :rotfl:

Does anyone else still lock the bathroom door even when they're alone in the house?