OS Singlies - We Do It Our Way!

RosiePuddingPaws

Well done MummyBobble. Who will you call next?!

I need to ring to threaten to change my phone/broadband supplier. Hopefully they will make me an offer I can't refuse! Should have done it several weeks ago when the exchange was upgraded but haven't got round to it yet.

Not having too good a day here. My washing machine decided to die this morning. It is only about 4 years old but ... This is when I hate not having a useful man in the house. I can't afford a new one this month really (or next come to that as I need to get a tank of oil), but it is the sort of thing you can't do without (well, not when you live in the country with no launderette nearby). It is also a built in one so suitable replacements are much dearer than they really ought to be.

Get well soon Calico.

Anne_Marie_2

JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

Not caught up for a while as I've been stupidly busy at work, & was planning for a lovely w/e away but its been cancelled because I'm single :mad:

Yes fellow singlies, I have been blatantly discriminated against but I don't think there is anything I can do but pour myself a glass of red & mop up my tears :rotfl:

I booked a twin room for 2 nights (this Friday & Saturday) months ago through an online general booking system (so not direct with the B&B). I didn't have to pay anything until I got there, but if I didn't show or cancelled with less than 48 hours notice I'd be charged for 1 night. I was told I'd have to pay a single supplement for the room, so it worked out to be £60/night; £40 for me + breakfast & £20 ss. Not happy, but not much choice.

Got an email from the broker late Tuesday which I didn't pick up til breakfast on Wednesday - saying the booking had been cancelled by the B&B due to overbooking. Couldn't get through to the broker so I rang the B&B to check only to be told they'd cancelled my booking as I was a single traveler as they had a couple (bet they're smug marrieds ) who wanted to book instead & they'd make more money out of them than me.

So how carp do I feel now? My precious w/e is ruined by a B&B owner who thinks I'm a freak by being a single traveler :mad:. He even said he thought it was odd to have a woman traveling on her own. It it was because he had concerns for my safety he should thank his lucky stars that we were only on the phone - if I'd been there I'd have whacked him into the middle of next month.

I'd been telling work friends about my planned trip, so had to explain why I wasn't now going so I decided to tell the truth one lunchtime. That then turned into a discussion by some about how odd it was that I still don't have a partner, & aren't I a bit sad for always having to go to places on my own. The underlying thread that there must be something seriously wrong with me.....

I'm really not looking forward to going back to work on Monday, & having to listen to all the others go on about their visits with families/partners etc.

Sorry to put a downer on this thread - I'm off to have a glass of red & chill, & I'll be back later to catch up. Hope all are having a better w/e than me.

Am so sorry that you have been treated this way. Give a review on Trip Advisor as to what's happened to you (and any other review sites that you can think of).
As for people thinking that you are odd not having a partner...they are insecure without one, which is not your problem. All the best.

LavenderBees

JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

Not caught up for a while as I've been stupidly busy at work, & was planning for a lovely w/e away but its been cancelled because I'm single :mad:

Yes fellow singlies, I have been blatantly discriminated against but I don't think there is anything I can do but pour myself a glass of red & mop up my tears :rotfl:

I booked a twin room for 2 nights (this Friday & Saturday) months ago through an online general booking system (so not direct with the B&B). I didn't have to pay anything until I got there, but if I didn't show or cancelled with less than 48 hours notice I'd be charged for 1 night. I was told I'd have to pay a single supplement for the room, so it worked out to be £60/night; £40 for me + breakfast & £20 ss. Not happy, but not much choice.

Got an email from the broker late Tuesday which I didn't pick up til breakfast on Wednesday - saying the booking had been cancelled by the B&B due to overbooking. Couldn't get through to the broker so I rang the B&B to check only to be told they'd cancelled my booking as I was a single traveler as they had a couple (bet they're smug marrieds ) who wanted to book instead & they'd make more money out of them than me.

So how carp do I feel now? My precious w/e is ruined by a B&B owner who thinks I'm a freak by being a single traveler :mad:. He even said he thought it was odd to have a woman traveling on her own. It it was because he had concerns for my safety he should thank his lucky stars that we were only on the phone - if I'd been there I'd have whacked him into the middle of next month.

I'd been telling work friends about my planned trip, so had to explain why I wasn't now going so I decided to tell the truth one lunchtime. That then turned into a discussion by some about how odd it was that I still don't have a partner, & aren't I a bit sad for always having to go to places on my own. The underlying thread that there must be something seriously wrong with me.....

I'm really not looking forward to going back to work on Monday, & having to listen to all the others go on about their visits with families/partners etc.

Sorry to put a downer on this thread - I'm off to have a glass of red & chill, & I'll be back later to catch up. Hope all are having a better w/e than me.

I read this holding my breath Not only a dishonourable B&B owner, but also your patronising work colleagues. Gawd, I want to give you a big hug :mad:

I am almost literally speechless at the unfairness of this. It is so depressing to be faced with this kind of discrimination.

Definitely get a review out, plaster it on Facebook/Twitter anything else. It may not affect how a couple looks at life, but I bet there are a few million singlies out there to reach. Unfortunately, Singlie-ism is rife, and it's unlikely to change while society sees couples as the "norm"

Compare that with the hotel I've just been to in Crete that actively encourages singles to them, was looked after so well, had great company, laughed from dawn to...er...dawn, and never once felt weird for being single all these years. That's the way it SHOULD be, so why does this feel like a refreshing change? THIS should be the norm.

:mad:

And breathe...

panika

Hi all,

I think cancellation because being single is disgusting. I would definitely write on it on tripadvisor (there are many members traveling single and it is popular website so it is good to warn people).

Don't be too upset about it. Plan something nice for on Sunday (shopping trip to the nearest city, are there any parks, lakes, attractions near you).

Last weekend I went to the local country park. Although it is place for family trips I totally enjoyed it (hiking, eating blackberries, lying on the green grass for over an hour, overlooking castle, bay, watching flying eagles, other birds, dragon flies, starring at the blue sky).
I hope you going to be ok.

ellie99

Wow JKS, I'm so mad on your behalf :mad: I'm mad mad mad :mad:

I know B&Bs are private houses and the owners can choose who they rent rooms to, but that is seriously morally wrong to cancel your booking, really bad business practice. And money-grabbing...you were already paying a single supplement so he wasn't losing out on that much.

Be grateful you aren't lining his greedy pockets

Don't let it put you off though, there are good owners out there, I stayed several times on my own with a lovely B&B owner.
Your guy is seriously behind the times if he thinks women don't travel on their own.

Reviewing on Trip Advisor is a great idea, if you can post a review without actually staying there?
I'd also email the brokers you used to tell them the real reason your booking was cancelled.

I'm also tempted to say you should name and shame on here?

And as for your colleagues...well, words fail me...they must have a very narrow view of life if they think there's something wrong with people who aren't coupled up. And very rude as well to say so.

Chin up, and don't be afraid to try again when you have free time.
I found phoning the owner direct and explaining what I wanted worked well. Or find a B&B with a single room, they can't squeeze 2 people in that!

moneyistooshorttomention

JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

Not caught up for a while as I've been stupidly busy at work, & was planning for a lovely w/e away but its been cancelled because I'm single :mad:

Yes fellow singlies, I have been blatantly discriminated against but I don't think there is anything I can do but pour myself a glass of red & mop up my tears :rotfl:

I booked a twin room for 2 nights (this Friday & Saturday) months ago through an online general booking system (so not direct with the B&B). I didn't have to pay anything until I got there, but if I didn't show or cancelled with less than 48 hours notice I'd be charged for 1 night. I was told I'd have to pay a single supplement for the room, so it worked out to be £60/night; £40 for me + breakfast & £20 ss. Not happy, but not much choice.

Got an email from the broker late Tuesday which I didn't pick up til breakfast on Wednesday - saying the booking had been cancelled by the B&B due to overbooking. Couldn't get through to the broker so I rang the B&B to check only to be told they'd cancelled my booking as I was a single traveler as they had a couple (bet they're smug marrieds ) who wanted to book instead & they'd make more money out of them than me.

What seriously weird/unsympathetic comments from your colleagues!:mad:

You are perfectly entitled to come on here for a dose of well-justified sympathy and you certainly have mine.

I would be livid in your position.

In your position in fact, I would have thought this place had a contract with you that they would be unable to break except for a very valid reason (eg their place burning down, so they physically couldn't fulfil it).

I would have thought that the obligation to pay up a proportion in the event of cancellation would run both ways. If they can make you pay, then surely you can make them pay in reverse?

What you can do is:

- check out sites like TripAdvisor and the like and give them an appropriate review on there

- write a letter to any association they belong to, explaining exactly what has happened and querying their membership (have they got any "stars"? Is it 2-star, 3-star, etc?). Surely quality of service plays a part in deciding what stars a place should be awarded.

Personally, I'd take it as my moral obligation to warn other singlies officially that this might happen to them too and let them know this establishment functions that way.

EDIT: Maybe a letter to the local newspaper for the area, in which you explain how much you had been looking forward to visiting the area, but cant now because of........

Byatt

JKS, dodgy hugs. Are these people stupid or what?! There are loads of singlies...and how do they get away with this kind of discrimination?!

sounds a grim place to be honest with that kind of attitude. I wish I could invite you here, but only one room, and no room to swing a cat...:eek: (don't tell Polo puss)

Trip advisor seems to be a good idea. (edit: yes name and shame them )

As for people in work :mad:...

RPP, sorry about your washing machine

dibuzz

JKS I agree to naming and shaming, that's a disgusting way to do business.

ellie99

Also meant to say...remember the well publicized court case where B&B owners refused to accept a gay couple?

Pity you can't prove singlie discrimination!

Horace

Hi gang

JKS you need to shame the B&B on Tripadvisor (you don't actually have stayed at a place to make give a review). It is a good idea to contact the local press too - name and shame the ignorant swine. Your work colleagues need a kick up the proverbial too - how dare they make comments about you being single, they are the weird ones who have to rely on another person constantly.

I have had a brilliant day - it was quite cheap too and I only spent £1.90. I walked to the carnival field - getting a little lost on the way because I wandered down a path thinking that it would cut the corner (it did but I ended up somewhere I wasn't expecting and not where I wanted to be). I got there in time to help set up and spent my time on the hoopla stall. I managed to go on the history walk too - I learnt so much about the ancient manor house (no longer there but the moat is) and that if a householder wanted to have crenelations on the walls then he had to ask the king for permission and pay a fee.

£1 was spent on a strip of raffle tickets and 90p for a cup of tea and two slices of cake, I was given a free lunch too in the form of a hot dog (alas they had run out of onions). I helped pack up and left the site at 6pm getting home at 6.30pm. I met some great people, did a little flirting, did some chatting. I also made some discoveries - an Appalachian Dance Troupe that practice in the church hall about a mile and a half up the road from me, I connected with the band that played (they were good and they played songs I recognised).

Bumped into the local councillor and his wife, he and I had a chat on the history walk - his wife just cut me dead (usually she is all over me like a rash), I don't trust either of them and last year they caused a lot of trouble for the Friends group by interfering and generally stirring - I put a stop to it by contacting the complaints about councillors section of the council and although I did not go as far as making a formal complaint, the councillor was actually spoken to and told to wind his neck in.:D