OS Singlies - We Do It Our Way!

ellie99

Byatt wrote: »

All us singlies need to band together and inundate him with bookings which we then all cancel.

Love it Byatt :-)

JKS, I think you should give the name of the place on here, and then if anyone uses a search engine to look for it, it might show up and they can read how he treats people.

(But right now I think you should pamper yourself for the rest of the day!)

Right, off to cook something...that's a downside to living alone, there's never anyone to cook me a meal. (though why I think that's different for lots of married people I don't know, my DH never cooked meals either lol)

3forholidays

JKS What a charmer!!

Regarding Christmas parties - we have a works one which is good if you are single as no partners or OH's come along. It's a reasonably inexpensive one at the cost of £3 to £5 for the ticket (to cover hall hire and some nibbles/first drink) and being a BYOB it's great for me who only has soft drinks as hotel/bar prices for soft drinks are frighteningly high.

calicocat

Shaking hands MTSTM.....lol.....


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......and Byatt.......you are SO on my page with this...lol. lots of bookings would be a fab idea..!!!......does he have a function room.....i'm thinking an unofficial MSE meeting.....a birthday......or masonic do they always spend loads on booze......lol.

Years ago a friend of mine on some dating thing was to be meeting this bloke in a pub car park to then go on for a meal and drinks. It was years ago and no photos had been exchanged. Anyhow, he pulls up in car park, clocks her, drives round taking another look, then sped off out the car park into the distance...!!!!.....lol.

A few weeks later we played a game on him and we arranged he would be meeting me. I let him get there first, drove past his car, waved, pointed to where I was going to park, he got out of his car, and turned mine around and drove on past waving.....lol. My mate then got up from back seat and waved too.....right laugh.

Will do more catch-up later.

3forholidays

calicocat wrote: »

Years ago a friend of mine on some dating thing was to be meeting this bloke in a pub car park to then go on for a meal and drinks. It was years ago and no photos had been exchanged. Anyhow, he pulls up in car park, clocks her, drives round taking another look, then sped off out the car park into the distance...!!!!.....lol.

A few weeks later we played a game on him and we arranged he would be meeting me. I let him get there first, drove past his car, waved, pointed to where I was going to park, he got out of his car, and turned mine around and drove on past waving.....lol. My mate then got up from back seat and waved too.....right laugh.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: You certainly gave him a taste of his own medicine!!

greenbee

3forholidays wrote: »

Being a single woman of 30 I have to face up to the fact that I might never meet someone to share my life with and put my 'house' in order for the future.

I've recently bought a house but will in the future have to replace the boiler (currently about 14 years old), the windows (all double glazed but have been done at different times so don't match) and the kitchen (would prefer an induction hob and eye level oven) which will probably result in the rest of the house being redecorated as well! I better get saving to afford all that on a single income!

When I say 'in the future' I currently don't know what the future is as I live in Scotland. :eek: I've got to vote on Thursday! Can anyone see into the future? :eek:

I've always done the house ownership thing on my own, and men don't usually appear in my life until the house is in pristine condition! But it is manageable on a single income. I moved last year, having finished the last house, and am now, once again living in a building site. With the amount of work travel I do, getting stuff done and keeping things going is difficult. On the plus side, hotels have showers, meals are provided, and work pay for laundry on long trips!

I've just had the windows replaced (they were rotten, so bit the bullet and did them all at once), and the decorator has finally turned up to paint them (bet they aren't finished by the time I need to go away Tuesday). I've already replaced the boiler and half the radiators. Oil tank is being replaced next week. Roof is being fixed sometime (must chase that!). Plumbers and electricians are booked for some bits and pieces before I stop workmen for the winter!

I ripped all the carpets and the kitchen out as soon as I moved in here as they were grim. I'd rather live without them than with something disgusting. It takes some getting used to, but there is a certain amount of satisfaction to be had in seeing your home come together over the years.

While you are saving, work on the stuff that you can do - the garden, or decorating. Make your home into your home. You don't need a man for that.

calicocat

3forholidays wrote: »

Being a single woman of 30 I have to face up to the fact that I might never meet someone to share my life with and put my 'house' in order for the future.

I've recently bought a house but will in the future have to replace the boiler (currently about 14 years old), the windows (all double glazed but have been done at different times so don't match) and the kitchen (would prefer an induction hob and eye level oven) which will probably result in the rest of the house being redecorated as well! I better get saving to afford all that on a single income!

When I say 'in the future' I currently don't know what the future is as I live in Scotland. :eek: I've got to vote on Thursday! Can anyone see into the future? :eek:

At the ripe old age of.......30.....you have lots of time to meet someone to share your life with if you so choose for a start..!! You never know what is round the corner...or the next for that matter. honestly, having nearly 20 years on you, lots will happen between your age and mine. Stop writing yourself off kiddo.


I totally understand your worries about a home and the costs on your own though. On and off this has freaked me out, I understand the wanting to get stockpiling money for the big costs etc, but honestly the smaller stuff you can do yourself , plus as and when.

I have just up-cycled...(well up-cycled may be an exaggeration as i'm not sure they didn't look better natural wood). But have just spray painted wood bedside tables white to match an already old chest of drawers already bought painted and to match white metal bed.....cost me a tenner using tins of paint on offer in Aldi. They aren't perfect by any stretch, but will do for now, and now they are both done they do make the room come together.


Go to car boots and get stuff to do up yourself, I have in the past got some lovely mirrors that you can either re-frame or paint really cheap. The one thing I haven't learnt how to do that according to my mum is easy is to make your own lamp shades or up-cycle old ones.

Paint is cheap, and can completely change a room, as can a new carpet. In my old 'barbie' room all I did was paint it white and buy an extremely cheap 'carpet' and it honestly looks amazing compared to before. Admittedly it won't be used much so cheap carpet was an easy option, but paint and carpet cost under 200 smackeroonies....and would have been less had I not been covering Really Bright Pink....lol.

Totally agree with greenbee in that you don't need a man for that. In my new place I now know how to re-fill my boiler as and when needed , or lower the pressure (no plumber called for that now), have worked out the strange fuse box and got replacements in. All sounds small stuff, but it's all new learning and you will get there.

I had never had my own garden or been that interested, now i'm growing toms, trench composting, drying my own herbs for winter....bla bla bla, it all just takes time.

greenbee

Calico - I think the important thing to remember is that you don't NEED a man for anything.

If you are independent, can cope on your own etc, at least you know when you are with someone, it's because you want to be. Not because you're too scared to face life without someone (anyone) else.

I have some friends who are clearly so desperate to be part of a couple they are getting together with men who clearly don't deserve them, or staying in unhappy relationships, or talking about their 'boyfriend' when they've been on one date.

Learn to like yourself, be the person you want to be, fill you life with the things you enjoy, and if someone comes along who you actually WANT to make space for in your very full life, maybe they'll be worth it.

Whatever you do, DO NOT compromise who you are to be with someone else.

Ok... got that little rant over... I've just been having a bit of a bad time with an ex... which made me realise what's important.

ME.

calicocat

greenbee wrote: »

Calico - I think the important thing to remember is that you don't NEED a man for anything.

If you are independent, can cope on your own etc, at least you know when you are with someone, it's because you want to be. Not because you're too scared to face life without someone (anyone) else.

I have some friends who are clearly so desperate to be part of a couple they are getting together with men who clearly don't deserve them, or staying in unhappy relationships, or talking about their 'boyfriend' when they've been on one date.

Learn to like yourself, be the person you want to be, fill you life with the things you enjoy, and if someone comes along who you actually WANT to make space for in your very full life, maybe they'll be worth it.

Whatever you do, DO NOT compromise who you are to be with someone else.

Ok... got that little rant over... I've just been having a bit of a bad time with an ex... which made me realise what's important.

ME.

Lol.....rant accepted...and understood. Been there.

Also agree about being confident and Wanting to be with someone. However I do feel this is the case regardless of gender and also works with all relationships/friendships in life and not just 'partner' ones.


This is possibly where we may end up disagreeing on what we 'need' a 'man' for , and where need and want get blurred at times. When I need an electrician I need one, whether we like it or not they are usually male and I tend to think of them as such as a rule , and until a female one turns up at my door will always assume it is a man. Therefore, there will be a part of my brain that will say I need a man to do XYZ.

I also think men are more capable of doing certain physical things compared to a woman, not all agreed for sure though(!), and they also have alternative conversation to women, which we should have at times in our lives.

On running a home...no we don't need to Be with a man, but I think on lots of levels that don't have to mean being together women Do need men, and vice versa thinking about it as i'm typing.

mum2one

It sounds daft I do miss having someone there, sometimes its the daft things like bad day out and you need a hug, or to share experiences with.

Thou to be honest I have never lived with anyone long term, but the times I have shared there lives, I have always had a foothold to bolt to....

Now I'm to set in my ways to be with someone full time and with everything thats going on, I wouldnt be able to give them the time thats needed to make a relationship stick.

Before I had DD, I always imagined I would have two children, as being an only child I didnt necessary want the same for my kids, but health reasons I couldn't have had a 2nd one, so i knew from when I was expecting DD that she would be the only one, then I was fighting my ex-employer, and on and off been through the court system with DDs dad, and i promised her when she was born that I wouldn't drag a series of Uncles through her life.

I guess I got use to being by myself and the couple of relationships I did have early on there was always the "never the twain shall meet", so really it was all non-starters, then DD and I wanted our holidays, and when I get chatted up, it makes me laugh as its a local guy who just wants a passport, money and a bunk up, so they dont even get past 1st base...

maybe when shes older and got her own life things will be different, - guess I say never know.
x

Horace

Hello one and all (too numerous to mention individually).

JKS - I have a good imagination so if you want me to type something on Tripadvisor, I can do. The man sounds like a horrible little oik who probably has a weeny - hex and pox on him. Not all B&Bs are like him (he would never win Four in A Bed!) - I stayed in a brilliant one inside a pub in Oxfordshire, the room was a standard room and you had to climb up a few steps into the bath. I remember feeling rather decadent and thoroughly spoilt and I was on my own.

I have been doing housework today - still haven't found my birth certificate and decree absolute nor my building society book. Discovered that the salad box in the fridge was rather wet inside (no idea why) and that a packet of seeds was rather sodden, my carrots have grey patches on them too (I only bought them last week).

Cooked up some dinner tonight and used some of the runner beans that my chum (and secretary of the friends group) gave me from her garden on Friday. Well, I discovered 2 courgettes in with the beans - 1 largish and the other small. I have no idea what to do with them because I am not overly fond of courgettes but I don't want to waste them.

Re 9/11, I was at work when one of the porters came in and told me that the World Trade Centre had been hit and I remember telling him that he had been watching too many films. I had never heard anything so preposterous until I managed to log on to the internet and then I was glued to BBC news - I didn't do any work for the rest of the afternoon (none of us in the office did). When Diana died, I was at home with the flu and couldn't really take it in (mind you I could never see what she saw in that Fayed chap).