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MummyBobble

Blimey, had loads of paperwork sorted out into nice neat piles, now ninja cat has just jumped up, skidded all over them and now they're in a heap on the floor... that can wait until tomorrow because I am already in pj's and want to finish my book.

Lots of us seem to have hit the age where parents become a worry. Rather like children really, (get one lot sorted out and then the others become a pain in the @rse). They can become desperate for help but won't accept it, are more able than they think but want the help anyway or can be just down right blooming awkward. All we can do is what they let us.

My mum was in intensive care on life support and the consultant called me and my sisters in to ask our permission to turn off the life support machine and let her go. DD was only 9 weeks old and at the time I just felt really angry that mum was spoiling what should have been such a happy time. Took DD to the funeral (guess you don't see many babies being breastfed at a funeral!) but it raised spirits. I have been able to finally come to terms with her death, but there will always be a sadness about us agreeing to turn off the machine. Her final words to me (just days after I'd given birth were "You've put on some weight". I like to think that, in her own peculiar way, she was proud of me and loved me.

LL, I hope you have family and friends around when you need company, and time on your own when that is what you want. xx

moneyistooshorttomention

Wonders how LessonLearned is right now? Do let us all know how things are for you now LL. Am guessing that, right now, you are feeling rather tired and "blow it all"?

Hope things went off as well as could be expected?

JustKeepSwimming_2

MummyBobble wrote: »

Blimey, had loads of paperwork sorted out into nice neat piles, now ninja cat has just jumped up, skidded all over them and now they're in a heap on the floor... that can wait until tomorrow because I am already in pj's and want to finish my book......

They just know, cats :rotfl:

LL, I hope you have family and friends around when you need company, and time on your own when that is what you want. xx

MB - I was trying to think of how to say the same thing to LL, but I'm always verbose & usually have too many words - can I pinch your eloquent sentence please? It says exactly what I want to say, only better.

Hope all have a lovely w/e - I've had the delight of school supplies/uniform shopping with DD :mad: Please can someone just make it stop now....

calicocat

Just popping in to say Hi guys.

Still haven't had time to catch up to be honest and back at work from tomorrow.......3 shifts this week, and then that's it...full time again...!!!!

Am dreading it as have loved part time.....really loved part time. I must find a way to make it viable for the future...and not too distant either.

Hope all are well, and will do catch up at work if I get the chance to get time on the computers for stuff other than work.

Horace

My dad has COPD and back in 2003 we were told he could pass away at any time - he is still here and still smoking although mum rations them. Mum has always been the strong one - when I was small dad had a car accident so lost his business, mum was the one that worked on farms to keep a roof over my head and food on the table. There are times when we get on but others when we don't because she and me are like chalk and cheese.

Went to see the health trainer today and once again my weight has stayed the same - I told her that after paying my bills I had very little money left. She suggested the foodbank and I refused, sorry but there is no way that I will go to the foodbank. I shall eat frugally instead. I do have some food in the freezer - I just need to cook it so please don't worry about me. Might teach myself to make bread and that way I won't need to keep buying loaves. I don't eat enough food which is why I am holding on to my weight

Also went to the work programme and I am going to use them to get my L2 OCR qualification in Excel spreadsheets - I had to keep repeating myself to the lad in the centre because he kept asking if I was sure that I had a raft of L2 qualifications - I kept saying yes and that they were all gained with distinction, now I have to prove that I have them.

Had another wander in the park this evening - cursing the fact that the memorial hedge has been ripped up even more. Toilets are in place for the festival which starts tomorrow and it is awfully muddy (one good thing is that no little dears will be tempted to sleep in the woods tonight because it is so wet - it has just hammered down with rain again:D). Exchanged emails with the park manager earlier and she offered me some free tickets for the festival this weekend - I declined, they would be wasted on me because I would go in and mooch about and then go home.

Spent some time on the internet this afternoon looking up information on domestic abuse in civil partnerships and how to get civil partnerships dissolved and getting the one party out of the house. I will pass this information to my friend when I next see her.

Have a good weekend folks - might nip in over the weekend.

mum2one

another day, another hospital visit... but some gd news, dad has now come off his drips, just the one for antibiotics, and he has been walking around, he's had some food, you can tell he's better he's moaning about the food being bland, boring and virtually inedible....

He now wants single beds for him and mother when he comes home.... another thing to all to the "to do" list...

day off from visiting 2mor, plan is food shopping, have a rest, get DDD to sort her school bag out, did I say a little lie in!! xxx

MummyBobble

JKS don't get me going on school stuff :eek:. Went to town yesterday with DS. Trousers - nothing in the right colour, shoes - found the one's he liked, every size but his, shirts - doesn't like them but tough, luckily blazer still just about fits (I'm thinking that as he'll be 14 in three weeks he may well wake up one morning about a foot taller than he is now so it'll do), school have introduced a new PE kit (which to be fair is far better than the old one, and they do have a year before it has to be replaced), random bits from geometry sets to be replaced, calculator needs new batteries, trainers, tennis shoes, football boots...

Harder though is DD starting college next week so no uniform. I've told her she may have to do her own washing and ironing because I'm not running around the night before when she decides what she's wearing (have now decided that school uniform actually makes life much easier). Refused to buy her any college supplies until after her induction day next week when I suspect she is likely to come home with lists of what she needs (especially as she is taking A-level art, the list of equipment we had to buy for her GCSE art was around £100 :eek:). Still can't quite get my head around my little girl being big enough for college

Think that's me done for the night, winds howling and rain lashing down.

Have a good night folks x

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MummyBobble

Meant to say JKS that being verbose runs in the family here :rotfl:. Several years ago (he would have been around 8 years old), I asked DS what he wanted for breakfast, his reply went along the lines of "Well what have we got? I'd rather like beans and mushrooms on toast. Do we have any mushrooms? Or a dippy egg with toast will do. We do have toast don't we? Actually I might just have some cereal and orange juice, or do I want a cup of tea? I'm getting confused now. What was the original question and can I go on the Xbox please?" This a child who is constantly in trouble at school for talking too much, talks and walks in his sleep. I like to think that he is developing his communication skills...

mum2one

mummybubble - dont envy the shopping.... or the forthcoming bill for DD with her A levels.

Hasn't it been awful weather, driving back from Wales 2ngt it was awful the rain was pouring down, yet other stretches there was no rain!

Some good news, dads brighter today, he's moaning about the hospital food being awful, so he's getting back to normal, but take it day at a time, xxxx

lessonlearned

Money - thanks for asking….. I'm doing fine.

Thanks for all your kind thoughts and wishes. I'm doing OK. Had a splitting headache yesterday and was dreadfully tired so just took it very easy. Having said that I don't intend overdoing it today either. :rotfl:

I have an absolute mountain of paperwork, legal and financial stuff to get through. I figure it will take several weeks so I'm going to pace myself and will make a start on Monday.

This weekend is just for me to take time out.

Sleeping is difficult so I just rest and have a nap during the day as and when required.

There are lots of things to think about but I'm not going to make any long term decisions or commitments until at least after Christmas.

Today I might go and visit my mum. She is in a nursing home and of course I will have to show my face to my father…..not looking forward to that but hey ho, a daughter's duty and all that.

I also need to visit FIL because he is extremely frail and couldn't manage the funeral. However he lives in Scotland so I will either fly or take the train. I need to do that sooner rather than later but I'll give myself a few weeks first.

One of my first jobs on my list will be to purchase a rail card.

Hope you are all well, weather a bit disappointing. I was hoping for a little potter in the garden but I might save that for another day.

Have a lovely weekend.