OS Singlies - We Do It Our Way!

MummyBobble

Lessonlearned, I hope that today, as sad as it will have been, has also given you the opportunity to share happy memories. Be kind to yourself and take care xx

JustKeepSwimming_2

LL - was thinking of you toady & hope all went well IYKWIM. I think your flowers will be a lovely touch, & I never knew that they we're destroyed so soon after the service at the crematorium.

One of my very few real friends (not that I still have pretend friends, but I think you all know what I mean :rotfl:) got married to "Always look on the bright side...." - & it was her 3rd & his 2nd marriage. All seems to be going well.

Byatt wrote: »

...I do envy those with children who are supportive of them, when dealing with family. My DD because of her autism, is not able to see the bigger picture and loyalty or an understanding of how someone really is, just doesn't present. It's a very lonely place to be, realising you are on your own totally...

I feel for you Byatt. I do feel all alone when having to deal with stuff now, but am hoping/preying that when my 2 are grown ups they'll be some support to me at times of need. I'm lucky in that the only family I really have to deal with is my mother, & there isn't anyone else to have any input into these dealings, so there is no chance of any falling out. I'm already resigned to whatever I think being wrong in her eyes so it will be difficult whatever the situation.

Horace - well done on getting you form filled in & my fingers are crossed.

I'm with those who say they've decided to accept their lot (when dealing with past wrongs). I certainly can't (& don't want to) forgive my mother for what she's done, but I have accepted that it happened, & its only making things worse for me if I dwell on it. So I've decided shes an appalling mother & that is that.

MB - ex-OH's cast a long shadow don't they? After fannying around the world in the forces for 22 years having a fantastic time, mine is now retiring (at 40) & trying to decide what to do next. He has the choice of a fairly boring but stable (employed) job on an excellent salary, or a more exciting 6 months self employed contract with no guarantee of further work (although he thinks he'll most likely get some more short term contracts). Bearing in mind he has another DS with his current wife, no house (always lived in quarters) & our DD & DS to support which do you think he wants to go for?

Yep - the self employed route, as its more fun :eek:. So glad I'm no longer married to him.

BW - glad you made your decision about the hen w/e. Far more MSE :T

I am slowly drowning in the fun that is getting ready to go back to school - how can so much stuff have got lost in 5 weeks? Or is it just me....

lessonlearned

Just a quickie

The day went well, the sun shone, the flowers turned out well.

On his eulogy my son mentioned that I had bought flowers from Costco and that the money we had saved had "gone behind the bar"
Cue smiles all round......

Very tired now so just going to have a quiet day tomorrow.

Ps apparently the crematorium keep the flowers for a week, not just a day as I had thought.

Hope you all had a good day.

LavenderBees

Very glad it went so well for you all. Big hug!

LB xx

calicocat

Just dipping in very briefly as busy and haven't had time to catch up the last few days of everyone's posts.

Just wanted to say that i'm really pleased today went well LL for you and your family.

CC.x

Winter_Phoenix

Lessonlearned, it's good to hear that today went well.

Be gentle with yourself tomorrow, when you'll be tired and will no longer "have to hold yourself together until the funeral is over".

Horace

Glad it went well for you and your family today LL. I was thinking about you when I went out for a walk. Loved the quip about the Costco flower - glad that it raised a smile.

Kept awake by next door's washing machine (although I have all my doors closed and it is down in their kitchen which is at the back of the house - I hear it whirring away loudly). Got up late. Decided to go for a long walk around the park so grabbed my camera and headed out. I have taken pictures of all kinds of things from trees to fences. The festival site has grown and now the fences are going up it has made me realise just how much of the park is being used. Still I had a chat with a lovely security chap who had come up from Portsmouth and although he was in a hotel for 2 nights from tonight all the security men are camping on site.

Got rained on so was quite damp when I got home. The message light was flashing on my phone and it was mum asking me to ring her. I rang, I said that I had been out for a walk. She told me that she had to go to her local branch of Lakeland for something and noticed that they are recruiting for permanent and temporary staff so she picked up an application pack (I need to go and collect it). Dad is unwell and now I am wondering how long he has got - I don't visit as often as I should but then I am prevented from doing so (I hate seeing him weak and frail too and each time I see him he seems more of a shadow of his former self). I think he is still driving mum mad with his finicky eating and reading is book into the early hours so when she wakes up because she has heard a noise, she goes into to check on him and finds the bed empty so she stands at the top of the stairs for a bit fearing what she might find when she goes down - he is always in the chair reading and all the time saying that he doesn't know what the time is when the clock is right next to him.

All the walking wore me out so after heating up some leftover soup from yesterday, I settled on the sofa to watch some tv and promptly fell asleep - annoying because I wanted to watch Clare Balding's programme Britain by Bike and I caught about 10 mins of it.

MummyBobble

LL glad that today went as well as it could and raised some smiles. xx

mum2one

LL so glad today went ok, my thoughts are with you and your family

JKS ditto to school items going missing, its the magic school fairies that move them, we've managed to mislay the bag of spare pe kit and uniform... it should turn up. Think DD going to need a 10 tun truck to get everything to school... cant believe its next week.

Horace Sorry to hear your father is unwell, I know where your coming from, I dread what is going on with my own father, and literally dont know what I am going to walk into, he's come down with pneumonia, the hospital have got him on antibiotics - considering the start of Aug he was fit for his age, full of life, now he's bedbound, (although he does sit in a chair and in morning goes to the bathroom with the nurse escorting him), and we have no idea as to what the future will hold. it sounds horrible, I don't mean it to sound like that but I always thought that it would be my mother that got took ill and he would be left, she has had a mini stroke, has lot of illness and complications, should she end up in an operating theatre, its very unlikely we would have her, yet its dad that is fighting, although at times he just loses the will to fight.

Sorry babbled on for England, just been a hard day, we havent been to the hospital today, giving him a rest and trying to catch up with stuff at home, at the mo I could do with 48 hrs squashed into 6....

Semi productive day, got some bills paid, half price movies and sports from sky, cancelled the phone and internet, - jumping ship for a lot cheaper supplier, fielded about 6 dodgy sales calls, filled in ccp form, (collecting dust since Feb), sorted out a couple bits for dad, now my chill out time, mug of drinking chocolate, cake and the internet... DD, mum and the dog all upstairs in bed... x

BookWorm

Evening all!

it's my favourite part of the week!! Knowing that I have a whole lovely weekend ahead of me!! Boss also gave us all an early dart today so home earlier than normal too :j

I'm already in my tracky bottoms and will not be moving far from the sofa tonight