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BookWorm wrote: »

Couldn't settle last night and felt very restless. Took me ages to get to sleep and I was up again early this morning too. Can't put my finger on why either...

Sleep is okay...but..yep...restless/anxious/cant think of any reason to do with me personally and cant knock that feeling on the head either.

Will go off to wrestle with it some more...its been going for the last couple of days or so and I know its nothing to do with me personally....

BookWorm

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Sleep is okay...but..yep...restless/anxious/cant think of any reason to do with me personally and cant knock that feeling on the head either.

Sorry to hear that it doesn't seem to be an isolated case

calicocat

lulabelle wrote: »

Didn't want to post this on my dairy thread as made a promise to self I would not contaminate that with comments on the idiot ex but I stupidly looked at his fb page earlier (we've never been friends on there) and he's now becoming friends with loads of girls so is clearly putting himself about a bit now (he only had 47 friends previously). Upsets me cos he gave me the whole (when he was breaking up with me) "I'm not even divorced yet, I shouldn't have even been looking" and how he was so depressed all he wanted to do was sit at home with his parents and how having a relationship with me meant he was having his focus taken away from his son and it was all a load of big fat b***ocks!!!

He is clearly a moron......a moron that tells quite a few lies too.

You are well to be away from that one. I know someone who uses dating sites, and everyone she met and hung out with from it were idiots or had serious issues...and generally told an amazing amount of lies.






I have just eaten a mahoosive sunday lunch, even made yorkshire puds......still have some mix left, so it may be yorkshire puds and gravy for tea too.......and I wonder where the weight comes from????......lol.


It is blowing a gale here, so may be a bit too wild to go to the beach...so windy washing whirly-gig thing is on it's side!! sounds like winter here.

BookWorm

Hey Calico - I love yorkie puds - eating them twice in day sounds great!!

Lulabelle - I agree with the others - sounds like you are best off out of that. Don't torture yourself though looking at fb...

lulabelle

Yes, I really must not do so. And you're right, better off out of it. Plus he abandoned his wife when she went bonkers after the kid was born - he didn't even stick it out for a year. Not the kind of man you can rely on in a crisis. I need someone with backbone. My gay best mate said the other night (when we were saying why can't we both just find someone normal and I had said I had thought x was normal and look how he turned out) "well, he was normal, but he was just a c*nt"!!!! He also said "he was f*cking boring". I have to keep telling myself I'd not have been happy in the long run and that whoever he gets with will always have to deal with the ex wife who (and I'm not judging here her she's sick but it's a fact) causes real troubles and is wholly unstable.

I am just so stressed with this trial starting tomorrow and now head is up my *rse over t*at features!!!! (Apologies for the expletives - I'm just fed up!!!)

BookWorm

Lulabelle - take a deep breath and give yourself a break. I suggest go and do something fun or that you enjoy for a couple of hours and forget about everything.

lulabelle

Afraid I csnt due to this trial. Absolutely loads to get through - had better just throw self into that I guess

Byatt

Lulabelle, I suspect it's not so much about the loss of this guy, but the loss of the dream/fantasy you had wrapped up in him, along with some feelings of why was I not good enough. It's not about you though, it's all about him and his needs and it sounds like you had a lucky escape, although I know that doesn't help when the "like" feelings still invade your mind. Just because my ex was and is an utter !!!!! didn't stop me hankering after him, and yes, I've done the Fb stuff, , but try and distract yourself when the urge overwhelms, it will pass.

The ex wife may well have her mental health problems aggravated by him, I know I came over as someone completely off the wall (I cringe just thinking about what I did/said), when first separated and ex really used it to his advantage. (finding out how to have me sectioned at one point :eek:).

Calico, I am envious of your sunday lunch! I'm going to have meat cakes (name my mother gave them, I think she couldn't bring herself to say balls:p) and left over chips from the chip shop. And peas.

Mummybobble , dodgy hugs on their way, hope all is well and kiddywinkles home or soon to be. I bet you can't wait to hug them! :grouphug::grouphug:

lillibet, your salad sounds lush

LavenderBees

Yes, I agree, Byatt, it really isn't the person, themselves that you miss, it's the dream of what you need/want/crave - a loving family. I didn't just lose my ex, but also his lovely extended family. Still miss them all dreadfully, but I decided it was better to lose them than keep hearing updates about my ex. That would have killed me.

Lulabelle - this bloke is quite clearly a w&nk3r, and you know it...don't look at his fb account. I'm glad I can't be bothered with fb, it seems quite a temptation to track people who have hurt you. Personally, I think it's important to wash your hands of people like this. Good luck with the trial. :T

I've had the laziest weekend I can remember for quite some time, been catching up on much needed sleep, cuddling the old-boy-cat (who is starting to show a little improvement, definitely a little perkier, so I hope the painkillers and anti sickness tablets are starting to kick in). I have combined sleeping/cuddling with watching the netball...we lost but my goodness, it's brought back lovely memories of playing at school team level. I loved netball!

I've managed to clean the house and do the shopping, as well as picking my Sunday lunch from the lottie - kale, kohl rabi (one of the girls dug up for me :rotfl:), carrots, the last of the broad beans, and two huge beetroot for roasting, so I haven't been completely comatose :rotfl: Well, only for 20 hrs of the day! :rotfl: I managed to get a free range chicken half price so can look the girls in the eyes later :rotfl:. Actually, I just need yorkie puds...anyone know where can get some??

But I feel MUCH better than I have done for a while, and with the clarity that a good sleep has given me, I know I'm doing the best I can for old-boy-cat, so I'm reasonably content again.

Got a shoite day and evening to get through tomorrow, and then hopefully, can take a deep breath and start to relax in the run up to my holiday...that's the plan anyway! Mind, I'm eating like a pig, so will be surprised if I have anything to pack in my case that fits me . Ah s8d it, am not going to worry.

Glad you're all surviving ok...keep up the good work

LB xx

calicocat

Many women can have MH probs after giving birth...especially when around what appears to be a !!!!-head.


He sounds more and more lovely as time goes on and we hear more about him.

no-one needs a vile creature like that around for support (lack of).....i think you have had a lucky escape.

In fact he needs his picture up on a poster or billboard to warn other women!!