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JustKeepSwimming_2

BookWorm wrote: »

I have got more relaxed about the book/film thing as I've got older and now just watch or read whatever comes first - saves all the worrying about it!

BW - you are so sensible! I must confess to seeing Dr Zhivago (the Keira Knightley one) without wringing my hands too much about not getting too far with the book . Anyone seen/read "One Day" yet & have any opinions on which is best?

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

...EDIT: You don't necessarily have to "lose the family" of someone when they become an ex. Re the particular man I mentioned above, I'm still good friends with his parents. It is possible, if not easy (of course, it helps if they are very nice and forgiving etc people...as per the parents of this particular ex of mine...).

If I haven't lost ex's families as soon as we've broken up (some families get a bit sniffy if you dump their precious boy :rotfl:) then I've lost them when the latest model has come along. The last ex's family are polite if we bump into each other (rarely) but are now invested into his current GF rather than me - sad (for me) but understandable. The only family I have any real contact with is that of my ex husband & father of DD & DS - & they're the family I'd be quite happy to never see again

lulabelle wrote: »

...I think I'm just going to stop looking completely, at least for the rest of this year and get myself back into a good place, training, running, spending time with my good friends who make me feel good (although gay best mate going off to study for 4 months). Plus I'm off to nyc and Miami with a girlfriend in 4.5 weeks and want to be single for then so we can flirt with and snog boys and just have fun!

That sounds like a plan :T

JustKeepSwimming_2

calicocat wrote: »

....So...have just spoken to the acting manager about going part time for August while the weather is still hot and makes it worse. the ward i'm on the windows don't open and there is no air-con.....so I often look like i've just got out the shower and feel krap.

She is going to speak to HR today......yay....

This of course means i'll only be earning enough to survive probably and not give me any room to save or pay off more on mortgage for a month..or two. However, it will give me a breather, and let me see how I would manage on part time money. A colleague and I had discussed a job share rather than us both losing our job if it comes to that type of scenario.....so this will give me a taster of how that would be if they allow me to do it.

I guess in a way if someone is saying they don't feel well, and they don't grant part time for a short period, they would be stupid, as that would be running the risk of a person going sick....then they'd have to pay me and someone else to cover.

We shall see what they say though , as I don't really want to go off sick if I can avoid it even though I would be better off financially.....as there is also the whole thing of when they reconfigure services they will be looking at sick records etc I would imagine so may as well give myself the best chance of getting a preferred job for now.

I do have to say that i'm rather excited at the prospect of part time, but equally think I could well get a shock at the lack of money....either way, i'll have enjoyed part time for a while and also focused my finances and what realistically I need to work for the future.


I SO hope they grant it, even if it is just for a month. I did also say that I figured my GP would be happy enough to write a letter if need be.....just to focus their minds too.

Watch it now go cold and rain all August!.......lol...sso I can't even feel tired and sick on my hammock.

That's great news about your mortgage Calicocat - it's such a millstone.

I can't believe you're working on a ward that has windows that don't open - how bonkers is that? I've worked in hospitals with enormous windows that have needed a huge pole to open them (always makes me think of pole vaulting :rotfl:) but at least they did open if there was a staff member strong enough to use the pole (men do have the odd use).

I hope your HR say yes, but I think you're right in your thinking about sick leave so you should have a strong case. The drop in money will most likely be a shock even though you've done the maths. I'm dropping 6 hours/week from September & my head tells me I can afford it (or rather I can't keep on working so many hours as my health & sanity are going...) but this months pay dropped by 6 hours (in a month, not even each week) & it looked so much worse in print on my pay slip :eek:

My head is telling me that the finances will all work out as I'll be doing useful things like batch cooking for the freezer & will be in to receive Approved Food orders, or can dash to Aldi without kids - this is probably all a dream & I'll end up watching carp on TV while still in pjs as its my day off :rotfl: We shall see. I'm sure you'll be more organised than me.

Oh & the weather here is going to be carp for the next few days with lots of rain, so I hope its better up where you are.

LavenderBees wrote: »

Oh bless you, JKS, I'm sorry your lovely time turned into a horror movie...thank goodness it didn't rain as well, eh?

I've also been known to do the same - ranting and raving with upset and dare I say it, panic, at yet another huge problem presenting itself. And I am frequently exhausted (or have been the last 18mths) at having to sort everything...e v e r y darn little thing myself. But, having said that, on balance, I prefer being in control of my own destiny, and, whilst problems exhaust me (or their impact exhaust me), finding the right resolution for me, not someone else, is very empowering. I don't mind helpfully intended advice, but I think I'm too darn independent these days to take a back seat with my own problems.

I hope you feel better for your rail against the world yesterday, and well done you on having the resilience to get yourself back to the hotel.

At least the horses were sensitive enough to give you your space (or bored by you due to lack of treats :rotfl: ).

If it's any consolation, which I know it won't be, I'm having a grot time of a different nature - old-boy-cat is pretty poorly and every discussion with the vet naturally centres around does he (the cat not the vet :rotfl:)still have quality of life (yes, is the answer from both vet and myself...at the mo, anyway), but it's only a matter of time. And sitting here at my desk, desperately trying to keep my eyes open, having been up all night with him (the cat not the vet :rotfl:) either being sick or desperate for food or cuddles, has me doubting myself and my decision making again and again, even though on these sorts of things, I've not yet made an incorrect decision, but there's always a first time, isn't there?

Sometimes, like in the dead of last night trying to cope on my own again, I think what wouldn't I give to have someone share in the burden of this, but honestly, would I really like that? A difference of opinion would just irritate me, someone agreeing would just irritate me...I'm just bloomin irritable :rotfl:

Anyway, JKS, I hope you have a better few days break from here on in - take it in the spirit intended that a higher purpose wanted you to have a rest - feet up, coffee and cake...what's not to like?

LB xx

Oh LB you've summed it up all so well - thank you for getting it.

So sorry to hear about old-boy-cat's health - its so rubbish, but I think you will know the right time when it comes - a knowing just comes into your heart which makes it easier to deal with even though its still carp. That sounds really trite, sorry & probably isn't a comfort to you at all but whenever I have dithered its been because the time hasn't been right IYKWIM.

Sorry about my ranting/mithering & glad its amused some of you on here :rotfl: LB you are so right about the being irritated as that is also exactly how I feel the majority of the time.

Byatt wrote: »

Jks, so glad it wasn't worse, but as one who goes down like a ton of bricks, I do sympathise. I haven't learned to bounce yet. No, not ridiculous to rant. Perfectly natural. I wouldn't have been brave enough to be in the field with horses as any animal always makes a bee line for me, and I get very jittery, which they sense. Coffee shops and people watching must be the order of the day, and I hope you enjoy the rest of your holiday.

I have had a better time I guess, popped my Pulse form off at last at the gym, enquired about aquarobics and a lovely woman chatted to me as I was leaving (normally unheard of, people don't do stranger chat usually)...then the dentist, who is a lovely girl, so not too bad, then off to park in town as it's market day, it's horrendously busy, managed to get a space but then realised I had no change, when a nice man bounded up and gave me his ticket (very under the counter type of thing as it's not allowed), then found a Nige!!a salt pig for £2 in the CS. Bought a load of fruit form the market for £2.50!

Then home....to the dreaded minutes of yesterday's meeting with DD. Not sure why they told me it went well, because the influence of this woman is even worse than I imagined. Seems she is "protecting" DD, but DD's personal hygiene has gone downhill along with the house. Well, there's lots more, but I won't mention it here. The idea is for us to meet to "resolve our differences"....not sure how support think that's going to happen. Well, it's not because I'm not meeting gf. Neither are going to listen to a word I say. I hate there's nothing I can do, well there is but it's not legal.

Anyway, I'm reasonably upbeat, burying my head in the sand has its advantages.

Oh, Jks, Witch Hazel is supposed to be good for bruising.

Yes Byatt, we must learn to bounce, mustn't we . I cant see the bruising as it's covered by an enormous dressing that has stuck so well I'm not sure it will ever come off :eek: but it isn't too painful now, just smarts whenever I bend my knee too much.

I don't like crossing fields with animals in at all (a woman was trampled to death by cows quite near to my home 2 years ago while she was walking her dog) & if I'd known there would be animals there I'd probably have thought twice about it. But I didn't have a choice & there was no way I was going to go scuttling down that darn hill after my water & first aid kit.....

So today I've had a few coffees in different coffee shops & gone for a quiet stroll, dodging the rain showers. That's the plan for tomorrow too, & then home again. Apparently its going to be raining all manner of animals tomorrow, so not a day for walking on the beach

Byatt - sorry to hear its all still happening with DD & unsuitable GF but glad to hear you've had some good things happening too. I think you were very brave having a hair cut by someone who hasn't cut your hair before - whenever I've dared to step inside a salon to see what they'd recommend, I'm always put off by their humming & haaing & head shaking about the texture of my hair, & how they can style it for me but I'll have to put in a lot of hard work to tame it - & that's where I say no thanks, life is too short to spend an hour a day taming my hair - are they mad? :rotfl:

I did summon up the courage to have my eyebrows threaded today though - & was horrified that the threader (if that's the correct term?) first attacked them with a pair of scissors :eek: then went on to thread them. They do look so much better but I was surprised at how noisy it was :rotfl:

I sound like a right slob don't I - no wonder I'm single

Hi to Lynsayjane :wave: & thanks to all for the words of support - you are all officially fab!

BookWorm

Ooooh it's been busy in here today

I have to say I feel quite cheered after reading all your posts today. I know that some of the posts are of people's tales of woe or misfortune and hugs to those who need them (especially JKS!). However, it's the general positive and supportive responses that I have found so great and uplifting.

My day, although not bad, has been distinctly unsatisfying and I came home feeling a bit disillusioned again. However, after I've read all your posts, I've been reminded that there are some lovely people in the world after all. I really enjoy the fact that we can talk about the things that have happened to us or are on our minds and that there is always support to be found.

I agree with MummyBobble - you guys rock :T x

BookWorm

JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

BW - you are so sensible! .nyone seen/read "One Day" yet & have any opinions on which is best?

not sure anyone has said that about me before or at least for a long while!

I have read One Day and thought it was good. Not seen the film though so can't comment

BookWorm

LB - sorry to hear your old boy cat is not doing so great
Do you think the warm weather is disagreeing with him/unsettling him?

greenbee

BookWorm wrote: »

not sure anyone has said that about me before or at least for a long while!

I have read One Day and thought it was good. Not seen the film though so can't comment

I liked the film. Haven't read the book though

JustKeepSwimming_2

calicocat wrote: »

Hope the break gets better JKS....or at least more entertaining for the rest of us. hope you don't mind but I did find myself laughing a bit at everything rolling down the hill in front of your eyes.....veryy Bridget Jones.

Darcy could be round the next corner.

Oddly enough, there has been no sign of Darcy toady (or any other day)

I'll see what I can do tomorrow for your amusement :laugh:

LavenderBees

BookWorm wrote: »

LB - sorry to hear your old boy cat is not doing so great
Do you think the warm weather is disagreeing with him/unsettling him?

No, I wish it were...It won't have helped him but it's not that hot now...quite pleasant really, and we also have rain forecast (thank goodness...I want a weekend of pottering in my PJs after an exhausting week . Does anyone else feel bullied by the sunshine into having to do outside things? :rotfl:)

No, I'm afraid the vet suspects a tumour as my darling old boy has lost a whole kilo in 6 mths, which is a huge amount for a cat who was never a big cat in the first place. He is very under weight now, and has osteo-arthritis too, so I'm treating him with kid gloves, and, whilst I know it isn't his time yet, in my heart I know it isn't going to be long

Trouble is that it has thrown be back into how awful I felt waiting for my parents to die, and it's romping towards the anniversary for my lovely dad, and on Monday night, I have to go to see my toxic brother to sort out my mam's remaining (i.e. the bits not stolen) personal effects, so it's a bit of a poo time again. If I don't stab him in the eyes (my brother not the vet or the cat :rotfl:) , it will be a miracle :mad:

I want to concentrate on my Old-Boy-Cat, but life is conspiring against me to prevent this. This time of knowing I have to let him go, and it's all so limited is so very very precious. Still, if I managed to do this with my lovely Dad and again with my Mam, I'll get through this with my wee darling. But, you know, this is why I got Little Miss Millie Mops...to help me and Young-Boy-Cat through a bad time. And even feeling so grot, she makes me laugh, and feel so loved - she is settled on my feet at the mo, smiling up at me when she senses me looking at her. Never known a kitten do that. I think she automatically senses I need a love, as does Young-Boy-Cat, who has given me the most lovely kisses and cuddles tonight.

The chooks on the other hand are demanding hussies and as soon as I open their gate,they leg it onto the lottie to cause havoc. I don't stand a chance against their onslaught. I now have a very small beetroot to do something with as Maisie dug that up for me :rotfl:

But they also make me laugh :rotfl:. I don't know where I'd be without my wee animal family.

To finish on a funnier note (sorry, I know I sound down), tonight I was eating chicken and gave LMMM a piece. She was so excited she threw it in the air, and it disappeared. LMMM, me and YBC searched everywhere.

Just found it at the bottom of my pseudo snowball drink, having drained the glass :rotfl:

Kittens don't have germs, do they?

:rotfl:

Sleep well all, lovely to see the news from so many of you today. And yes, sorry JKS, I did have a wee laugh at your expense, but only a teeny tiny one, honest...

:rotfl:

LB xx

calicocat

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i'm going part time....i'm going part time...i'm going part time....(said in a rap style song)

It is only for a month, but that should get me over these tablets hopefully working and the worst of the heat.

I am allowed to reduce hours on medical grounds , however my managers manager has said that my wages could be badly affected as the hand scanner takes ages to upload things if you change your hours on them..(which means they will kock up my wages for months potentially).....so, i'm taking it as holiday for emergency reasons (which means my wages wont be affected too much either)

This is going to rugger up my hols for the rest of the year, but if i need time off after xmas i will face that when i come to it....we could be shut by then for all i know.



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This means with other hols already booked in i will be part time untill second week in Sept and also have a weeks hols in sept too.......................... it's all good my little chickens.

Plan....
Have fun.
prep for job loss a bit more with household things.
Pay off more of mortgage leading up to xmas.
Paint rest of Barbie room, and change carpet and get wardrobes for there.
Swim in sea weather permitting.
Hang out on hammock.
Have a serious chat to tomatoes about stepping up their game.
Cut more flipping ivy off fence...again.
Mess about with garden some more.
Hang out with Asbo a bit more , she gets fed up of me being at work and asleep half the time.


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calicocat

JKS......


The windows open an inch , not allowed to have ones that open more than that due to nature of patients i work with.

The type of windows you describe is what i remember from school in some of the buildings.....we wouldnt be allowed those either even though they are high , as the bit you hook the pole into would be classed as a ligature point.

So everyone gets to melt in the summer .


i might put some 'points of view' cards in the box tonight demanding a freezer.....anonymously of course.....it's the patient box........:cool::cool::cool::cool: :rotfl: