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moneyistooshorttomention

<Knocks on screen to Calico>

...errrrm....when did that last line appear in your signature? Have I just clicked to it?

ie the one about nearly nailed that mortgage. Does that mean you've managed to get to nearly having paid it off?

Do we celebrate?

calicocat

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

<Knocks on screen to Calico>

...errrrm....when did that last line appear in your signature? Have I just clicked to it?

ie the one about nearly nailed that mortgage. Does that mean you've managed to get to nearly having paid it off?

Do we celebrate?

Lol....i put it on yesterday....i'm not there yet, but getting there,pretty close really, and figured if I put it on my sig then it would keep reminding me and focus my spending.


However.......

I am now on yet a different tablet as of the other day to try and help with the internal radiator malfunction, which is making me really tired and feel pretty sickly so far.

So...have just spoken to the acting manager about going part time for August while the weather is still hot and makes it worse. the ward i'm on the windows don't open and there is no air-con.....so I often look like i've just got out the shower and feel krap.

She is going to speak to HR today......yay....

This of course means i'll only be earning enough to survive probably and not give me any room to save or pay off more on mortgage for a month..or two. However, it will give me a breather, and let me see how I would manage on part time money. A colleague and I had discussed a job share rather than us both losing our job if it comes to that type of scenario.....so this will give me a taster of how that would be if they allow me to do it.

I guess in a way if someone is saying they don't feel well, and they don't grant part time for a short period, they would be stupid, as that would be running the risk of a person going sick....then they'd have to pay me and someone else to cover.

We shall see what they say though , as I don't really want to go off sick if I can avoid it even though I would be better off financially.....as there is also the whole thing of when they reconfigure services they will be looking at sick records etc I would imagine so may as well give myself the best chance of getting a preferred job for now.

I do have to say that i'm rather excited at the prospect of part time, but equally think I could well get a shock at the lack of money....either way, i'll have enjoyed part time for a while and also focused my finances and what realistically I need to work for the future.


I SO hope they grant it, even if it is just for a month. I did also say that I figured my GP would be happy enough to write a letter if need be.....just to focus their minds too.

Watch it now go cold and rain all August!.......lol...sso I can't even feel tired and sick on my hammock.

JustKeepSwimming_2

Hi all - sorry this is going to be a bit of a rant but I'm so upset just now I need to get it all out....

I decided to go away for a few days to Wales & booked the train & hotel (last minute so not very MSE but I figured I'd be out & about on the beach & not spending too much more so it'd be OK).

So yesterday I went out on my first walk - all going well & I'm in the middle of nowhere at least 1 hour away from the nearest bus stop (hey, I'd been organised & knew where I was going, I was sunscreened & had plenty of water so what could go wrong?)

Well, I slipped on a path, landed heavily on my knee (I'm not petite ) dropped my bag & my water bottle went scuttling off down the hill. So I picked myself up, sat down & with shaking hands pulled my first aid kit out of my bag (as I'm organised) only to drop it & have it scuttle off following my water . Not a hope of getting to either item as the hill is steep, slippery & apart from the path is covered in thistles.

So I tried to clean myself up as best I could with spit & a tissue - not too much blood luckily, but my knee was swelling nicely & rather painful. No option but to carry on walking/hobbling up the hill where the field I needed to cross had a few horses in it - who didn't seem happy to see me. Now I'm not usually a wimp but after one threw his head about & knocked my arm when I tried to open the gate I just crumpled to the ground & wept

How ridiculous does that sound? Even more ridiculously I started cursing my single status & being thoroughly exhausted with having to sort everything out myself. Why couldn't somebody else just look after me for a bl***y change! Just glad there was nobody else around to hear my outburst :rotfl: & even the horses wandered off when I got really tearful, so at least I could cross the field & get the bus back to the hotel.

Today my knee is black & blue & really painful - the damage is just to the skin, but often those quite superficial wounds can be the most painful. So I've spent a fortune on dressings & updating my new first aid kit, & resigned myself to no more long walks along the beaches, but sitting in coffee shops instead. I should be pleased that I can at least do this, but my inner brat is stropping about having my plans curtailed yet again & feeling so p'd off that things have a way of often not working out for me - sure I'll calm down soon

Oh, & my monthly visitor has arrived a week early :eek: so I've had to go & buy new supplies - this restful holiday is getting very expensive & I'm not really enjoying myself that much :mad:

Hope everyone else is having a better time than I am :T

LavenderBees

Oh bless you, JKS, I'm sorry your lovely time turned into a horror movie...thank goodness it didn't rain as well, eh?

I've also been known to do the same - ranting and raving with upset and dare I say it, panic, at yet another huge problem presenting itself. And I am frequently exhausted (or have been the last 18mths) at having to sort everything...e v e r y darn little thing myself. But, having said that, on balance, I prefer being in control of my own destiny, and, whilst problems exhaust me (or their impact exhaust me), finding the right resolution for me, not someone else, is very empowering. I don't mind helpfully intended advice, but I think I'm too darn independent these days to take a back seat with my own problems.

I hope you feel better for your rail against the world yesterday, and well done you on having the resilience to get yourself back to the hotel.

At least the horses were sensitive enough to give you your space (or bored by you due to lack of treats :rotfl: ).

If it's any consolation, which I know it won't be, I'm having a grot time of a different nature - old-boy-cat is pretty poorly and every discussion with the vet naturally centres around does he (the cat not the vet :rotfl:)still have quality of life (yes, is the answer from both vet and myself...at the mo, anyway), but it's only a matter of time. And sitting here at my desk, desperately trying to keep my eyes open, having been up all night with him (the cat not the vet :rotfl:) either being sick or desperate for food or cuddles, has me doubting myself and my decision making again and again, even though on these sorts of things, I've not yet made an incorrect decision, but there's always a first time, isn't there?

Sometimes, like in the dead of last night trying to cope on my own again, I think what wouldn't I give to have someone share in the burden of this, but honestly, would I really like that? A difference of opinion would just irritate me, someone agreeing would just irritate me...I'm just bloomin irritable :rotfl:

Anyway, JKS, I hope you have a better few days break from here on in - take it in the spirit intended that a higher purpose wanted you to have a rest - feet up, coffee and cake...what's not to like?

LB xx

Byatt

Jks, so glad it wasn't worse, but as one who goes down like a ton of bricks, I do sympathise. I haven't learned to bounce yet. No, not ridiculous to rant. Perfectly natural. I wouldn't have been brave enough to be in the field with horses as any animal always makes a bee line for me, and I get very jittery, which they sense. Coffee shops and people watching must be the order of the day, and I hope you enjoy the rest of your holiday.

I have had a better time I guess, popped my Pulse form off at last at the gym, enquired about aquarobics and a lovely woman chatted to me as I was leaving (normally unheard of, people don't do stranger chat usually)...then the dentist, who is a lovely girl, so not too bad, then off to park in town as it's market day, it's horrendously busy, managed to get a space but then realised I had no change, when a nice man bounded up and gave me his ticket (very under the counter type of thing as it's not allowed), then found a Nige!!a salt pig for £2 in the CS. Bought a load of fruit form the market for £2.50!

Then home....to the dreaded minutes of yesterday's meeting with DD. Not sure why they told me it went well, because the influence of this woman is even worse than I imagined. Seems she is "protecting" DD, but DD's personal hygiene has gone downhill along with the house. Well, there's lots more, but I won't mention it here. The idea is for us to meet to "resolve our differences"....not sure how support think that's going to happen. Well, it's not because I'm not meeting gf. Neither are going to listen to a word I say. I hate there's nothing I can do, well there is but it's not legal.

Anyway, I'm reasonably upbeat, burying my head in the sand has its advantages.

Oh, Jks, Witch Hazel is supposed to be good for bruising.

lynsayjane

Hi all,

first time posting on this thread but being fairly recently single it's uplifting to hear some of your tales of positivity.

JKS, am so sorry to hear your holiday isn't going as planned but if it cheers you up let me tell you about a similar rant I had a few years ago.
It was Valentine's and I was out with a few girlfriends for some *cough* coca colas. At the end of the night when I'd had one cola too many I maybe made a slightly inappropriate offer to the bouncer of the establishment I was in and was rebuffed. Smarting a little I decided I didn't want to go home to my nice cosy bed but that a walk down the beach at 3am was the best idea. While there I let myself get upset and had a screaming match with the heavens about how bloody unfair of them it was that I had so much love inside me and no one to share it with.... you can imagine how it went.
Afterwards I felt much better and decided to head home, I've no idea what kind of mess I must have looked with tear stained, make up smudged face. I must have looked out of place anyway as a passing policecar did a U turn and stopped to ask if I was ok. I explained that I'd felt like a walk but that I was indeed ok. They asked where I was going and I said a party (received a text from a friend during the screaming match) and they offered me a lift. So in I hopped and went off to the party as though nothing happened.
Sometimes it's good just to let it all go and you feel an immense relief to unburden yourself.

I hope the rest of your holiday goes better and as another poster says, the universe clearly wants you to put up your feet and relax.

Oh and just in case anyone else finds themselves in the back of a police car at 4am please do not text your mum to inform her you're locked in the back like a proper criminal. She will not appreciate it haha

LJ
x

MummyBobble

What I love about being here is that we feel we can all share our good news and entertaining moments along with our rants and moans. I've come to realise that no matter how it looks to the rest of us from the outside, I doubt that anyone has the "perfect" life we all dream of.

The roller coaster that is my life would be too scary for the hardcore rider at any theme park :eek:, but at least I know I'm alive and can appreciate the good stuff no matter how carp the rest of it might be. We all have far more positives than we recognise because it's simply part of who we are. That said we are also allowed to feel sad, let down and worried. Being able to share it helps, so thank you fellow singlies.:A

Byatt

Lovely post MummyBobble :T

Hi, lynsayjane

to add to my positive day, I popped out again, seeing as I still had the free parking ticket which was for all day, as I wanted to get a small wooden cat I'd seen (to go with the other wooden cats...:o) in the Cs, and as I returned to my car a woman next to em started chatting (believe me this is unheard off! so twice in one day?!)...and as I got in my car she said, "you have such a lovely face, a gorgeous compexion..."

...forgot to say in my earlier post, also getting my hair cut and finished (whatever that means) for free at local hairdresser. They had a sign outside the door for their newly graduated girl. :T:D Well chuffed.

calicocat

MummyBobble wrote: »

What I love about being here is that we feel we can all share our good news and entertaining moments along with our rants and moans. I've come to realise that no matter how it looks to the rest of us from the outside, I doubt that anyone has the "perfect" life we all dream of.

The roller coaster that is my life would be too scary for the hardcore rider at any theme park :eek:, but at least I know I'm alive and can appreciate the good stuff no matter how carp the rest of it might be. We all have far more positives than we recognise because it's simply part of who we are. That said we are also allowed to feel sad, let down and worried. Being able to share it helps, so thank you fellow singlies.:A

What a lovely post...and so true.!

Some of the krap things that have happened to me I wouldn't even bother chatting about (jaw dislocated by one ex/money stolen by another blaa bla bla) . It's irrelevant now to my life most of the time, but I may end up sharing some of those as time goes on and it is relevant to someone's present time on here.

We all have stories to tell though, good and bad, and this is a great thread for that. I think it's a good place for a rant, and it gets it out there , whether people can help or not...sometimes just shouting about stuff helps doesn't it.

I think we are a good bunch of bods.


I'm currently sitting in front of my fan blasting out lovely cool air, and contemplating a hot stuffy ward that has no freezer for ice-cream. Last night there wasn't even a fan left at work for me, all the patients had swiped them for their rooms....not that I could blame them, I would be doing the same. I am taking as many out as possible for ciggys so that I can be outside.....lol.

Hope the break gets better JKS....or at least more entertaining for the rest of us. hope you don't mind but I did find myself laughing a bit at everything rolling down the hill in front of your eyes.....veryy Bridget Jones.

Darcy could be round the next corner.

calicocat

Byatt wrote: »

Lovely post MummyBobble :T

Hi, lynsayjane

to add to my positive day, I popped out again, seeing as I still had the free parking ticket which was for all day, as I wanted to get a small wooden cat I'd seen (to go with the other wooden cats...:o) in the Cs, and as I returned to my car a woman next to em started chatting (believe me this is unheard off! so twice in one day?!)...and as I got in my car she said, "you have such a lovely face, a gorgeous compexion..."

...forgot to say in my earlier post, also getting my hair cut and finished (whatever that means) for free at local hairdresser. They had a sign outside the door for their newly graduated girl. :T:D Well chuffed.

She is right, you do have a lovely face and complexion.....i have told you this before. You need to start believing it kiddo.