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calicocat

lulabelle wrote: »

Southern girl, people totally window dress their lives on FB - look at me/my relationship/my kids/my friends, were all having such an amazing time and life's so perfect. But you're right, if it was so bloody perfect they'd be out there living their lives instead of posting about it. When we were at coffee earlier my mates husband got really wound up cos some chick on the next table had a contraption to help her take better selfies!!!

I'm not on faceache, but totally agree with this post. I do see it at times when with friends etc.

All seems pretty narcissistic to me most of the time. Plus !!!!!y and can be a very good outlet for a bit of cyber bullying.

You can't type.....b I t c h it appears.

calicocat

Lol.....i think I have done myself in mooching about in the sea yesterday...!!.

It was pretty choppy so must have used more energy than I realised as didn't wake up until midday . Having said that i'm going back for more this evening. I think it will be choppy again as weather pretty much the same as yesterday and quite windy.

So, all i've done today is make a chicken and duck pie to eat cold over the next couple of days and mowed the lawn at the front and am now done in again....lol.


Hope today isn't too vile LB.x

JustKeepSwimming_2

lillibet_dripping wrote: »

Hello Singlies


My 'babies' (19 and 18!!!) are also away at the moment (in France, at their supposedly 'financially poor' father's house in the South of France). They are due back on Wednesday.
The house has stayed beautifully tidy, hardly any washing or washing-up to be done - but, my, is it quiet!!! On the plus side, have just read the electric/gas meters for the past two weeks and there has been hardly any usage at all so every cloud and all that!.......Having no children to worry about, I love eating what I want!!!!

I love eating spicy curries when I'm alone - no whinging that its too hot, has too many vegetables etc. Hadn't thought to check utility usage but it must be down too - glad to have another benefit to DD & DS being away as I'm started to get quite freaked out by my tidy home :rotfl:. It must sound mad but I'm almost finding it a little unsettling, as if I'm in the wrong house or that somebody else is here & is tidying up behind my back then hiding themselves....

Sorry Lilibet for removing your done list from the above post - I've done SFA for days so I'm feeling inadequate (but :T & I bet the food was lovely).

LavenderBees wrote: »

Am just reading through last weekend's Telegr&ph, and have come across some good news in the Money section...Phew! (not that I have any money, but I do like to read it as occasionally it has something relevant to me!)

I've been worried that the govt was consulting on increasing the age that private pensions could be taken from 55 upwards...yep, it was never going to be downwards, but it seems that for those of us born before 05/03/71, if you have money in a private pension, you will still be able to claim it at 55..if you can afford to, of course.

But at least the option still exists, and it certainly is making me feel better to have that age to focus on - only 6+yrs away for me, to at least think about part time working or frugal retirement :T

Anyone born after that date will have to wait til at least 57 or even later (up to 60 by the look of things).

Given that the state pension age for me is around 68 (at the moment), then some careful planning is needed to give me a retirement while I hope to be fit enough to enjoy it.

Food for thought, anyway.

How did I get old enough to be having to think about planning for retirement???

LB xx

I'm with you on wondering about retirement planning - considering I've still got so long to go before SRA (23 years & counting & sure it will go up again before then :rotfl:) I'm surprised at how much time I'm spending thinking about my pension arrangements. But no matter how much I try & put a positive spin on it, I'm going to be broke when I retire . Better start looking for that rich man on a white horse.....

Byatt wrote: »

I don't want to sound as if I'm minimising PND, but Calico, that first sentence made me :rotfl:, as well as the last, wouldn't it be fab if posters could be put up.

Made me smile too Byatt. I'd love to put up the odd poster too & think it would be great. Or how about going one step further & each undesirable man could have idiot (or words to that effect ) tattooed on his forehead. Would have saved me so much time, money & heartache if I could have just checked under the fringe :rotfl:

I'm suffering a bit with my knee injury - it seems to be superficially infected so I'm doing lots of salt water washes & trying to take it easy. Bit fed up really as I'd like to be back out walking & enjoying my child-free time by going out but it still smarts whenever I walk so I think I should stay in & rest it Shame the Commonwealth Games have ended as there now isn't much on TV that I want to watch, so guess I'll have to drag out some DVDs. My guilty pleasure has been Desperate Housewives when I've been ill & I think I've still not seen the last 3 seasons, so that's where Ill be today.

Have fun all :j

lynsayjane

Afternoon all,

Seems to have been a mixed weekend all round. hugs to those that need them and smiles to any that don't!

In my case it's not eh ex that's causing issues, the girl after me decided she wanted to try and add my work page as a friend on Facebook on Saturday evening. Since my work is with Ann Summers it is HIGHLY inappropriate. The ex has never done anything nasty or malicious since the split (well unless you count moving on within a few weeks to the dirty skank at his work), she however appears to be another story.
Why do women have to turn on each other that way over men? I've never tried to talk to him or have anything to do with them but she feels it acceptable to be a boot.
Needless to say, blocked from both my pages and they're welcome to each other. I wish them a short and miserable time together

LJ
x

moneyistooshorttomention

Who knows re Facebook and all that? I certainly don't...but then I rarely venture into that area personally. It's just so handy being in the agegroup I am in personally (ie late middle age), in that I have a Facebook account, but barely pay it any attention iyswim.

I'm onto totally different "dilemmas" at the moment. Mine being of the more "old-fashioned" variety re what way to look at financial aspects if someone comes here for a holiday or the like and I'm wondering how things go re paying in that respect. Not been in that situation before, but am now living in an area some people like to visit on holiday (which is fine by me and nice to see friendly faces etc) but don't know how it all gets "worked out financially" in those circumstances. I'm quite clear the visitor pays for their transport costs to and fro and no doubt whatsoever about that. In my way of thinking "Visitor" pays for all their "outing" costs whilst here (ie petrol and parking fees) even if host comes with them. In my way of thinking host provides all food/electric/etc within hosts' home gratis and guest then does some sort of "thank you gesture" somewhere along the line (eg guest pays hosts share of a reasonable level meal out somewhere near the end of their visit). That seems reasonable to me.

I do know that different "circles" of people have different mores as to "how to behave" and, for instance, I've been shocked to the core before now by a friend many years ago not inviting me to their wedding (which I subsequently realised wasn't "personal", as that circle only seems to invite relatives) and just consoled myself for the perceived slight by thinking "At least that means I don't have to buy them a wedding present then" (which, in my circle, you certainly do have to buy if you have been invited, even if you don't go). In some of the family I have been born into weddings also include inviting business colleagues (which is something I personally don't agree with and see weddings as being for friends and close family and "further out" family get invited if finances allow).

Problems that come up in Britain sometimes with our different expectations....and we probably all of us think "our" personal expectations are correct...:cool:

calicocat

I cant remember now, but is it a week the visitor will be with you??

If it was me staying with someone for a week, and if I was driving so what i was taking was chucked into the car, I would probably take 4 bottles of vino, a couple of desserts or a cake, some cheeses, and maybe a pate or cold cooked ham or something similar. I would also expect to either split or take in turns eating out in general, and pay for a last meal as a thank you for the hospitality thing.

If I wasn't driving down I would just buy them once I got there.


RE: Fachache.....in her wisdom, my mother at coming up 80 has decided to join it..........

She spent half an hour asking me who different people are????.....like I know?.....lol......this will end in tears, or a financial disaster.

It was only a few months ago she spent 400 on a face cream thinking she was paying for postage on free samples...!!!.....and they were going to charge her every month for some other ruddy cream.



Tired again now back home, time to chill with tv tonight and will be having an early night I think.....possibly not far off either.

moneyistooshorttomention

:rotfl:Sounds pretty okay to me Calico and more than I would anticipate personally Calico....:T:)

Probably won't be waiting too long for an early night myself...as its been a day out exploring today. That's the thing about being in a new area, ie that I've been working out what places I think I might like and/or "should" explore and am working my way through them bit by bit...

Today's Explore Trip wasn't a particularly successful one. It rather confirmed my opinion of the place in question. Never mind...at least I know....

I tend to regard my Explore Trips as a case of "getting my bearings" and I am learning how to find my way around/where I can get what/etc. Guess that's one thing I learnt from my father during my "military brat dragged round world as a child" phase, ie that you get out there and start exploring to see whats what. Have found a couple of places that count as "My Places" that I shall be going back to for repeat visits and the various walks around them I can see are there.

3forholidays

I'm another non FB user - I don't see the point of joining as I don't want to read about 'little Joe & their first tooth' or what someone had for their breakfast!

Winter_Phoenix

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

I'm onto totally different "dilemmas" at the moment. Mine being of the more "old-fashioned" variety re what way to look at financial aspects if someone comes here for a holiday or the like and I'm wondering how things go re paying in that respect. Not been in that situation before, but am now living in an area some people like to visit on holiday (which is fine by me and nice to see friendly faces etc) but don't know how it all gets "worked out financially" in those circumstances. I'm quite clear the visitor pays for their transport costs to and fro and no doubt whatsoever about that. In my way of thinking "Visitor" pays for all their "outing" costs whilst here (ie petrol and parking fees) even if host comes with them. In my way of thinking host provides all food/electric/etc within hosts' home gratis and guest then does some sort of "thank you gesture" somewhere along the line (eg guest pays hosts share of a reasonable level meal out somewhere near the end of their visit). That seems reasonable to me.

I don't know whether it will help, but I also live in a place which "everybody" wants to visit, and as well as the predictable requests from old friends etc., I also get, "My penfriend/cousin/bridesmaid/whatever from (insert random country here) has ALWAYS wanted to see that area, could you possibly put them up for a few nights while they are in the UK?"

Now, my experience is that 99% of these people are fine, I've made some good friends and have received "return invitations" for all over the world. However, I have learnt the hard way to send everyone who is coming to stay (including old friends) a copy of the "house rules", which spell out exactly what is expected of them. I found it quite difficult and embarrassing to do this at first, but in fact people really like being clear about what is, and is not, OK in this household during their visit here. The house rules are perfectly reasonable, they cover things like not smoking in the house and what they are expected to pay for, and anyone who doesn't like them can always opt for a local B&B instead - but no-one ever has!

Of course, I can't write rules about absolutely everything, so there is always going to be the occasional problem (who would expect a 35-year-old to trampoline on their bed and break it?!?) but they do seem to save a lot of misunderstandings, cultural differences, and potential friction.

MummyBobble

Well DD's on her way to see her best friend in Greece. First time flying on her own :eek:. I must say thank you to the lovely security man at Liverpool airport who, when she got upset at having to go through to departures on her own, let me wait with her, found out what gate she was flying from and asked another member of staff to go through with her and show her where she needed to be. I'd promised her I wouldn't leave the airport until she was safely on the plane so another thank you also goes to the lovely ladies on the Easy-jet desk who confirmed for me that she had boarded the plane (and gave me tissues because I was shedding the odd tear...). I made a point of going to customer services to give thanks for all their help, we're often far to quick to moan or criticise but very often slow to show appreciation. Big thanks to Liverpool airport and Easy-jet :T Can't wait to hear from her, she'll have a fabulous time. Lucky girl I think, and now I can stop putting the washing machine on and breathe! (Oh and catch up all the posts here )