OS Singlies - We Do It Our Way!

dibuzz

It is hard being on your own with kids, I've never had anyone to help at times like that either.
As a mum you always put yourself last but sometimes it's the wrong thing to do. I hope your son soon feels better JKS.
My weekends have always been a mad whirl of getting kids to training and matches until last year when my son and daughter both stopped playing rugby.
For the last few weeks I've made sure I relax on the sofa reading or watching tv on a Sunday for at least a couple of hours and it does help.

Byatt

Here you are guys, for all of us who think we can retire:

http://www.theguardian.com/education/2014/jun/23/retain-retired-teachers-tory-mps

just noticed the link has a spelling mistake :rotfl::eek:

LavenderBees

I wouldn't mind if my house was spotless...but it's a long way from that...in fact the oven must have cleaned itself as I ahven't, and it had finally stopped smoking when I use it...can only assume it's given up bleating as it knows there is no chance of being cleaned.

But leaving things undone at a weekend is not a choice if you know that it means you'll simply be behind on everything all week so be in bed at midnight instead of 10.30...

So, it's certainly a dilemma, but I've no intention of not having the pets just because I'm single and struggle to fit it all in. I will fit it in, indeed I am fitting it in...it's just leaving no time for lazing around, which I also need sometimes. I luvs my pets a load more than I luvs lazing around...after puking on my bedroom curtains, kitten then "helped" me take the curtains down by climbing up them as I worked. Whats not to love? :smileyhea

RE - dreams, I was going to say that everyone needs dreams...even small ones....I can't imagine suppressing dreams and hopes. I'd expect that would contribute majorly to any low mood. Maybe just keep the dreams reasonably realistic...like my dream to sit with a cuppa by 9pm tonight...oh scratch that...that's an example of an unrealistic dream :rotfl:

Really sympathise with the singlie parents struggling to deal with kids, let alone poorly kids. SO incredibly difficult. But just throwing a question out there....why is ex hubby's course more important that a hospital appointment?...I know that's the tempation to think he's so far away, but if it had been you, JKS, I suspect you'd have gone to look after your son regardless of the course...so maybe think about realigining your ex's priorities for him? Easier said than done, I know, but the bringing up the children jobbie isn't just yours.... or shouldn't be...

OK, back to boring spreadsheet. 3 hrs to go...

LB xx

Byatt

Dibuzz, I think it's hard not to think you should be doing something. (sorry think my grammar is all wrong )...this past month I've tried retraining my brain to think it's ok to just sit and read or lie on the bed and read, which was a favourite past time many years ago...I always feel I should be doing something, or looking around thinking...this, this and this needs doing...blah, blah...so end up not rested just frazzled!

I was always taking my DD somewhere, friends were non existent from school (and the one that was, well the mother had a fling with my husband, oh gawd I should write a book ) because of her autism and so I had no fall back with other parents, when I was ill or just to have a free few hours. So it was drop off at school, dash into work from 9 till 3 (no lunch hour) dash to pick her up, home, then gym club or brownies or horse riding or swimming etc...I used to have to travel a bit because the kids from school were in the local clubs and as they were bullying at school I chose places where the kids accepted her as she was without any history to get in the way. My ex then gave my car to his family, so it involved buses and walking for a year or so. :cool:

Thinking back I'm not sure where I got the energy from! :eek:;) Or the will to live :rotfl:

edit, I just wanted to make it clear I didn't know about the fling until we split up...just so you don't think I was such a wimp...lol

LB what a helpful kitty with the curtains

LavenderBees

Byatt wrote: »

Here you are guys, for all of us who think we can retire:

http://www.theguardian.com/education/2014/jun/23/retain-retired-teachers-tory-mps

just noticed the link has a spelling mistake :rotfl::eek:

:rotfl: at the spelling mistake...

So, it seems any untrained oldie can teach and keep control of a class?... words fail me. Actually, no they don't...this is just another example of how out of touch politicians/MDs of global companies etc think the ordinary folk can be replaced by untrained people, who are cheaper. Instead of making education the priority it should be, and training people properly, paying them properly, giving them the resources they need to teach properly...Ah yes, words fail me as you can see ....I see it all the time at work here...who needs a trained professional when an untrained monkey will do it for peanuts, and then they wonder why it all goes wrong!

And breathe...

And if anyone thinks I'd be doing that instead of sitting around with my feet up on a cruise somewhere when I retire, they are sadly mistaken.

Can you tell I'm bored with work this afternoon...?

LB xx

moneyistooshorttomention

LOL at the mere thought of me going into a classroom and trying to help out:rotfl:. I'm not great with kids, can just about manage with those very "adult" type kids that just wander up and start talking to anyone and are reasonably well-behaved. Other children (whether child age or someone who is well into adult age, but is a child in an adult body iykwim) = NO chance.:rotfl:

Yep...finished my lunch with friends then...must count as longest lunchbreak ever ...and I got given pressies too. Whats not to like?:). More cooking coming up...as they were food-oriented. I'd not heard of the cookbook I was given, but looks like My Way Of Eating....:T. Off to pick up some new ideas then...

calicocat

Byatt wrote: »

Here you are guys, for all of us who think we can retire:

http://www.theguardian.com/education/2014/jun/23/retain-retired-teachers-tory-mps

just noticed the link has a spelling mistake :rotfl::eek:

Well, this just proves how insane they are....and how out of touch they are with how the average people feel about life at the moment. What they will do more likely is say that you won't get your state pension unless you do this, a bit like that workfare or whatever it's called........all the more reason to save like mad now and be independent of any ruddy government as much as possible. I don't think by the time I retire they'll give me a state pension anyhow, and i'm not teaching anyone to get it, i'd rather eat beans all week.

So jog on lovely government.......lol.


I was reading an article where it reckons by 2040 most jobs will be done by robots.....aside from care work and one other that I can't now remember......the first thing could be taxis that are run by google robot technology....oh dear.

Charis

Byatt wrote: »

JKS,



I agree with BW, and let some of the chores go and set time aside to do what you want to do. When you're old and grey like me :rotfl:, you will look back and not remember whether your house was spotless or recall the highlight of having a hoovered house but you will recall the little oasis of joy you felt from doing something that fed your soul.

How very true Byatt! :beer:

calicocat

Actually, just sitting here pondering what to have for tea (which translates as what I can be bothered to make as the maid seems rather elusive today)....and also pondering the whole job and hours worked thing.

I moan about mine, and most people do hate the thought of night shifts which I agree is a bit poo.....But...I can also see working 9 -5 has its drawbacks too. For instance, if I take a 'working week' off, this means I get 12 days off which is great. I also get more than the 4 weeks hols that some get.....the downside being working lots of weekends, most xmas's and holidays.....but travelling into work i'm not stuck in loads of traffic. Any job discounting the actual work and purely meaning the hours done has it's plus and minus. Working nights although I am tired a lot of the time and my sleep pattern is krap, it does feel like I actually get time away from it rather than when I worked 5 days and felt like I never left the place.

I was contemplating the other day whether to go back to days as nights are quite unheaalthy.....but have just convinced myself that's a really stupid idea as I don't like that ward enough to cope with day shift. So, that's one decision made today.


Regarding chores, apart from animal (and now plant ones) if I was offered something better to do, the chores can go swing until another time in my book.



Always nice to get pressies MTSTM...so a good day by the sounds of it.

3forholidays

Byatt I used to visit my Grandad & my Great Auntie every Saturday and sometimes used to complain to my Mum about going every weekend (being a typical teenager) as I wanted to go shopping. Now that they have died I'm glad that I went on Saturdays to spend time with them as I have memories that I wouldn't have otherwise.