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metherer

Evening all, hope you're well and hugs if you're not (or just want a hug).

I've done something v naughty and non-MSE. Martin's spinning and he's not even in the grave!:money:

Once OH moves out, I'm not going to be able to go away on the spur of the moment as I have been able to in the past (by the way dear, I'm going to Oxford/London/the Moon this weekend) because I'll need to arrange pet care. So, I've planned one last trip away.

I'm a fan of a certain Gentleman Rhymer (a rapper with class, don't-cha know) and he's playing the Elgar Rooms at the Royal Albert Hall in April. Tickets were a v reasonable price (<£14) so I've booked one. :j

Thing is, I live in North Yorkshire, so a cheap ticket has miraculously become about £125 what with train, coach and hotel (Travelodge). Add to that 2 x taxi fares down there, food, shopping and a book for the way home and it will be the thick end of £200 I reckon. For 24 hours! :eek: (arrive in London 2pm, and leave 2pm the next day)

But you know what? I don't care . I'm really looking forward to it. I'm going on my own, which will be a bit scary, but how else am I going to meet new people? I need to get out there, put myself into situations, else I'll just hibernate.

The 'do is in a fab place, easy to find my way to, and I will be amongst like minded people. It is sponsored by the Chap Magazine which I love, so I expect everyone will be there in their finery and having a fun time.

Already planning what to wear, and have got hat materials on order. I really must get out more.

mum2one

metherer wrote: »

Evening all, hope you're well and hugs if you're not (or just want a hug).

I've done something v naughty and non-MSE. Martin's spinning and he's not even in the grave!:money:

Once OH moves out, I'm not going to be able to go away on the spur of the moment as I have been able to in the past (by the way dear, I'm going to Oxford/London/the Moon this weekend) because I'll need to arrange pet care. So, I've planned one last trip away.

I'm a fan of a certain Gentleman Rhymer (a rapper with class, don't-cha know) and he's playing the Elgar Rooms at the Royal Albert Hall in April. Tickets were a v reasonable price (<£14) so I've booked one. :j

Thing is, I live in North Yorkshire, so a cheap ticket has miraculously become about £125 what with train, coach and hotel (Travelodge). Add to that 2 x taxi fares down there, food, shopping and a book for the way home and it will be the thick end of £200 I reckon. For 24 hours! :eek: (arrive in London 2pm, and leave 2pm the next day)

But you know what? I don't care . I'm really looking forward to it. I'm going on my own, which will be a bit scary, but how else am I going to meet new people? I need to get out there, put myself into situations, else I'll just hibernate.

The 'do is in a fab place, easy to find my way to, and I will be amongst like minded people. It is sponsored by the Chap Magazine which I love, so I expect everyone will be there in their finery and having a fun time.

Already planning what to wear, and have got hat materials on order. I really must get out more.

Good for you, when do you get the chance to spoil yourself - ok the est bill is £200 but ur gettin a lot of pleasure from that, (my unexpected spend of £208 is paying for Visas for holiday.... I think they should be included with price of hol, so trust me I vote for your £200 spend) xxx

LavenderBees

Yay! Well done, Metherer. Proud of you! :T

I'm just about to unexpectedly book me a wee holiday for Sept, so fully understand that mixture of excitement and anxiety. :eek:

As for losing things...at least you lot know what you've lost. I have a note to myself to "find....." WHAT?? WHAT HAVE I LOST?? WHAT DO I NEED TO FIND AT THE WEEKEND??

Gawd help me!

:rotfl:

LavenderBees

grousescot wrote: »

I would be interested to know how open the rest of your are at work when it comes to things like this which will mean time off for more than a few days. I've had it approved officially by the relevant people but I haven't mentioned it to anyone else who I work with (it's quite a small team). It's not something I really want to talk about in the office.

Best of luck with the op, grousescot. Hope it all goes well.

If you don't want to talk about in the office, then don't. It's your personal business. However, I have to say I'm usually fairly open. Mainly because with caring for my parents, I've had to work at daft hours/not been around in normal working time/had to delegate work etc. To do that, I've needed the support of my wee team, even if it's mostly just been that they've understood my need to do this. Would your work colleagues not be a source of support to you, if you let them be?

lostinrates

LavenderBees wrote: »

Yay! Well done, Metherer. Proud of you! :T

I'm just about to unexpectedly book me a wee holiday for Sept, so fully understand that mixture of excitement and anxiety. :eek:

As for losing things...at least you lot know what you've lost. I have a note to myself to "find....." WHAT?? WHAT HAVE I LOST?? WHAT DO I NEED TO FIND AT THE WEEKEND??

Gawd help me!

:rotfl:

Email from DH today ' do you know where my ww2 flying hat and goggles are ".


Lir 'no'

DH ' my boss needs them'


Lir wonders what it is exactly dh's boss needs with a ww2 flying hat and googles and how it came up in conversation.

Still have no idea where it is. In a box.

Lir smiles slightly maliciously. Of course, if DH would stop hoarding crud in boxes he might know where the stuff he wanted was.

Re the twenty minute bed time routine. I try not to go to bed without a to east the sitting room sort of tidy. I prefer kitchen sort of done too.


Coming down to a tidy house makes the idea of cleaning easier, and simply facing the day. I don't mind cleaning but I hate tidying, If I have to do both I feel pretty grim, If I have a clear run in the morning I feel I can get stuff done a bit.

BookWorm

grousescot wrote: »

I guess the workplace can be a source of friendship for some people but that does not appear to be the case for me. I'd much rather my own company at home than an hour or so in the pub with the same people I spend the working day with.

That is exactly how I feel about it too!

I would be interested to know how open the rest of your are at work when it comes to things like this which will mean time off for more than a few days. I've had it approved officially by the relevant people but I haven't mentioned it to anyone else who I work with (it's quite a small team). It's not something I really want to talk about in the office.

I haven't taken any length of time off for anything medical but if it was something I didn't want to share - then I wouldn't. It's no-one else's business

I hope all goes well with the op

metherer wrote: »

I've done something v naughty and non-MSE. Martin's spinning and he's not even in the grave!:money:

I've planned one last trip away.

Good for you hun :T Hope you have a great time

melanzana

grousescot wrote: »

Springdreams, I must try your 20mins a night housework routine. I tend to get something done at the weekend but leaving it to then is a bit much.

Lavenderbees, I've got a bit of a commute too so I've pretty much given up on any after-work socialising the odd time something is organised. I guess the workplace can be a source of friendship for some people but that does not appear to be the case for me. I'd much rather my own company at home than an hour or so in the pub with the same people I spend the working day with.

This could be my last weekend at home and fully able for a couple of weeks at least. I have some complex eye surgery being done next week (my eyes have been an issue my whole life) after which will mean some days in hospital and then staying with my parents for a few more days. I'm generally OK with medical stuff but I'm getting nerves now and especially not looking forward to being away from here for a while and losing some degree of independence however temporarily. I'd like to leave the place in a reasonable state so I don't come back to a mess or a cure for the common cold growing somewhere, or my parents need to stop by for whatever reason.

I would be interested to know how open the rest of your are at work when it comes to things like this which will mean time off for more than a few days. I've had it approved officially by the relevant people but I haven't mentioned it to anyone else who I work with (it's quite a small team). It's not something I really want to talk about in the office.

I really hope your eye surgery goes well.

As for what anyone else thinks in your work team....well just goes to show how much you care about that, and hats off to you.

I reckon everyone will be just fine. You probably need to say it to them. Just because if you dont, they may feel a bit miffed.

If they know, they will support you. No worries about that. But if they don't know, and you disappear, well....

Don't get me wrong, I am a total keep it to myself person. But when I had troubles myself that needed time off, I told one person that I knew well, and asked her to tell everyone else..AFTER I had gone for a few weeks.

Please don't get worried about it. What is a big thing for you, may not be for others. And they will pull together to help your absence, if they KNOW why you are not there.

Chin up love....look after yourself. Your colleagues may surprise you! So best of luck and hope it all works out for you.

Sometimes it is about YOU!

mum2one

I would be interested to know how open the rest of your are at work when it comes to things like this which will mean time off for more than a few days. I've had it approved officially by the relevant people but I haven't mentioned it to anyone else who I work with (it's quite a small team). It's not something I really want to talk about in the office.[/QUOTE]

It depends as much on the people you work with, I had 2 intances that came to mind

1st - worked as a dry cleaner (main role but picked up overtime other departments) in a supermarket. I needed to book 2 days off as I was going in for hospital clinic - ladies probs - the treatment was done in clinic and you needed next day to rest - then a weeks light work. My dept manager - she knew what was going on, but I ended up having to tell the team I worked with coz I'd had arrangements to work for another dept for a week. As far as other colleagues were concerned it was just days off together, and the "temp" transfer was put down to lack of staff in new dept and as i had worked extra no questions asked.

All ok... did week light duties, but on last ngt I ended up having to go back to my dept, the managers excuse was "light duties" was ending that day so a few hrs wouldn't matter......

They did matter (thou it could have happened anytime). Lifting boxes of hanger around - next minute thought had an accident and wet myself - I hadn't I'd flooded for England - shouting for a girl who worked on till to come and help me, she got manager, got the pharmasist, another 4 staff came to see what the matter was, I'm lay flat on floor, it was obvious there was a prob, I then had to explain what happened, this ended up as an argument between the mgr and the pharmasist, ended up being rushed into hospital, spent 2 days in hosp, 2 weeks off work and rumours galore.

(I changed jobs not long after)
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Next job - 14 mths in - off work couple days kidney infection, went back - not right still as sick as dog, day and night, - handling cold curry sauce 6.30am straight to the ladies - I was pregnant with DD, - I was only 4 weeks gone... I wanted to keep it quiet till 12 weeks (get past the safe zone and previously miscarried), but my job role (I was a mgr - catering) proved keeping it quiet difficult - ended up having to tell about 30 staff...... I only worked 2 more weeks and got signed off........
My company were so lovely... never went back and ended up resigning, taking them to employment tribunal and 3 ys later - a nice golden handshake!!! xx

melanzana

Now singlies ..let's talk about laziness.

I have it, does anyone else?

If I can put off till three weeks time, what I could do today, I tend to.

If I can avoid that important letter, I do.

If I can use a baby wipe to dust the table, and not look at the floor, I will.

If I sit with tv remote, laptop and snugglie blanket, I will, even though things need doing.

But who cares?

My bathroom, and kitchen I do try to keep clean. The rest of the house, well.... Just bits and bobs!

Procrastination. Great word, and good for a lazy soul

lostinrates

A lot of dh's holiday maybe a third, a half a bit more so e years gets used on medical appointments with me . He doesn't discussit at all anymore. He's found employers unsympathetic to his role as what could be described as a 'carer in partial absentia' .