OS Singlies - We Do It Our Way!

lostinrates

Btw, I think we should definitely talk about something jolly.
I posted this elsewhere.

My cat made herself a hat out of the top sheet on the bed.




Edit( hope this isn't rubbish , lir starts ruefully packing bags)

LavenderBees

lostinrates wrote: »

Btw, I think we should definitely talk about something jolly.
I posted this elsewhere.

My cat made herself a hat out of the top sheet on the bed.

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Gosh...for someone without running water and walls/floors, you have posh top sheets :rotfl:...my sheets all have strategic rips and tears in them...:(

Pusscat is a cutie, that's for sure!

lostinrates

LavenderBees wrote: »

Gosh...for someone without running water and walls/floors, you have posh top sheets...my sheets all have strategic rips and tears in them...

Pusscat is a cutie, that's for sure!

Tbc I have running water in my utility room, (not kitchen) but just cold. (Actually, bizarrely I do have a posh fridge which dispenses water on the kitchen but not 'water water'


I have walls now, for over a year) but no back door:D :rotfl: (pallet and tarps) and we have concrete floors down stairs plus two rooms of very old carpet.



I have LOVELY sheets. :DThey are hand downs from my mother those ones. I also have bought my self some really stunningly expensive but superb flannel ones from cologne and cotton. I don't care how expensive they were, they have made winter bearable. .

We have family in US and flannel there is more like the very expensive stuff here, ironically its made in Portugal I think. But its heavy and jolly patterns.

mum2one

Has anyone else noticed that as a singly - that on forms theres always wheres the ex question.....

Trying to fill in form for holiday visa for DD, apparently the birth certificate (he's absent) is not good enough, I now have to pay to have a solicitor to write that my ex does not have PR.

Surely the fact that DD has the birth certificate and also the passport - is not good enough, (visa's are costing £104 each)... hence my frustration xx

calicocat

lostinrates wrote: »

Btw, I think we should definitely talk about something jolly.
I posted this elsewhere.

My cat made herself a hat out of the top sheet on the bed.




Edit( hope this isn't rubbish , lir starts ruefully packing bags)

Lol.....they love nice linen don't they. I have to say, cats ain't dumb. They know the difference between 100% cotton...and even the thread count i"m ruddy sure. I have a duvet that has some polyester I think in it.....Asbo not interested...put on the others, straight in there. I can see why however, the feel is totally different.

JustKeepSwimming_2

LavenderBees wrote: »

Sorry, you're feeling grot, JKS, hope you feel better soon!

This documents work is taking ages, as I'm now working through things like expired EHIC cards to renew, old savings accounts to close them etc etc. I'm also putting all important docs together in binders and labelling them etc.

By the end of the day, things should be much simplified, but it's SOOOOOOOOOOO BOOOOOOOOOOOOOORING!! ...:(

Feeling much better now thanks LB, just left with a bit of a croaky throat. Sure most of us who work in education suffer the same fate of keeping going through term time & dropping as soon as our holidays start. I know some people bang on about us having great holidays, but they don't take into account how intense it all is & how much of our holiday is taken up with being ill :mad:. Just thankful I'm only support staff, so no marking for me this week. Hope things are improving for you too.

Well done to all who have conquered their own Mount Paperworks - I must hang my head in shame here as I have not . But it's on my list....

groatie_queen wrote: »

.... and my Leaning Tower Of Paperwork is no more :j:j. .. even better, at the base of it was the missing birth certificate.:T:T

To celebrate, I took myself out this afternoon for a cuppa in a nostalgic wee tearoom a few miles away. Cuppa and Kindle - bliss! Then came home to a slow cooker beef and bean casserole.

I loved Nella Last's War, and also a book "The Past is Myself", by Christabel Bielenberg, an Irish/English woman living in Germany before and during WW2, whose German husband was caught up in the 1944 plot to overthrow Hitler. If this period interests you, there are a few books in the Persephone catalogue which relate to WW2 and are v interesting.

I also loved Victoria Hislop's book about Spinalonga. Very haunting...

Will check out those books too, thanks. Need to crack on with
homework for a very reluctant DS 11 who has become thoroughly disillusioned with school since starting secondary - probably not much time for reading then!

Slow cooker casserole - mmmm.

calicocat wrote: »

LB,

Having a bit of a flat mood would be perfectly understandable at the moment to say the least....and I am sure you will be ready for this year and all it brings in good time...but allow yourself that time.

Stick some fairylights on...always good for a mood lift.

I have abandoned seed planting as it is now dark so will wait until tomorrow or Tuesday in daylight now, but do have the base of the pie on the go, and chips cut.

I haven't spoken to a sole today, which probably due to my job as I spend each working day juggling talking to 20 plus people talking and usually at the same time,.......i have thoroughly loved it. Do any other singlies love this? My mum thinks i'm really odd (but she can talk for england).......the utter peace today has been bliss.

I sometimes wonder if I get to like this too much, and it makes me a bit of a hermit...especially if I have had a hectic week at work.


Re...lottery win and 'staff'....i would be up for a massage weekly, the hair doing each day I could give a miss....it takes months to get me to a hairdresser....but an 'on-tap' handy man would be a definite.

I love having the solitude of my odd weekends off when DS & DD go to their Dads (I do miss them of course ) but I treasure the sense of stillness that comes over the house. My job is quite frantic sometimes & I'm surrounded by children all day, so I need that stillness to recharge. I do wonder how I'll feel when they've left home & I have that peace every evening & weekend - will it be too much & will I feel even more lonely? I feel lonely now in the sense that I don't have another grown up with which to discuss/plan things even though I'm usually not physically alone as my 2 are around most of the time. I do have some close friends, but it isn't the same, is it?

Lottery wins - I'd go for a housekeeper who did all the shopping & cooking/clearing up (do I mean a slave :rotfl:). I quite like the handyman-in-a-cupboard option too.... Dream on.

Hope all are having a good day :T

LavenderBees

JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

I love having the solitude of my odd weekends off when DS & DD go to their Dads (I do miss them of course ) but I treasure the sense of stillness that comes over the house. My job is quite frantic sometimes & I'm surrounded by children all day, so I need that stillness to recharge. I do wonder how I'll feel when they've left home & I have that peace every evening & weekend - will it be too much & will I feel even more lonely? I feel lonely now in the sense that I don't have another grown up with which to discuss/plan things even though I'm usually not physically alone as my 2 are around most of the time. I do have some close friends, but it isn't the same, is it?

I suspect you could find that the stillness can become overwhelming when it is permanent. Even with the littlies, it's best to try to maintain some kind of a "me-life" if you can, so that you won't be starting from scratch in later years.

Loneliness can creep up on you, and the problem I find is in being completely responsible for motivating myself...so to me, the more lonely I become, the less motivated I am to do something about it, and suddenly I'm on a downward spiral.

But I recognise that in myself and try to do something about it before doing nothing becomes entrenched.

I rarely socialise after work as am usually more than content to get home and shut the world out! I crave being on my own after a day at work and generally find that my energy has been so sucked dry during the day, that I cannot possibly do more than the bare minimum on an evening :eek:.

Weekends are different though, and my aim this year is to find a balance between chore time (if I don't get my chores done, I suffer during the week), socialising and resting. It's difficult with only 24 hrs in the day and everything crammed into the 2 days, and no one to share the chores with. Even reading this back, I can see that the answer is to do chores on evenings to free up the weekend, but honestly, I find that so difficult!

Any other suggestions (man in a cupboard? :rotfl:) gratefully received!

LB xx

sparrer

kacie wrote: »

I work in a care home, and it's got me thinking about what will happen when I'm older, not so much in who would take care of me, but would anyone visit me.

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Kacie,

Whew...I can be a bit depressive at times...but I never think in terms of "when" I go into a carehome. If I thought differently to the way I actually DO think, then it would be "IF" I go into a care home (not when) iyswim.

Thinking the way I actually do though...I know of a certainty that I will never go into one (my personal choice for me...I'd sooner pay out £10,000 and head for Switzerland if my health ever got that bad).

Each to their own on that one...and that's just my personal take on that.

Errrm...I am actually trying to cheer you up (in my convoluted way)...as I doubt that its more than a small proportion of the population that ever goes into a care home, as I would doubt the "need" arising for most people.

Maybe, I'm wearing blinkers here and I'll land up on that plane and so will many of my contemporaries.....:cool:

kacie wrote: »

I would hope I would never have to go into one as well, but the thought of not having any family to visit and help out when needed, whether it be to take me places if I'm unable to drive or to do some shopping for me.

My first post on this thread and your comments made me smile. As a person of a certain age I've had to make plans so everything is easier for the DC, but prior to my demise I've told them I'll be choosing which residential home I go to, thank you! I owned one for many years and regularly saw the heartbreak that families caused, even those who lived in the same town, or perhaps no further that 20 miles away but couldn't visit more than twice a year - birthdays and Christmas. My choice will be a good distance away, perhaps the South of France, so there can't be any 'it's your turn, I went last time' bickering . Seriously, one has to think ahead but as my Granddad lived to 93 and my DM is almost that age now, and very fit and independent with it, it isn't going to happen for a very long time yet!

BookWorm

Just a quick hello from me as I whizz through. Hope everyone doing ok

MummyBobble

Lovely time yesterday at the beach with DD (possibly a tad too fresh weather wise, and the incoming tide did lead to some very entertaining moments - and wet feet :rotfl:) but DD managed to get plenty of photos for her GCSE art portfolio. Finished off perfectly with proper chips on the seafront (we passed on the fish because they were the size of whales!)

Today, unfortunately, is likely to bring more of the dreaded prom dress shopping :eek: