OS Singlies - We Do It Our Way!

Byatt

Mummybobble, was that your dd's drawing you posted a few weeks ago? Amazing how many ex's have money for plenty of holidays!;)

Calico, could they be the pet shop's cats? Your description made me smile, as I imagined them as a gang from West Side Story!

calicocat

Byatt wrote: »

Calico, could they be the pet shop's cats? Your description made me smile, as I imagined them as a gang from West Side Story!

Lol.......that's pretty much what they looked like.

They were quite fascinating. So I shall be going down there on a weekly basis to suss it out, the shop is near Aldi so i"m often there even if I don't need the pet shop. I shall also have to ask local friends if they have noticed them. I sat in the car watching them for a bit once i'd left the shop......expected them to start clicking a tune with their paws or attacking people for cravendale.......lol.

I'm going down next monday to see if they are there again.....little things please little minds as they say. Queen bee was a bootifull specimen.

Byatt

Calico, I'd be interested in any updates! They sound fascinating.

grousescot

Calicocat, Greenbee, Goatiequeen, thanks for your supportive comments. Oh dear, looking at it now the last paragraph of my posting from last night makes me sound a right misery guts. I've heard of the "imposter syndrome" - I guess my weakness is I can't fake confidence when I don't have it. As it happens I had a catch-up with a senior manager today who actually wanted to see what I'd been working on and we had a constructive discussion about it in which they seemed perfectly happy with my progress. So I can hold on to that should my confidence fail me again.

I agree with others here - it's important to have something planned during one's free time that requires you to get out of the house. I'd end up hibernating from Friday evening until Monday morning otherwise. I've actually got a couple of things on in the evenings this week which is unusual for me - typically I come home from work and go straight into my PJs.

Hoping Monday has been OK for you all.

LavenderBees

Morning, All!

Am playing Da B1rd with one hand, eating my breakfast with the other, and typing! Such multi tasking and all before I really wake up properly. Shame I peak so early in the day really......:rotfl:

I've had a quick response from my ex building society. Their Deeds dept have said they have nothing else to send me, and have added
"Please note that all title deeds are now stored electronically at the Land Registry and when you come to sell the property your Solicitor will be able to access these online."

So, that's another thing off my list :T

Love the Cats outside the Pet Shop story, Calicocat

Oh dear! is it Friday yet?

Have a good Tuesday, Everyone!

LB xx

moneyistooshorttomention

Byatt wrote: »

Not to depress anyone, but here is a link about loneliness (originally sourced from AgeUK),

http://www.theguardian.com/science/2014/feb/16/loneliness-twice-as-unhealthy-as-obesity-older-people

>>John Cacioppo, a psychologist at the University of Chicago, says that the pain of loneliness is akin to physical pain.<<

It really does mean for those of us on our own, that we need to make a meaningful social life to ensure our well being is safe guarded as well as for our physical health.

Totally agree.

Still working on the "Accept all offers, having just come to new area" philosophy. Have to start somewhere making new friends and looks like I've got another potential new friend...her offer duly accepted for an outing.

Will be glad when my house is presentable enough to have visitors, as I'm raring to go at inviting people back. It only has to be for a cup of coffee after all doesn't it? Right now, any visitors would be cold/uncomfortable/etc...so roll on few weeks time when they can sit in comfort and warmth.

Think I've introduced myself to most of the neighbours round here now with various queries I've had. Helps that their usual reaction to a ring on the doorbell is promptly to invite me in and sit there for a chat.

groatie_queen

Good morning chums.

Love the cats outside the pet shop. I think cats aren't quite the solitary loners they are sometimes made out to be - I have known quite a few sociable cats. My parents went to a party two streets away to find their two cats there - which explained their periodic absences, and their increasing waistlines too.

Lovely random quote this morning on Ralph Marston's Daily Motivator which is my home page:

“Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.” Thich Nhat Hanh

It's amazing how smiling, even when there's stuff going on, can induce a better internal state. Need to keep reminding myself of this whilst a family situation plays itself out. I can choose to smile, and everyone, including myself, reaps the benefits. The change in physiology it brings is amazing!

I hope you all have a very good day.

greenbee

I've been brave and had people in the house even while it's been cold and miserable Money. Family and visiting friends know what to expect anyway.

The first time I had neighbours over was just for coffee and biscuits in the dining room (most suitable at the time) for a meeting about our communal sewage system.

Then after christmas (when I'd tidied up for the houseful of family!) the odd person who knocked on the door was invited in for coffee

None of them expected miracles, as they know what I'm doing.

Last time my dad visited I invited a few neighbours over for a drink - we managed to get the sitting room warm (fire lit) and tidy (and flicked a duster over it!) and had a nice hour or so's chat. It really helped to feel that people aren't judging the state of the house.

Like you, I find that every time I knock on a neighbour's door I'm invited in. It made last night's trip to check up on who needed more sandbags rather protracted :cool:

moneyistooshorttomention

Greenbee

Errrm..I think my house might be in a worse state than you imagine:rotfl:

Make it dust everywhere, rubble in various places, noise from drills etc at regular intervals.

It really isn't liveable in at present literally. I'm just about managing to use the kitchen and bathroom and having to live in my study at present.

I do have a couple of sets of garden furniture outside, so could sit people at that if the weather was good enough....not at present then:rotfl:. The only people I've seen sitting on my garden furniture to date were a couple of workmen, who made one set their place to sit at for their morning coffees:rotfl:

Next door neighbour thinks I'm demolishing the place from the inside out...I think she's correct....

lostinrates

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Greenbee

Errrm..I think my house might be in a worse state than you imagine:rotfl:

Make it dust everywhere, rubble in various places, noise from drills etc at regular intervals.

It really isn't liveable in at present literally. I'm just about managing to use the kitchen and bathroom and having to live in my study at present.

I do have a couple of sets of garden furniture outside, so could sit people at that if the weather was good enough....not at present then:rotfl:. The only people I've seen sitting on my garden furniture to date were a couple of workmen, who made one set their place to sit at for their morning coffees:rotfl:

Next door neighbour thinks I'm demolishing the place from the inside out...I think she's correct....

Two years ago when I got health news that I panicked (overly as it seems now) over, some lovely people I have been chatting to for years now on MSE came to my home, bringing plates of food , bottles of home made drink, and most importantly good cheer and conversation.


My house? We had no bathroom door that worked, so these people who had never met in the flesh before had to take turns creeping upstairs in a wreck and singing while on the loo. One did try the door, get locked in and had to phone to get let out.


Parts of my house literally had NO floors, just excavated floors, three feet drops. And most impressively, some bits had no walls......just a tile free roof propped up , no floor and lots of mess.


We sat in the garden on a rare sunny day, the sun lovers in the sun, the shade overs in the shade, and chatted much like we do on here. Debate, good humour, friendliness.


I have concrete floors and walls now, and a down stairs loo. No lock though so quite some progress..:rotfl:



Running water will be good, A sink to wash hands in after going to the loo.

Edit...my point is, people are surprisingly resilient. They are very kind and company means more to many than surroundings. I'm arranging something with friends for summer, more friends than we have rooms or sofas for and we're talking about tents and caravans. Some of these people have children and I'm suggesting we give up our room for at least one family (I'll sleep on the floor on a duvet with my doggies ).