Noisy people in flat above me.

Twisted_Cherry

notanewuser wrote: »

How - without gagging them and tying them to a chair - do you control the noise a young child makes??

Entertain them, as parents it's your responsibility to be in control of your children's welfare, not let them rule the roost!

Can't ever remember being a child who caused 'problems' for neighbours, we played, but we played and had respect for others.

If you have a child in a flat, take him / her to the park, let them run off the excess energy, by the time they are home they might just fall sleep!

GwylimT

Norman_Castle wrote: »

You tell them to be quiet. How do you control anything a child does. If you need to gag and tie children to a chair you might consider parenting classes.

My nine month old is crying because he isn't too keen on his breathing tube and as he does quite often he has given it a good yank and hurt himself, but now all I need to do is tell him to be quiet and it will work a treat.

kashmirigirl

kashmirigirl wrote: »

I live in a ground floor flat, the people above me have a 3 yr old child. The flats haven't got very good sound proofing. In short I understand that living in a ground floor flat I'm going to hear the people above, which is fine, I accept that but for sometime now the people above have basically been taking the !!!! by banging about and letting the child run around until about 10 at night.

In one of our earlier chats I asked her if she could hear my telly during that conversation I mentioned that I could hear her quite a bit etc, especially the child, she said that she understood and that the child was very heavy on her feet.

For about 2 weeks the noise was unbearable so I had a little word with her and asked if she could keep the noise down a bit as I found that I wasn't getting any peaceful evenings after work. Her reply was I pay the rent so I will make as much noise as I want. I was quite shocked by her reply so just said ok that's fine, I don't want to fall out, we will leave it at that - you know how I feel.

So now which way do I turn when she makes noise, don't feel as though I can say anything more to her as I feel her reply will be the same - do I contact the landlady??

All I want is for her to give me some kind of consideration. I know you can't tie the child to a chair but I do feel a child running around the flat for a couple of hours is a bit much. I'm out 5 days a week 9 until 6 so she has plenty of time to run around then. The child goes to bed about 15 to 20 mins before I turn in so I don't get much quite time.

Please don't say move as this is not an option.

Thanks for reading.

I would like to say a big thank you to all the people that have replied - I can see if from both sides, all I want is a bit of peace and consideration. I know it must be hard to get a 3 yr old to sit still but you can't tell me that she needs to run around the flat for such a long period of time - I just don't get it - if I knew that I was upsetting someone I would put a stop to it, not sit down and watch my child running around when I know it's causing a problem for someone else.

Twisted_Cherry

GwylimT wrote: »

My nine month old is crying because he isn't too keen on his breathing tube and as he does quite often he has given it a good yank and hurt himself, but now all I need to do is tell him to be quiet and it will work a treat.

That is completely different! Unless he was crying non-stop for several hours... if that was the case then perhaps a concerned neighbour might call the police.

freeisgood

Kashmirigirl it is hard to understand, I have spent most of my life in disbelief of how inconsiderate people can be, because people like you and me would never dream of behaving that way.

notanewuser

We spend a lot of time out of the home (a detached house).

However, with the best will in the world I can't/don't want to "control" my daughter. She can be sitting quietly doing a jigsaw puzzle when a high pitched squeal of excitement at completing it will escape from her. I can't stop it, but were I in a flat or somewhere else where it could cause an issue I would explain to her calmly why that behaviour wasn't appropriate or kind to whoever it affected. I can't physically stop her from doing it without some sort of gag, and I don't want to squash her excitement at having achieved something (she completes puzzles for age 5+ so puts quite a lot of effort into it!).

If we were in a flat I would explain to her why stamping around or banging saucepans wasn't very thoughtful to others around us, but I wouldn't tie her hands or feet together to physically stop her doing it.

suze012

Twisted_Cherry wrote: »

That is completely different! Unless he was crying non-stop for several hours... if that was the case then perhaps a concerned neighbour might call the police.

Call the police... Lol some babies do cry for hours.. Bet the already stressed out and sleep deprived mother would love the police turning up after she is unable to stop her baby from crying due to colic, teething etc

GwylimT

Suze012 wrote: »

Call the police... Lol some babies do cry for hours.. Bet the already stressed out and sleep deprived mother would love the police turning up after she is unable to stop her baby from crying due to colic, teething etc

Hes an expert crier, with all the stuff he has to have, feeding tube etc if he isn't either asleep or crying them something is wrong. Unlucky police officer if someone ever calls them, we'll have a go at handing him over for a few minutes peace!

rosyw

Dan-Dan wrote: »

3 year olds running about at anything past 8 pm is a perfect argument for castration of the parents

Tomorrows yobs in the making

I take it you don't have kids? if you do I feel sorry for them, you seem like a prime candidate for castration yourself.

As a 3 year old my eldest would be up at 7 am and would rarely be in bed before 11 pm, she was simply a healthy, active and intelligent child. She didn't turn into a yob, by the age of 20 she was managing one of the busiest pub restaurants in the area and following a year out to have her own child returned to work and is now, aged 26, a store manager for a well know national chain. :whistle:

The OP's neighbour may well be feeling like I did, totally worn out from looking after a very active child, & totally frustrated at not being able to get her child to sleep at an earlier time, now matter what she has tried. If anyone had moaned about my 3 year old under those circumstances I would also be annoyed.

I do understand how irritating it must be for the OP, but also feel very sorry for the neighbour.

Twisted_Cherry

Suze012 wrote: »

Call the police... Lol some babies do cry for hours.. Bet the already stressed out and sleep deprived mother would love the police turning up after she is unable to stop her baby from crying due to colic, teething etc

The last time I called the police on a child who was crying for hours it turned out the mother had gone to the pub and left her 9 month old and 4 year old in the house alone. Better to be safe than sorry!