I phoned up my boyfriend's ex-gf. She's a therapist and she told me a few things.

paulineb_2

Toucan_Pecan wrote: »

Because I am still messed up by the whole thing. That enough of a reason for you?

Delete, your head might be messed up but it wont get any more messed up. Time to draw a line under it all, hes thousands of miles away and living with an ex gf, let it be now.

Toucan_Pecan

paulineb wrote: »

Delete, your head might be messed up but it wont get any more messed up. Time to draw a line under it all, hes thousands of miles away and living with an ex gf, let it be now.

He won't stop emailing me. I don't know how to block him on google mail.

He actually emailed me this:

"As for us severing ties, as painful as the thought is to me, you know I've contemplated it many times. The problem is that I want intimacy with you, the good parts, anyway; and intimacy appears to destablize you to the point that you are destructive to yourself and to those you're closest to. Until you can change this, maybe you'd be doing everybody a favor by keeping yourself to yourself"

What a bloody cheek! GASLIGHTING alert.

paulineb_2

Make a new email address. And delete any emails from him in the old one without opening them. Stop enabling his wacky behaviour.

pogofish

Toucan_Pecan wrote: »

He won't stop emailing me. I don't know how to block him on google mail.

Ahem...:

https://support.google.com/mail/answer/8151?hl=en

You do now.

quidsy

As thought, op is a troll or an idiot. If the latter they seem to revel in the attention. Pathetic.

Toucan_Pecan

quidsy wrote: »

As thought, op is a troll or an idiot. If the latter they seem to revel in the attention. Pathetic.

No actually, just enjoy feeling supported by strangers. Just as you enjoy commenting on strangers lives.

Mojisola

Toucan_Pecan wrote: »

No actually, just enjoy feeling supported by strangers. Just as you enjoy commenting on strangers lives.

You can continue to receive support without having to stay in contact with this man.

Some of the best threads on this boards recently have been the ones where people have walked away from an abusive relationship and have been supported in sorting out their "new" life.

How about cutting all ties with him and making life better for yourself?

Toucan_Pecan

Mojisola wrote: »

You can continue to receive support without having to stay in contact with this man.

Some of the best threads on this boards recently have been the ones where people have walked away from an abusive relationship and have been supported in sorting out their "new" life.

How about cutting all ties with him and making life better for yourself?

My sensitive spot is him telling me "you always run away, just like you did last time"....

paulineb_2

Toucan_Pecan wrote: »

My sensitive spot is him telling me "you always run away, just like you did last time"....

Why do you even want to be in contact with this man, hes abusive.

You think you are going to have a happy life if he features in it?

Bazey

Toucan_Pecan wrote: »

What a bloody cheek! GASLIGHTING alert.

I told you this in post 163.

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showpost.php?p=64326317&postcount=163

If only I was a woman, maybe some of you lot would pay attention to me...but I'd have to be a lesbian as I love chicks and stuff.