Universities and the myths

studentphil

kr15snw wrote: »

So your parents would be happier with you unemployed?

At the moment until I can get a job they think is decent.

Blacksheep1979

Well without prior work experience of any kind you aren't going to get the kind of job I'm assuming they want you to get and if they don't realise that then your parents are fools too.

pandas66

studentphil wrote: »

It is not about the money, it is about me being a disappointment and failure to them. If you knew how they pulled apart any job I apply for with disapproving looks and tuts then you would know what I mean.

but when do you see them?

do they know of your incessant posting on here? what do they think your up to?

I have said it to you before I'd be a poor parent if I knew my son was on his pc the amount of time you are sp!

what breaks have you had today? not much, so when are you going to have 1?

rubuhoeikanaika

studentphil wrote: »

It is not about the money, it is about me being a disappointment and failure to them. If you knew how they pulled apart any job I apply for with disapproving looks and tuts then you would know what I mean.

I don't think you realise just how easy it would be for you to move out, especially with your savings behind you.

1. Get Jobseekers Allowance (you must be eligible now or very soon)
2. Get the cheapest room in a shared house that you can. I know they're all over Leeds, but preferably leave the city.
3. JSA carries with it housing benefit and council tax benefit. You will be able to (very frugally) support yourself without touching your savings, whilst on JSA.
4. This will quickly teach you to find a job, any job.

You know your parents best, maybe they will disapprove. But in the end I think they'll respect you for standing on your own two feet. Just screw up all your courage - three easy words: "I'm moving out."

You have to understand why everyone thinks you're a whiny little b!tch - you live at home with your parents, don't work, and have thousands in the bank because they paid for your education. Maybe if you moved out people would take you a bit more seriously.

Oh by the way if you lived in the US you'd have to get a job, any job - student loan repayments are mortgage style, you have to come up with the money. And you need a job to pay for health insurance, that would have come your way as part of a university package, but not now you've graduated.

rubuhoe

studentphil

Blacksheep1979 wrote: »

Well without prior work experience of any kind you aren't going to get the kind of job I'm assuming they want you to get and if they don't realise that then your parents are fools too.

Fools or not, out dated or not, they are all I have who will be there for me. My friends have their own lives and they are not interested about my life, nor could I ever tell them as it is too shameful to tell them. You lot here think I am awful and don't like me. I only have one person who cares for me in the world other than my parents and if I told her how bad I feel sometimes then I am sure she would stop liking me too.

I don't wonder I feel so shattered and so much on edge.

Blacksheep1979

studentphil wrote: »

Fools or not, out dated or not, they are all I have who will be there for me. My friends have their own lives and they are not interested about my life, nor could I ever tell them as it is too shameful to tell them. You lot here think I am awful and don't like me. I only have one person who cares for me in the world other than my parents and if I told her how bad I feel sometimes then I am sure she would stop liking me too.

I don't wonder I feel so shattered and so much on edge.

anyone will get fed up with you if all you do is winge (and it seems you parents are too). Your parents may be all you have right now but they are fools and are holding you back by polluting your mind and filling it with this 'proper/suitable job' bullsh!t. They aren't helping you and they aren't helping themselves.

Get yourself to the Doctors and councilers and get an application form for McDonalds.

studentphil

pandas66 wrote: »

but when do you see them?

do they know of your incessant posting on here? what do they think your up to?

I have said it to you before I'd be a poor parent if I knew my son was on his pc the amount of time you are sp!

what breaks have you had today? not much, so when are you going to have 1?

I went out this morning. My parents don't really seem to mind me being on my comp. a lot. I think they think I just surf the net. It is my only life line a way, only thing I have in a way.

I do have some short breaks.

pandas66

studentphil wrote: »

I went out this morning. My parents don't really seem to mind me being on my comp. a lot. I think they think I just surf the net. It is my only life line a way, only thing I have in a way.

I do have some short breaks.

they would be more shocked if you printed up a thread or 10 from here than if you got a job at Maccy's......I can assure you of that!
I'd say it was time for another break....

studentphil

pandas66 wrote: »

they would be more shocked if you printed up a thread or 10 from here than if you got a job at Maccy's......I can assure you of that!
I'd say it was time for another break....

Here is my one and only private life line that I have from them. I can not use the phone, go out, post a letter or do anything without them knowing. I have almost no private space or any privacy at all.

rubuhoeikanaika

studentphil wrote: »

Here is my one and only private life line that I have from them. I can not use the phone, go out, post a letter or do anything without them knowing. I have almost no private space or any privacy at all.

In that case, why have you ignored my post about moving out?

rubuhoe