Seller appears on doorstep...

Flyonthewall

skitler wrote: »

then why make a issue of it?

I think they mean what the something is that they've said no to doesn't matter, it was the fact the said no. Whether the something is the seller hand delivering a parcel or the something is someone asking if they want to go skydiving, it doesn't matter. They said no to that something and so the fact it has happened anyway is the issue.

Flyonthewall

skitler wrote: »

same issue or not its not your thread, and your causing confusion to others. funny how you all think your right in your own way and wont see thing from another view point.

Funny how you think the same :rotfl:

skitler

Flyonthewall wrote: »

I think they mean what the something is that they've said no to doesn't matter, it was the fact the said no. Whether the something is the seller hand delivering a parcel or the something is someone asking if they want to go skydiving, it doesn't matter. They said no to that something and so the fact it has happened anyway is the issue.

what you think the op is referring to is immaterial, lets see what the op has to say on the matter instead of reading things that you "think!

Flyonthewall

skitler wrote: »

what you think the op is referring to is immaterial, lets see what the op has to say on the matter instead of reading things that you "think!

Well I just thought I'd give my opinion on how I took it, which explains why they see an issue and posted about it. It's not like my post is stopping the OP posting how it is.

skitler

Flyonthewall wrote: »

Well I just thought I'd give my opinion on how I took it, which explains why they see an issue and posted about it. It's not like my post is stopping the OP posting how it is.

your thoughts on the ops thoughts are not the same as your opinion on the matter now is it.

Avoriaz

Arlandria606 wrote: »

..I don't have a problem with callers. I have a problem with being asked if something is okay, replying no, and being ignored. What the something is doesn't really matter.

So why were you not willing to allow a personal delivery?

You are fully entitled to do that but it will strike most people as unusual that you are happy for many sets of random people, couriers, postmen etc to deliver items to your home but you are not happy for an eBay seller to arrange for her husband to do much the same thing.

I don't dispute your right to have things done your way but I do find your refusal to accept a personal delivery unusual. So it would appear do most others posting in this thread.

Apart from anything else, a personal delivery eliminates the chances of damage, delay or complete loss in the postal system or in a courier's system.

Having said all that this seller should have accepted your refusal and her husband should certainly not have been rude or aggressive towards you.

Flyonthewall

skitler wrote: »

your thoughts on the ops thoughts are not the same as your opinion on the matter now is it.

This is a public forum so if I wish to post my thoughts or opinions, I can. I couldn't care less if you don't want to know what I saw their post to mean. There's no harm in me adding that thought, especially if it is what the OP meant.

Read it, consider it, ignore it; I don't care. It's pointless to keep telling me my post isn't the same as the OP posting because I know that. So why not just wait to see what OP says eh?

marie-20

In our house I list and sell things on my husbands account and the Paypal account is also his as 'my' account was changed to my business account so it is possible that the 'husband' was the seller.

I must admit that I find it rather odd that the OP keeps stating that the seller wasn't the husband so the seller passed her details to someone else. I wouldn't consider that asking the husband to drop something off as being 'someone else' IYKWIM as most people would consider married people as being the same 'unit' - I could totally understand the OP's point if the person dropping it off was a friend etc.

OP - you said that the seller messaged you yesterday and you also replied yesterday and that the item was delivered this morning. Is it not possible that the seller just hasn't read your message? I find that private sellers often only check their messages once or twice a day.

I agree that the husband shouldn't have been abusive however as we do not know exactly what was said it is hard for us to judge - a lot of people now use foul language as part of their normal speech and may not have realised that it is offensive to some and nor do we know how the OP spoke to the husband but I can imagine that the husband would have been annoyed to drop something off, going slightly out of their way but on their way to somewhere they needed to be to find that the person that opened the door told them that they didn't want it hand delivered.

Everyone is entitled to say no and that should be respected where possible but as this has all occurred in under 24 hours I am inclined to believe that the message just hasn't been read and the seller didn't realise that it would be an issue as most buyers would be happy for it to have arrived next day.

skitler

Flyonthewall wrote: »

This is a public forum so if I wish to post my thoughts or opinions, I can. I couldn't care less if you don't want to know what I saw their post to mean. There's no harm in me adding that thought, especially if it is what the OP meant.

Read it, consider it, ignore it; I don't care. It's pointless to keep telling me my post isn't the same as the OP posting because I know that. So why not just wait to see what OP says eh?

I was doing till you tried telling me what you "thought" the op meant, you have no idea what the ops situation is, or the ops thinking behind it.
post your thoughts and opinions by all means but don't pre-empt others thoughts as it just confuses the issue as pulliptears did by hijacking the thread.

Arlandria606

skitler wrote: »

what you think the op is referring to is immaterial, lets see what the op has to say on the matter instead of reading things that you "think!

What Flyonthewall said.

skitler wrote: »

then why make a issue of it?

I didn't. The purpose of my post was to ask for advice regarding following it up, as I don't think I'll be able to explain my point to the seller, but eBay have no obligation to get involved. Had I said "someone asked me if something was okay, I said no, and they did it anyway", I wouldn't be able to get very good advice! People need a little context to give appropriate suggestions. The "something" is relevant to the situation and how it's handled, but not to explaining why it's wrong in the first place.

Avoriaz wrote: »

So why were you not willing to allow a personal delivery?

You are fully entitled to do that but it will strike most people as unusual that you are happy for many sets of random people, couriers, postmen etc to deliver items to your home but you are not happy for an eBay seller to arrange for her husband to do much the same thing.

I don't dispute your right to have things done your way but I do find your refusal to accept a personal delivery unusual. So it would appear do most others posting in this thread.

Apart from anything else, a personal delivery eliminates the chances of damage, delay or complete loss in the postal system or in a courier's system.

Having said all that this seller should have accepted your refusal and her husband should certainly not have been rude or aggressive towards you.

I don't mean to seem vague (or worse rude), but explaining it would require me to reveal a great deal of personal information, which I'm not comfortable doing.

What I would say is that if the seller found it unusual (which I would understand), she had ample time between me saying no and the husband showing up to further the discussion, but she chose not to.