Seller appears on doorstep...

skivenov

Simmysim wrote: »

Of course you would genius.

Unless you are on Ebays list of couriers you cannot prove delivery. So if you called to their door with an item you should have posted they could take your item and claim INR and keep your item and their money.

I tend to assume most people are inherently good and honest.

Possibly weirdos who sit behind locked doors, scared that someone might speak to them and they won't know what to do without posting on the internet, but good and honest wierdos.

Would it not have been a more challenging environment to have an argument with a stranger on your doorstep that say "Thanks, see ya"?

skitler

RHemmings wrote: »

I think that there is ample information and detail on this thread to conclude that the husband coming over with the item and becoming threatening (raising their voice and being angry is sufficient) is unacceptable behaviour.

but why he cant come over when others can is the mystery as op wont divulge, op was to be out so no to delivery, but op was in, so why the fuss, its a mystery. op has hidden agenda and we only have ops sparse account to go off. smells fishy to me.

skitler

likelyfran wrote: »

. . and encouraged a dodgy practice. You obviously didn't need that tenner!

poster go what poster paid for. goods + delivery.


if poster got the tenner back would it still be a dodgy practice?

Flyonthewall

skitler wrote: »

but why he cant come over when others can is the mystery as op wont divulge, op was to be out so no to delivery, but op was in, so why the fuss, its a mystery. op has hidden agenda and we only have ops sparse account to go off. smells fishy to me.

Why does it matter?

The seller was lucky the buyer was in when they called round. The OP didn't like the fact they came round despite saying no. Their reason for that isn't important, the point is they said no and it happened anyway.

They shouldn't have to give their life story on who they don't mind coming round and who they do mind coming round and why. That's their business, not yours. It makes no difference to this situation because either way the guy shouldn't have been there.

Been through this before anyhow. You seem fixated on the things don't matter...

arbroath_lass

Flyonthewall wrote: »

I didn't pay for anything...

It wasn't delivered by the way stated. The seller had no expenses and so postage was paid by the buyer for a service they didn't get.

I think you're arguing sematics. Postage does not mean you have to use RM. And of course the seller had expenses getting there - do you mean additional expenses? Why shouldn't the seller reclaim some of those costs? Perhaps the seller should set up their own courier company?


Personally, I've no idea why the seller would even ask if it was ok. I'd just do it, if I was passing somewhere. I've no idea why the OP would prefer a courier - it just seems bizarre to me. BUT, having said no, the seller should have left it at that (assuming they got the message).

csh_2

I don't understand how someone can not want people at the door but then engage in a confrontation?
Surely a normal reaction when opening the door to find someone there would be politely take the package?
I do wonder if the OP came over very antagonistic if the guy didn't even get as far as offering the package?
It reads to me like the OP went off on one and the guy just gave some back.

skitler

Flyonthewall wrote: »

I understood it fine. I think we have all the information we need to know.

Ah, yeah. I put bid not big. Typical, the one time I make a typo. Still, I pointed out your mistake as up until now you're English has been decent and thought you may wish to correct it as it may confuse others (like if they read it as weather being extreme and affecting things). I wondered myself to start with if you were trying to make a different point on the weather and so reread it to be sure.

I don't mind you pointing out my typo, I'm happy to admit it wasn't right and now you've pointed it out I can correct it. Easy to make typos. No need for such remarks.

we all make mistakes that's why they put erasers on the end of pencils.


but what remarks?

Flyonthewall

arbroath_lass wrote: »

I think you're arguing sematics. Postage does not mean you have to use RM. And of course the seller had expenses getting there - do you mean additional expenses? Why shouldn't the seller reclaim some of those costs? Perhaps the seller should set up their own courier company?


Personally, I've no idea why the seller would even ask if it was ok. I'd just do it, if I was passing somewhere. I've no idea why the OP would prefer a courier - it just seems bizarre to me. BUT, having said no, the seller should have left it at that (assuming they got the message).

Postage is for posting things, not getting your husband to pass it to you on his way by.

Postage is for Royal Mail or courier, why pay postage for someone to give it to their husband? That doesn't cost them anything.

Why should he be able to reclaim costs when it was his choice to be going down that way in the first place? OP never asked for that, they paid postage expecting it to be posted to a company and delivered to them. They didn't get that service.

You should ask if it's ok for because it might not be (like this case) or simply because the buyer isn't in. It's just polite to double check with the buyer.

Flyonthewall

skitler wrote: »

we all make mistakes that's why they put erasers on the end of pencils.


but what remarks?

Indeed. Although them erasers are always really useless. Don't know about you but I've never found a pencil with a good eraser on

The clever clogs remark.

RHemmings

skitler wrote: »

but why he cant come over when others can is the mystery as op wont divulge, op was to be out so no to delivery, but op was in, so why the fuss, its a mystery. op has hidden agenda and we only have ops sparse account to go off. smells fishy to me.

Because the OP didn't want them to, and asked them not to. QED. People are allowed to say whom they welcome to their house, and who they don't. And if you turn up when you've been asked not to, then you're in the wrong.

There is no hidden agenda or hidden details, and no further explanation is necessary.