MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 3

Sparkles87

Trying to catch up...
Think the sleep regression at four months lasted a couple of weeks. This current one is killing us as it's coupled with teething and separation anxieties too!
We do BLW and puree - at the moment she's only wanting puree as teeth are cutting but usually her favourites are slices of apple, pieces of clementines, apricot yogurts and anything I'm eating! I let her try anything she fancies really, mango chutney and lemon have been the funniest so far.

bigzippy

I think my (3 week old) son is going to be a mummy's boy. I swear every time I put him down, to go for a nap or anything like that, I've not even made it up the stairs before he's sensed I've gone and woken up. :cool: I love my baby boy, but if he carries this on I'm not going to be able to continue breastfeeding him - as both the sleeplessness, healing from the stitches etc. and breastfeeding seem to aggravate my nerve pains I need to sleep to repair and I can't really do that with him stuck to be like a limpet almost 24/7...

Was hoping to make it through to 6 ish weeks and try expressing then, and dh could help out, but I'm only halfway there and totally not convinced I can make it that far without losing my mind with the nerve pains and sensations (I have fibromyalgia).

Gonna have to ask the breastfeeding support worker for her input on Tuesday. I really don't want to have to mess about bottle feeding all the time, but I do need some respite. My app says he's been feeding for over 10 hours today...

Eta:
I haven't seen it mentioned anywhere, but the Morrisons baby and toddler event is on now, til the 16th Feb http://your.morrisons.com/Kids-and-Baby/Baby-and-Toddler-Event/

I've heard tell that when the Asda one comes to am end the Johnsons boxes are reduced to £5... If anyone sees this can you shout up? I'm after one to use as a nappy box downstairs...

lao_cat

Bz big hugs, their is a growth spurt at 3 weeks which may be causing your lo to be latched on all day. I found the first 4 weeks hell tbh, I got a lactation consultant around that sarge and it made all the difference to me. It's a really good plan to ask your bf counsellor for input. How I got through the first few weeks I really don't know and I don't have any of your health concerns. I would ask your counsellor about breast compressions. They really helped me to speed up the time it took to feed C. I would also switched sides/ unlatched him when he stopped active suckling with the compressions.

You could also consider feeding him lying down and also taking him to bed with you for naps, granted the co-sleeping for naps is not for everyone so you need to do your own research on it.

I will say though from7/8 weeks onwards bfing for me got a hell of alot easier and now c is almost 6 months it is so much easier than bottling feeding.

In saying that you need to make the best decision for your family, I read somewhere that you should not give up breastfeeding on a bad day. But what mini zee needs his mum in the best shape possible and if that means bottle feeding then that is what is right for your family. One of the best benefits of breastfeeding that I have seen is not having to settle Lo to sleep after a feed!

AFM I can't believe C is almost 6 months wow the time is flying we are doing BLW and much to my surprise he is eating already. Still not great on the nighttime sleeping but it is improving!

Hugs to all x x

Gillyx

I have had the stomach bug from hell this weekend. Thank god it was the weekend and my OH was off as I have no clue how I'd have handled looking after A. I feel better this morning thank god. All started on saturday night when we had our first night out in ages, I felt awful but I stuck it out and finished watching the film haha.

Hugs BigZ, it sounds awful I agree with Laocat though and I do think it should get easier, hopefully little man gives you a rest soon xx

Mrshaworth2b

Hope your ok now gilly!

WalkingOnADream

This thread moves too quickly! I read when I can but don't get time to post. I can't believe my lo is nearly 4 months old he has changed so much.

BZ my lo is the same even now at 4 months though I bottle feed but he still feeds every 1 - 2 hours. Although it's difficult as I barely have time to do much I do love the cuddles, I could probably try harder to put him down but for now we're happy and I'd rather not listen to him cry.

I've got a bit of a dilemma though as OH and I are supposed to be going out for a friends birthday on the weekend and it will mean getting someone to look after lo, if it was during the day I wouldn't be concerned but I'm anxious as it's going to be in the evening. Lo doesn't go to bed until 9 at the earliest and putting him to bed involves sitting in the dark quiet bedroom for about an hour until he is switched off enough to sleep and even then it can take a lot of picking up and putting down before he goes down for the night.

I've had plenty of offers for babysitters but my issue is that I know no one will follow our 'routine'. Lo is a very nosy and easily overstimulated baby and doesn't just fall asleep so I'm worried that whoever looks after him will keep him overstimulated and I'll be left to pick up the pieces through the night as he is extremely grumpy when overtired. My mum has offered to have him but I'm still worried as apparently him having his eyes open means he's not tired and if he were he would just go asleep - ha not my lo!!

Am I being ridiculous? Sorry for the novel. I've left him plenty of times through the day but evening/night is so much different as each night is different but I know how to read his cues to determine bedtime whereas no one else does.

lao_cat

Walkingonadream, no you are not being ridiculous. I think that when anyone is minding your baby they should have the common decency to respect you as a parent and follow (albeit loosely) your routine. You are the mum and in this case you know best. I have left c we nighttime twice with my mum, I just told her roughly what time to feed him and what time he was due to be asleep at, I let her figure out how to get him asleep. C also tends to be over stimulated at times but reacts well to being rocked in his pram in a lightly light room. I would ask your mum if she is willing to follow your instructions re his routine, she might surprise you, I would also go on about the benefits to the baby re his routine.

BabaMoose

Hi WOAD! Nice to hear from you Hope you're both doing well?

Your LO sounds soooo much like mine! Not an easy sleeper, gets very distracted and overstimulated and then overtired and grumpy! I'm dreading leaving him with my folks next month (when he'll be just over 4 months) as I'm not sure they'll thank me for the evening stint... although a bit of me is curious to hear how he does when I'm not around to see if my smell etc. affects him (I Bf so he has that association).

Anyhow - I don't think you are being ridiculous to worry but I do think it's a good thing to do. See how he is with others and how he reacts on the evening. If he is staying with those who think he'll sleep when he's tired maybe they'll get the wake up call they need..! I hope you get to enjoy your night

BeNiceToMySelf

hi hope everyone is 'winning'

WOAD it's not too hard to follow a routine is it? I don't think it's too much to ask as you know baby best. When LO goes to creches for 2 hours they ask if he needs a nap etc. and they are very respectful that you know LO's needs. However I might have to stay with my parents for 1/2 weeks soon while my kitchen and bathroom are getting done and I'm dreading it. My mum has some old fashioned ideas about parenting and I know I'm going to have to be firm about a lot of things. LO is a fussy stroppy baby even if I do everything right!

bigzippy have you tried breastfeeding lying down on the bed? Maybe you could ask for support with that? As long as you follow safe co-sleeping guidelines it's reasonably safe. At the moment I feed LO to sleep in bed, wait 20 mins to make sure he sleeps and then put him in cotbed. He usually wakes up after 3/4 hours then I just feed and nap with him until morning comes.

looking forward to talking after reading the cute funny stories on here :rotfl:

Oscar_the_Pug

We're having a couple of off days here. We popped to the supermarket after OH finished work which is not our usual thing and the result was a total meltdown by LO who screamed inconsolably for over an hour and a quarter. Nothing but nothing would calm her and she only stopped when she fell asleep in her dad's arms. Although she slept ok she's been similar today and has only napped for 20 minutes. She's not got a temperature and 2 teeth already came through the other week without this much fuss. I've given her calpol but am at a loss what might be up. Any ideas? (She's 6 months).