MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 3

katiechoc_2

Rummer I secondSaffa's suggestion of feeding on your side - I never tried it but I know a lot of people who swore by it to get through the early days.

Sunshine I was wondering about Sammie too, hope her and her boys are all ok. And Janine and Poppy too.

G doesn't say anything really, we get Bobob for Bob the builder, ogen - open when he wants his sippy cup lid opening, agone for all gone at mealtimes but that's it . Trying to not worry about it as he understands so much, and I'm sure a lot of it is just stubbornness - ask him to say/do anything these days and he just shakes his head! But it's hard not to. And he's soooo fussy with food now too, weaning started pretty well for us but not anymore!

bigzippy

Rummer, I feel your pain.

There must be some kind of trick to getting bubs to sleep in his basket at night, between (seemingly incessant) feeds, but I'm damned if I know what it is! Midwife suggested it was too quiet in the night and to put radio/TV on, so we tried sleeping on the sofa bed with the tele on last night... It didn't work :cool:

I had a really long severe (after?) pain yesterday - so much so I was writhing on the bed crying (for reference I made it to 6cm before going to the hospital) - so I ended up going back to the postnatal Ward to get checked out. They couldn't find anything wrong - which is good but not all that reassuring...

My anxiety is still a problem, I don't feel massively supported by my midwife, and my husband is going back to work next week....

lobey

Big Z have you tried the hot water bottle trick in his basket or a swaddle? The only way we could get our LO in hers in those first weeks were to feed in the dark, swaddle, feed a bit more, let her sleep on us for 15 mins then into her warm basket. These babies don't know how pampered they are! Not sure if that helps but hope you find his preference soon! X

BeNiceToMySelf

I do sidelying bfing at night, it's the only thing saving me through this sleep regression! I used to wait 20/30mins for LO to stay asleep to make sure he was in deep sleep then move him to cot bed/ moses basket. That doesn't work anymore...

katiechoc_2

BigZ have you been given the contact details for your health visiting team yet? They might be a little more help than the midwives in terms of helping you. As great as our midwife team were once we were out of hospital it was more a case of weigh baby, ask about baby's feeding and sleeping, how are stitches etc feeling and that was it. Less on the emotional side of things than the physical iykwim.

Although thinking about it and probably waaaay tmi - I can't fault the midwife who came to see me on the Saturday after my oh had to phone her for an emergency prescription on Friday (6days post birth) as I had the worlds worst constipation :D. Ah motherhood. Such glamour

lao_cat

I would def recommend side lying for feeding at night, C was 5/6 weeks before we tried it and it made such a difference.

BZ welcome and congrats, using a hot water bottle to warm the basket or cot is great and also if you make sure the drop isn't too far, when putting C down I always make sure to put my elbow down first and I keep my hand on him for a few minutes to keep him settled. In the early days we also put him on his side supervised for a few minutes and then gently rolled him over. No advice re the midwife or anxiety I am afraid, I remember the first week my OH went back to work, what a shock to the system. My mum called over most days that first week to give me a hand and ease the transition. Though she works so she had to take some AL to do it. Do you have anyone who can give you a hand?

Still struggling with C's nightime sleep. He never went back to his regular sleeping after his 4 month regression, he wakes every two hours you could set an alarm by it! Struggling to get enough rest and things with DH are not great atm I think though 5 months of sleep deprivation is taking its toll on everyone!

TeamLowe

Think it's about time I joined you nice ladies, although I'm on my phone so can't do list

Thomas Andrew was born on 11 January, at 36+6. He had low blood sugars when born so we switched to bottles from bf and he's had phototherapy for jaundice but HV confirmed that's gone now
Not had much to write on here about as I don't know much and T is a very content baby, only cries for a bottle and to protest having his nappy changed. He has had a little constipation and was up for 3 hours on Monday night getting a MASSIVE poop through but was much better last night. suspect it's the vitamins as they have iron and midwife agreed but he's only on them for another week.

BigZ have you tried putting something that smells like you in the basket? Also a ticking clock I've heard helps as sounds like your heartbeat

Could you put a plan in place now for supportive visits when your DH goes back to work? My mum finishes work at 2 so she nips by after work and it breaks up the day as I only get up after the 10 bottle as the 7 one is far too early. Is there anyone you could ask to come by for half an hour in the morning and again in the afternoon? That way it's not 8/9 hours by yourself which sounds huge, just 2/3 hour blocks.
My DH went back on Monday and its scary but I've tried to take it hour by hour and just concentrated on seeing to baby and getting my sleep in between

Bangton

laocatsorry things not good with your dh..Or that lo hasn't settled after 4 month sleep regression. How utterly unfair!! bz truly know how you feel as I was the same. My oh had 6 weeks off work because I was so anxious (I know it's not an option for most but as it was unpaid his work were fine with it). For me things became easier somehow when lo smiled socially at 5 weeks as I at least felt I was making him 'happy'. That probably sounds really weird but it really does get easier as lo's start to interact more and of course the longer you spend with them the easier it is to know what they want! Having said that at 4 months sometimes I haven't got a clue but somehow it's easier anyway because we 'know' each other. ( 4 month sleep regression isn't fun but actually I think that's because at this age your kind of told they sleep better and things get easier when the reality is they act like newborns again in night!) I'm only mentioning the regression cos I've moaned like chuff about it and didn't want it to look like I'm saying things are easy in one breath and then moaning on this thread. I still suffer anxiety but not as in ' I can't cope' now it's 'is lo ok?' 'Why is he scratching his head? Why is he sucking his hand? Oh god he's had 30oz of milk today and not 37, did he just cough..?! He's pooed 3 times today...You get the gist!!!

*Nutella*

Bangton wrote: »

I still suffer anxiety but not as in ' I can't cope' now it's 'is lo ok?' 'Why is he scratching his head? Why is he sucking his hand? Oh god he's had 30oz of milk today and not 37, did he just cough..?! He's pooed 3 times today...You get the gist!!!

I think you've summed up perfectly what parenthood is like - we're always going to find something to worry about Which is why we'll still be here in 15 years' time, still posting in a sleep-deprived haze at 1am, wondering what our sons and daughters are up to and whether they're OK - good job this thread has '& beyond' in the title! :cool:

bigzippy

lobey wrote: »

Big Z have you tried hot water bottle trick in his basket or a swaddle? The only way we could get our LO in hers in those first weeks were to feed in the dark, swaddle, feed a bit more, let her sleep on us for 15 mins then into her warm basket. These babies don't know how pampered they are! Not sure if that helps but hope you find his preference soon! X

I'd bought some swaddle wraps off eBay and tried him in one the other night. Dh got some anxiety about him overheating in it though and then he puked on it so I took it off and didn't bother again that night. We asked the midwife the day after, just to ease DH's mind and I thought all was fine. But he still had anxiety about it? Sigh. Not tried the hot water bottle but shall attempt that soon I think...

katiechoc wrote: »

BigZ have you been given the contact details for your health visiting team yet? They might be a little more help than the midwives in terms of helping you. As great as our midwife team were once we were out of hospital it was more a case of weigh baby, ask about baby's feeding and sleeping, how are stitches etc feeling and that was it. Less on the emotional side of things than the physical iykwim.

Although thinking about it and probably waaaay tmi - I can't fault the midwife who came to see me on the Saturday after my oh had to phone her for an emergency prescription on Friday (6days post birth) as I had the worlds worst constipation :D. Ah motherhood. Such glamour

Health visitor is coming tomorrow. I have anxiety about that too though as it's (yet another) new person.... I just feel like (with the midwives) if you don't want pills from the doctor, or you seem OK the next day, or you think actually it's not PND but the management of the situation atm with regards to your pre existing anxiety, then they want to dismiss you... I want weaning off the (was virtually hourly in the hospital) daily visits, but they keep pushing for more time in between than I'm comfortable with...

lao_cat wrote: »

I would def recommend side lying for feeding at night, C was 5/6 weeks before we tried it and it made such a difference.

BZ welcome and congrats, using a hot water bottle to warm the basket or cot is great and also if you make sure the drop isn't too far, when putting C down I always make sure to put my elbow down first and I keep my hand on him for a few minutes to keep him settled. In the early days we also put him on his side supervised for a few minutes and then gently rolled him over. No advice re the midwife or anxiety I am afraid, I remember the first week my OH went back to work, what a shock to the system. My mum called over most days that first week to give me a hand and ease the transition. Though she works so she had to take some AL to do it. Do you have anyone who can give you a hand?

Still struggling with C's nightime sleep. He never went back to his regular sleeping after his 4 month regression, he wakes every two hours you could set an alarm by it! Struggling to get enough rest and things with DH are not great atm I think though 5 months of sleep deprivation is taking its toll on everyone!

I'll try some of those tricks too, thanks I/we don't have any family for 40 miles, which is making us feel more isolated and unsupported friends work etc. The friend I have who is a mum to a 5yo and 10 month old, who I thought would be around more, has had to go back to work after maternity leave

Thanks bangton - I hope it improves for you too, soon