MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 3

Derby2

Thanks for the welcome!

Sorry for the over dramatic first post but this was the only place I felt would understand.

Fran-o, I think you're absolutely right and better communication is needed. We do have wildly different lives now that we're struggling to see each others view. I actually thought I was getting on pretty well and we'd found a good routine, so finding out he would be adding marathon training into the mix threw me.

I had a good chat with him at the 4am feed so hopefully he'll take on board my concerns.

Hugs to all the mummies up through the night!

SmlSave

Hi everyone I've been awol for two months, crazy how time flies!

DD is now 7 months can commando crawl and wants to stand at every opportunity which is killing my back. She is enjoying solid food and some is definitely getting in, I'd just forgotten what a mess blw babies make

She's also started nursery 8-3 on a Wed. She drinks almost nothing there although she is getting better. Instead of trying with a bottle all the time we've gone straight to a sippy cup. So much for me being determined to give a bottle everyday - epic fail.

Hi Derby I'm afraid that I would be threatening divorce if DH said he wanted to spend that much time training. We are on baby two and he still does not understand how being at home with a baby, let alone 2 can possibly be as hard as his office work.

Poor DH, he's given up gaming, running and drinking since having kids! I'd feel sorry for him if he didn't get to sleep for longer than 3 hours at a time.

lazywife

Saf... sounds an awful night, here's hoping tonight is better!

Derby, you poor thing, DH would not dare do the marathon, but sometimes until they're living it they just don't realise what is needed of them, presumably when he entered the ballot LO hadn't arrived yet. I ebf until LO fully on cow's milk (only finished bedtime feed at 14 months). You will get there, I wouldn't worry too much about the lie in's as you'll be up with LO anyway doing 1st feed I would however cash in a definate you time at some point. (maybe a weeknight after tea, before LO bedtime, a couple of hours to yourself to do what you want, if it's preprapared your DH can arrange training around it). Oh and congratulations on the arrival of LO.

I've had a really bad mummy day today. T was off nursery yesterday as he had runny poos and was sick on the way. He seems to have slept it off by 11am so wasn't too bad. I've hence had 2 days at home with him, DH at work and not being able to see any other LOs. I've found it really hard. We normally fill a Tuesday with swimming and park and other days doing stuff with DH/Granny/his little friends. I don't really just occupy him in the house (yesterday housebound as I didn't want to look like he was fine as I had to take a day off work to look after him, so couldn't have him running about in the park, today as it was too rainy to do much). Found myself thinking that if I just did this, then that hopefully it would tire him enough so he could nap. We had a bit of a play with the duvet as I was putting it away, and he had a nice pootle on his own playing with his toys, but I just didn't feel like I was enjoying our time together. I've been hit in the face with a brick, poked in the eye, and he's been on the naughty corner twice for trying to pull the mirror off the wall and biting Daddy. If maybe we'd done some fun stuff together he wouldn't be playing up so much, but I've looked at that imagination tree and nothing seems to hold his attention for more than 10 minutes. I've just spent nearly an hour trying to get him to sleep (again!) and he's just messing about. I'm not happy, neither is he. I feel awful that he's is actually better off at nursery than a couple of days with mummy :-(
Sorry for the moan. Hope everyone else is enjoying their children.x

Mrshaworth2b

Lazywife - just to make you feel better I am at home with lo 6 days a week and sometimes he tests my patience so much I pray for bedtime. It comes to us all. Tomorrow is a new day and hopefully he'll be better behaved and you'll enjoy his company all day

*Nutella*

lazywife wrote: »

I've had a really bad mummy day today. T was off nursery yesterday as he had runny poos and was sick on the way. He seems to have slept it off by 11am so wasn't too bad. I've hence had 2 days at home with him, DH at work and not being able to see any other LOs. I've found it really hard. We normally fill a Tuesday with swimming and park and other days doing stuff with DH/Granny/his little friends. I don't really just occupy him in the house (yesterday housebound as I didn't want to look like he was fine as I had to take a day off work to look after him, so couldn't have him running about in the park, today as it was too rainy to do much). Found myself thinking that if I just did this, then that hopefully it would tire him enough so he could nap. We had a bit of a play with the duvet as I was putting it away, and he had a nice pootle on his own playing with his toys, but I just didn't feel like I was enjoying our time together. I've been hit in the face with a brick, poked in the eye, and he's been on the naughty corner twice for trying to pull the mirror off the wall and biting Daddy. If maybe we'd done some fun stuff together he wouldn't be playing up so much, but I've looked at that imagination tree and nothing seems to hold his attention for more than 10 minutes. I've just spent nearly an hour trying to get him to sleep (again!) and he's just messing about. I'm not happy, neither is he. I feel awful that he's is actually better off at nursery than a couple of days with mummy :-(

Sending you a big hug x

Looking after small children is really, really hard work My LO goes to nursery three days a week, and they're definitely the easiest days, even though my days at the office are long and busy. The attention span of a toddler is a challenge at the best of times, and keeping them occupied definitely requires huge amounts of patience, imagination and positivity. Whenever we've had a day like the one you describe (and yes, we all do, and I refuse to believe anyone who tries to tell me otherwise!), I try to tell myself that it's OK for children to be bored every now and then (they need to learn to entertain themselves), that it's OK to let them watch TV whilst you take a deep breath and drink a strong cup of coffee, and that it's even OK to lower your standards and not provide a super-stimulating and educational environment all of the time. None of it makes you a bad mummy. You got through the day and everyone's still alive - on some days, that's as much as we can hope for And tomorrow will be better.

PS: My LO loves nothing more than a walk in the rain - we put on raincoats and wellies and jump in puddles and look for snails. She still talks about a walk we did with my dad when we last visited back in August - it was pouring down with rain and we found lots of spiders and a snail did a poo on my dad's hand when he picked it up :rotfl:We got home soaked, put on dry comfy clothes and snuggled up with hot coffee and warm babyccino

sunshine_1988

Lazywife, we have all been there believe me and we all have days like that whatever age our LOs are. You have to remember, you aren't superwoman and realistically cannot do everything that you want to achieve all the time. The times when I have had to take leave from work with a poorly A have defiantly been challenging, as like you we are usually out and about and don't tend to stop in much if we can help it. You just need to take a step back and think, it is only one day and hard as it is you physically couldn't get out and you made the best of the situation.

Sometimes for my LO the best days we have are the unplanned ones, where we bake something together, do a bit of colouring and maybe go for a walk together. It's sometimes the moments when it's just you and them one on one that make you really appreciate that time no matter what you are doing. I think when you return to work you feel under pressure to make every minute you have with them so exciting and packed full of fun that we sometimes put too much pressure on ourselves. Take a breather and have some chocolate (makes everything look better ) and get some sleep. Things will look better in the morning.

Nutella, that is so sweet about your LO and the walk with your dad!!! We love a rainy walk here too, especially since we don't need a pram or trike anymore and he can manage a fair distance without a carry, he especially loves to see mud on the road which for some reason he always thinks is horse poo!!!!

X

*Nutella*

On a slightly random note - I'm on a mission to embrace arts and crafts and make more stuff with LO. I've been avoiding it for fear of mess (same reason I chose mush over BLW...), but a recent article in Gurgle convinced me that I need to change my attitude. I'm now armed with the Red Ted Art book (it's absolutely brillilant ), a collage box, tissue paper, googly eyes, child-friendly scissors and glue. We only got as far as playdough today, but I see that as a positive first step. LO loved it - we made a crocodile, a snail (obviously), a pizza, a tunnel, a face, various snakes and a giant hand.

Onwards and upwards - I think our next project will be making these, as we've got a whole bag full of conkers that my little hunter-gatherer has accumulated over the past few weeks Then we're moving on to these - we've already collected the sticks. And one day, if I'm feeling really really brave, we're going to make leaf lanterns....

*Nutella*

sunshine_1988 wrote: »

Nutella, that is so sweet about your LO and the walk with your dad!!! We love a rainy walk here too, especially since we don't need a pram or trike anymore and he can manage a fair distance without a carry, he especially loves to see mud on the road which for some reason he always thinks is horse poo!!!!

:rotfl:My LO has issues with dog poo - she points and shouts 'Oh no! Dog poo! Not nice! Pick it up - put it in the bin!'

sunshine_1988

*Nutella* wrote: »

:rotfl:My LO has issues with dog poo - she points and shouts 'Oh no! Dog poo! Not nice! Pick it up - put it in the bin!'

Haha!! The wonders of poo!!

Those craft ideas look amazing! We have playdough and the usual crayons and chalks etc but no pipe cleaners or tissue paper etc. I may take a trip to hobby craft tomorrow , we live just around the corner from three huge conker trees so that tomorrow morning sorted!

X

Bangton

Lazy - I have a 1 year old that doesn't talk back and I still have days like that! He's started screaming at everything lately - happy /sad /cross/excited and yesterday it drove me a bit potty as I couldn't tell if he was happy or kicking off. Turns out he was kicking off! Plus he hasn't slept well for 3 nights so chasing him around as he climbs on everything is tiring me out! He can get on the sofa with more grace than I dare let him get off so I constantly have to watch him as I know he'll fall.

Don't feel like a bad mummy!! I'm yet to meet the super mum that doesn't get a bit hacked off/bored now and again.

AFM - now lo is one I have no idea what to do with his milk. I know we are meant to steer him towards cows milk but this morning was a no go so I mixed 3/4 formula with a 1/4 whole milk which he's taken. I just don't know if I dare give him cows milk at bedtime as he still has a night feed (or 2 as he has decided to do for 3 nights ). Is this me being a lazy mum or is it still ok to feed in the night at 1? The hv thought it was outrageous but what do real mum's do? ??! We've had a nice little routine with the formula and solid food and I don't welcome the change tbh