MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 3

Bangton

Hi everyone. Not having much free time to post now I'm working full time (missing lo too much so hoping redundancy comes through soon! ).

LO turned 1 today and I think we've just had the perfect day. We went to an aquarium and he loved it. He can walk very easily now holding one hand so we got round without a pram just letting him walk so he could get right up to the tanks. At the end we went to the gift shop and he got himself attached to a cuddly penguin which is currently in his cot with him cuddling it. We had loads of toys before but after today we are bursting. I'm so tired from the excitement of the day though. Can't believe I was in hospital this time last year with a brand new baby .. nostalgic!

CD - if i don't get to post before the 6th happy birthday to your daughter! ! I remember the date as it was so close to mine.

In other news lo can use a spoon himself! This is massive for us as weaning has been a battle/worry since the start but he loves using a spoon. I have no idea when a lo is supposed to be able to use cutlery though ..As in a fork (and later a knife ). I know I've got ages it just got me wondering.

Hope you all have plenty of sleep tonight. . Night xx

lazywife

fran-o wrote: »

Well done MrsA. Baby sleeps in his own room but I still feed to sleep and know at sometime I'm going to have to get him used to settling himself. He naps in his buggy most of the time too so I need to do some daytime naps in the cot as a start perhaps...

We're doing ok, finally feel like we're getting Baby into food, really swallowing now (he's been chewing and spitting out for months!) as evidenced by a few very different nappies! I think he's suffering with his teeth again as he was all about milk and cuddles yesterday. Our latest milestones: been crawling a few weeks, just worked out this week how to go from all fours to sitting up, and clapping!

Having a worry about a wedding we are invited to in December without Baby. He will take a bottle and my parents are happy to sit, so that's positive. However unless his weaning steps up a bit I'm going to struggle with not feeding him all day as he's mostly breastfed. What's the norm at 10.5m? Still having milk through the day? It'll all change before we get there so I shouldn't worry too much, just depressed at the idea of hiding in the loos with a breast pump during a wedding.

Depending how the weaning is going I started cows milk about 10 months (yup, I know you're not supposed to). T has been fully breastfed, no formula and no bottles, so I introduced a sippy cup with cows milk for morning and afternoon milk. He was pretty good at eating 3 meals and he then had a snack with his milk. Still kept morning bf until 13 months and evening bf until about 14 months. Probably took a couple of weeks to settle to morning and afternoon milk & snack, so not sure if your timing might be a bit tight.x

Derby2

Hello everyone.

Can I join please? Lo is 15 weeks old and was born 7 weeks premature. He's doing really well and is putting on weight brilliantly.

What I am struggling with though is hubby. I've just found out and has won a place in the London marathon. I just burst into tears when he told me as he's done them before and I know how much time they suck up. I just feel I've lost my support and that any chance for me to get me time or for us to do things together has gone out the window. Only this week we agreed to get lo in a night time routine and hubby would be bathing but I don't see how he can do both. He told me he doesn't want to do a dream feed because he wants 7 hours sleep. Lo is currently ebf so I'd like the same but no chance!

Even if he gets up early to do his runs, it means he can't do the early shift and I don't get a lie in. Weekends will mean at least a 2/3 hour run both days which when you add on warm ups/cool downs and post run showers it's easily half a day.

Sorry for the big moan. Am I being unreasonable? Is a compromise possible?

*Nutella*

sunshine_1988 wrote: »

Oh dear! We have defiantly been there with the tantrum situation. We seem to have eased out of the uncontrollable screaming ones, for now anyway! Although it still is that tint little things set him off. And they are so unpredictable aren't they?! A used to love it when OH pretended to be asleep on his pillow before it was story time, used to laugh his little head off.....but last night, he did not like it and had a melt down saying no daddy, that my bed, you sleep in there (pointing to our room)

Lovely about the fire brigade visit it's so lovely to hear about their days and see that they enjoy it so much. Helps to justify the fortune we pay to send them there hey?!

It does indeed She loves the nursery - her days there are long (nine and a half hours), but she still doesn't want to go home when I come to pick her up!

I know what you mean about unpredictable tantrums - it's so confusing! One of my LO's current 'things' is to be very specific about who (me or OH) has to do certain things - e.g. this evening she refused to let me brush her teeth, as she wanted daddy to do it. And earlier in the evening it had to be mummy who lifted her out of the highchair. And so on - and there never appears to be any logic to it!

*Nutella*

sunshine_1988 wrote: »

Fran o, my LO was bottle fed but at 10.5 months he was on a small bottle when he woke around 6 am, followed by breakfast and a mid morning snack, lunch and a small bottle around 2.30, afternoon snack followed by tea and a bigger pre bedtime bottle. I recall he dropped the afternoon bottle at 11 months ish.

Exactly the same here - the only difference being that she dropped the afternoon bottle at around 10 months.

*Nutella*

Saffagal wrote: »

Nursery get her to nap on a campcot/mattress about 10cm off the floor - I don't know how they do it!

Exhaustion caused by lots of activities and running around + small children being prone to copying* their peers = magic

* My LO will even eat beans and potatoes at the nursery!

fran-o

Hi Derby, congrats on little one and welcome to the thread. Not sure if I have any good advice, just some night feed hugs!

I struggle with hubby just in terms if the way our lives seem to have diverged since Baby arrived. We both used to work busy jobs, come home, share news, split the housework, more even finance contributions and go to bed together at the end if the day. Our days were similar and do we understood each other and often had a similar outlook.

Now I'm on maternity, earning very little 8 months in, my day is busy but in a slower way compared to his, though without any real breaks, I do majority of housework and spend my life at call of baby. I get jealous that he has his own life (as I see it) whereas I can't take a pee/ make a drink unless Baby allows me! He still feels tired from a busy job and spending time with baby when home. It is so much harder for us to see each other's point of view now our daily lives are v different. So for us we've needed more/ better communication, honesty. If you feel you're not coping, tell him... "I know I might sound unreasonable, but I'm sleep deprived, and this is how I feel..."

Things do get easier and I don't miss those early weeks! Do you have family support nearby? Hugs x

PS: I'm sure I would feel the same as you, worried and a bit gutted. And then guilty for being unsupportive!

fran-o

In other news, sounds very much like baby has a cold again, a month since last one and frankly I have murderous feelings towards whoever passed it our way. Snotty non-sleeping babies are the worst! (He's sleeping badly thanks to teeth anyway!)

Gah!

sunshine_1988

*Nutella* wrote: »

Exhaustion caused by lots of activities and running around + small children being prone to copying* their peers = magic

* My LO will even eat beans and potatoes at the nursery!

I so agree with this. When A started nursery he wouldn't settle well for me for nap time but they had him settling in a cot and on the fold out mats within a week or so! He also eats a few bits there that he won't touch for me, and will regularly do a wee on the potty or toilet there but is going through a phase here of refusing to even sit on them!

Magical places nurseries!!
X

Saffagal

AARRGGHH

Terrible night here! She woke at 1:45 and wouldn't settle for anything until she eventually fell asleep again at 4:15!!! She just wanted me to stand upright holding her... as I had only gotten into bed at half 12, this resulted in a very tired mommy today! Why do they do this?

She of course, woke up at 7:30 on top of the world and rearing to go... which she still is!

Welcome and congratulations Derby No advice really but keep talking to OH. It does help, though it won't feel like it at times x