MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 3

lilymay1

Thanks everyone. I'm 6 weeks pp now so this isn't still delivery loss. I phoned the GP again who said 'computer says no' again so I phoned my consultants secretary who was lovely. Somewhat magically, my GP then phoned me and asked me to come down at 4pm.

I'll report back later. Thanks everyone xx

amus

onetreehillgrrl wrote: »

It may never happen ever again but ... Eight and a half hours sleep! :j
I am also attempting to go 'out' with LO for the first time without the support of OH. Only the briefest of trips into town. When she was three weeks old we went to Asda but it was rubbish and made me feel like a terrible mother (and that everyone else there was thinking it) so I haven't been anywhere else except baby groups / doctors with her. I'm hoping that now I know her better (feeding, changing, crying, etc.) it might be better. I'm so anxious about it already and she's not even awake yet.
Does anyone else feel like this? Or am I just silly?

x

I did with my first but after giving birth to DS2 who, at times, can only be described as the antichrist and enduring the tantrums thrown I am now immune to the stares of others!

Rant alert!! Took DD into Tesco before, where a little toddler came up to me grabbing onto my trolley and screaming at me. Now this would normally not bother me but the mother of said toddler then proceeded to lift her child up over my trolley so that she could 'see the baba' and repeatedly tap i.e. slap my child in the face!! !!!!!!! Who does that! I wouldn't mind but the mother completely blanked me, didn't even look at me never mind ask if it was ok to let her child mess with DD face (it wouldn't have been!).

amus

lilymay1 wrote: »

Thanks everyone. I'm 6 weeks pp now so this isn't still delivery loss. I phoned the GP again who said 'computer says no' again so I phoned my consultants secretary who was lovely. Somewhat magically, my GP then phoned me and asked me to come down at 4pm.

I'll report back later. Thanks everyone xx

I know I read that the first period after having baby can be heavier so it could well be that but generally they will (should?) investigate/treat any unusually heavy bleeding as PP bleeding for up to 12 weeks after giving birth.

continualdiamond

Hope everything is okay lily.

Re going out on your own. It does get easier. The 1st time I went anywhere without my OH was thankfully just in my village, I met the other ladies from antenatal for lunch and still couldn't drive from my c section so LO would of been under 6 weeks of age so I walked. However it was a mammonth task and I didn't get out of the house on time so was late and felt so guilty and some what cross with myself for not allowing enough time, silly isn't it.

She's now 14 weeks old and I feel a lot calmer going out. This afternoon I went to a different group, however only 2 other mums turned up and the children were 3 and 4 so I was very much out of place. Not sure if I'll go back as feel the Friday under 1's group is a lot more suited for me.

Had to tell my OH straight yesterday that he was doing the 'wrong' thing, decided enough was enough, hahaha. I was sorting out clothes in LO's bedroom and she was tired. OH said he needed to learn how to get her to sleep so I said if you need me just say.

Well he didn't say he needed me, however her crying was getting louder and more intense so I gave up and went into the lounge. He had her sat on his knee just saying to her 'come on darling' and gently bouncing her.

That doesn't work when she is tired. So I told him to give her to me, gave her the dummy and cradled her in my arms, whilst rocking side/side and within minutes she stopped crying, eyes were closed and she soon drifted off. OH got annoyed saying 'she doesn't like me' at which I had to be honest and said 'what she doesn't like is you sitting with her, you have to get up and move around when she is tired'.

It just baffles me that he's seen me plenty of times rock side/side with her to get her to sleep but he won't do it himself. It's not very often you have to get her to sleep like that, it's if you don't realize the ques that she is tired as normally you put her in her bed, give her the dummy and she soon falls asleep with very little effort involved.

OH obviously hasn't picked up on those ques yet. But still it drives me crackers as I really want time to myself like longer than 1 hour but daren't leave her with him. He gets plenty of time away, I won't count him going to work but like yesterday he pops round to next doors for like 2 hours and I'm like gosh wish I could just do that. Then he's been to a concert weeks ago and stayed at his mates over night and then this Saturday he's off to farewell drinks for a colleague.

Saffagal

I remember when A was a couple weeks old (must have been just over as OH had gone back to work) and a friend said to me that she'd pop down to visit us when I was feeling up to it. She had a little one 2 months older than A. I thought to myself - how on earth could she manage to visit me with her little one???

A little while later, and we'd been out a few times and I found once we'd started it generally got easier. The key things are allow a little extra time and plan in feeds for LO - great opportunity for a cuppa for you too

KScarlet

Hugs Continual xx my OH was v similar with our first, it really annoyed me but once our son was older he was much better. You night need to just bite the bullet and pop out ok your own so he has to sort things on his own x

Re: going out I found it so difficult the first time around and didn't go much much at all. I think I was so worried my baby would cry, it took me age to realise that's what they tend to do and people will expect you to be a little late when getting a baby ready. I think my son was at least 7/8 months before I felt relaxed taking him out.. This time with 2 it's terrifying me all over again, it seems to take ages getting them both in the car/ making sure I've packed everything. My son is also really testing me at the moment so making sure he isn't running off/ hurting his sis or tantrumming. We haven't been out much just the 3 of us as I'm just finding it difficult. If it was a case of taking either my son or the baby I would be fine. It takes time but you get used to it xx

onetreehillgrrl

:AThank you to all of you that replied - I am glad some of you have felt this way too (and Amus your antichrist comment did make me smile) as the day we had was perhaps even worse than I had anticipated.
LO has cried all day. From when before we left for the bf group to now and all the bits in between. Fortunately the feeding and changing rooms in Southend town centre are very good because we spent nearly an hour in there ...
Some unhelpful comments from onlookers haven't made me feel any better, for instance at the bf group one of the women said (whilst I was trying to calm down my screaming baby): "ooh, isn't that unusual, you've given her a kiss and made her cry more" before repeating this to another lady and gesturing at us. I realise I'm probably being oversensitive but when I feel like this it's not really what I want to hear - I'm only trying my best after all. *shrug*
Ahhh, I'm always moaning, I hope everyone else has had a good day.

Saffagal

Onetree, some days moaning is what we need to do because our day has felt SO tough. Big hugs, and tomorrow is another chance... One day LO will seize that chance and you'll find the day a breeze... Of course, the next day a new challenge will present

I'm sure our LO's are all in cahoots!
x

katiechoc_2

onetreehillgrrl wrote: »

:AThank you to all of you that replied - I am glad some of you have felt this way too (and Amus your antichrist comment did make me smile) as the day we had was perhaps even worse than I had anticipated.
LO has cried all day. From when before we left for the bf group to now and all the bits in between. Fortunately the feeding and changing rooms in Southend town centre are very good because we spent nearly an hour in there ...
Some unhelpful comments from onlookers haven't made me feel any better, for instance at the bf group one of the women said (whilst I was trying to calm down my screaming baby): "ooh, isn't that unusual, you've given her a kiss and made her cry more" before repeating this to another lady and gesturing at us. I realise I'm probably being oversensitive but when I feel like this it's not really what I want to hear - I'm only trying my best after all. *shrug*
Ahhh, I'm always moaning, I hope everyone else has had a good day.

Personally I don't think being upset by this is being over sensitive - she sounds like a prat. Ignore her and do your thing, babies will cry and sometimes there really isn't anything you can do except hold them and comfort them til they get over it/forget whatever tiny thing it was that upset them.

Eeep a minute left on an ebay auction for some Bob the builder toys! Wish me luck!

lilymay1

Hi all,

Thanks for your kind words earlier. I went to the GP who examined me as best she could and decided that I needed to have an emergency scan at the hospital. I went down, they scanned, and are happy that there is nothing sinister so have sent me on my way with 2 types of antibiotics incase there is an infection. They thought it might have been some left over placenta as I had a C-section although they didn't really give me any answers.

Anyway, I'm not worrying anymore so that's something.

Thank you again!

Lily xx