MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 3

lobey

Bangton we are the sane wanting to get back for 5! It really mucks up the evening if we get back any later and you can't really just push feeds back when bubs is tired. Re lunch at others' houses our NCT group does it every week, we meet at 12/1 then stay until about 4/4.30 when all the babies start getting antsy. I guess maybe they don't want to outstay their welcome? But maybe you can offer your cot if LO isn't using it? That way the mums don't have to pick up the pieces of a restless baby that evening!

CD what was your MIL thinking writing that letter?! Hope you manage to resolve things but understand that you may like to keep your distance for a while.

Hope everyone has a lovely Easter! Our wedding anniversary on Monday - maybe I'll get my first lie in in six months? Haha!

Gillyx

Morning all.

R.e the staying longer, when my LO was small, he would sleep in his pram or his cot, however he would only sleep in his pram if it was moving. So I couldn't stop and have a cuppa or he'd wake up. So I tended to either do something in the morning or the afternoon. At that time he could sacrifice one nap but not two. I preferred him to have his afternoon nap in his cot. It did limit me but I wasn't prepared to have him all up night through over tiredness.

Now he's older it's a lot easier, we go out all day, he will walk all day, doesn't nap anymore and we can go anywhere to eat and he'l eat out so it's definitely a lot easier in that aspect but a lot harder in that if he doesn't want to do it he won't which is very frustrating.

Hope everyone has a nice Easter weekend, lots of Choccy eating here and garden play since the weather is so nice. We are going to the safari park on Monday and today will have to go get tootsies measured as I'm being told 'sore foot mummy' the joys so that'l be me out a pretty penny. Lovely.

Bangton

Thanks for your opinions CD and Nutella. I forgot to say these are mums I met through a netmums meet and initially we went out around 3hrs but this has slowly wained for about 3 weeks I guess.

I think it was the lunch thing really. I felt obliged as others provided lunch/cakes previously (I dont mind cakes/biscuits/drinks) but lunch was a pest to put together. I didn't know anything about their tastes so covered all bases. Then one mum dropped out 30 minutes before and the other 2 left early so I felt like this lunch thing needs to stop since they have the rest of the day to make their own!!

thing is Nutella I always assume people have freed their day up if they invite me round ( which I had done on this occasion) so for me I never consider I've outstayed my welcome unless it's getting toward tsatime and I start to think they'll want to prepare a meal! ! Who knows the correct etiquette really but in a nine hour day of being alone with lo an hour and a half is pointless for me!! like cd when I go to groups I get there for them starting!

CD what a situation. I agree with sending him with lo - I think she needs to know her letter has caused upset for you. I definitely wouldn't go for lunch as I couldn't sit there stewing either! I do feel sorry for your hubby really too. He's now stuck in the middle and I've been there and know how awful it is. What a shame she didn't think about that either!

katiechoc_2

Well after me saying I always have something in my bag for G to munch if we're out over a mealtime guess who just had to spend the best part of a fiver on snacks in the baby aisle in Asda?! Completely lost track of time in the park, and was on the bus which is unusual for me (and I totally didn't get on the bus going in the wrong direction to come home. No no no, not me ) Didn't want him kicking off on the bus so stocked him up on rice cakes and a few bits.

Gilly I got G measured this morning as he's been in his current pair a while, but he's not grown so saved me a few ££. This pair are starting to look a bit ragged though - maybe something to do with him dragging his feet when he doesn't want to walk anymore?!

continualdiamond

Well I ended up seeing my mil today, totally not my choice though.

Hubby works Saturday's so today was no different. He rang me at 8:30am asking if I was home and said his mum wanted to come round with some Easter stuff. Sure enough phone rings at 9am, I didn't answer as wasn't even dressed at that point. I'd been up with lo since 5:30am as hubby was too loud closing the front door this morning and it made lo cry and wake up in a really bad mood.

Anyway unfortunately I answered the phone when a # I didn't know showed up. I was getting ready to leave anyway as was collecting some Easter cupcakes. Told my mil this on the phone so at least had a reason for her not to stay long. I think she knew deep down I'd read the letter as everything she said was directed towards lo and when she did speak to me she didn't give me eye contact as she was holding lo.

Nothing was mentioned about Monday and then she gave me the # of the photos she liked from lo 6 mth shoot and out of the 10, 9 of them don't have me in it. Found that a bit odd, given they're 52 photos to choose from, but hey ho.

Hubby rang later asking if she'd been round and was it all okay. I said 'probably not, probably find out down the track I did something else wrong'

Anyway aside from that, got some lovely post. Got my passport for our holiday to my country (Australia) in the summer, got lo's letter from the Easter bunny and also got mine and lo secret elf bunny gift. I'm on a group on fb for mums and if you wanted you could join the secret elf gift exchange, you had to buy the mum something for £5 and the lo something for £5.

Happy Easter Sunday everyone for tomorrow. Hope you all enjoy a fab day with your family.

Gillyx

How bloody awkward CD. Things can be strained with my MIL as I get the impression she just doesn't like me. We clash a lot and it can be hard work. I get how impossible it is just not to see them anymore though, no matter how appealing that sounds to you feel awful for you. I think if it were me I'd be inclined to leave her to play with bubba and go do some dishes or something.

Yes Katie, 2 pairs of shoes later for LO and 1 pair for OH and I am poor. It was easier when he didn't need shoes!

Mrshaworth2b

Must be something in the water with mils at the moment. If I hear my mil say one more time "what's wrong with him?" When he cries or whinges I may scream. If my child wants to cry or whinge in his own house.... He has every right and doesn't need to be questioned why ...... Lol.

Oh is on a night out, it's already 21:33 and I have no idea where MY time has gone. Gutted.

Happy Easter

Saffagal

Evening ladies

CD, you are far more restrained than I am, and better at answering the phone than I am - I never answer numbers I don't know, I expect a msg to be left if it is important. Well done for even letting her into your home, I don't think I could have done so without OH about.

I took A to have her feet measured the other day. Didn't buy her another pair of shoes as the pair I bought back home still fit alright. I couldn't believe the price of the littlies shoes though! Yikes!! Also most of the girls shoes were pink will have to keep a lookout for non pink ones.

A is now walking independently around the house, and in the garden. I'm proud of her but sad too as my baby is a little girl now. The past few days if I carried her whilst out, she struggled to get down and was then very happy walking next to me holding onto one of my fingers. Luckily she is still fine to go in the sling.

Bangton, re visiting, it would depend on how well I know someone as to how long i'd be comfortable staying. Generally I would stay (or expect) at least a couple hours when I go visiting/ have people round

My mil bought A a little Easter t shirt, which she unwrapped all by herself... He he good practice for her birthday next week! A has also been given 4 Easter eggs... Think I am going to have to help her eat them... I've never given her chocolate

sunshine_1988

Hi guys

Must be a mil day today! We popped round earlier and A tripped over and face planted the floor cue nose bleed. Me and OH were sorting it and mil came up telling us to take him to hospital! It stopped after 2mins and there was no need for her to panic as it made the whole situation worse. She then started offering A ice cream to make him feel better....no!!

I think we need new shoes soon. He was a 5and a half last time so sure he will be a 6 soon. Expensive times.

Doing a egg hunt in the morning and then a farm trip on Monday, hope my little clumsy boy doesnt have any more accidents!!

X

sunshine_1988

Oh, I stay for ages if we are out. All our friends do the same when they are here. By the time you have had a cuppa and caught up with your gossip and baby news...time flies. If A is happy then we just stay put. To me, anything less than 2hours isnt worth it x