MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 3

Mrshaworth2b

Happy Easter to all,

Lo had his mmr yesterday, 3 injections, 2 at the same time! Little bit mean!!

He's been incredibly whingey since! Struggled to get him to sleep least couple of nights. Hoping he wakes up feeling better tomorrow!

Benice - hope your lo constipation is easing
Delain - hope time goes quickly for you
Saffa - hope oh gets better soon, it's hard looking after a lo when ill
Crabapple - enjoy your wedding
Hello to all other ladies and enjoy your plans this weekend. Oh is having a night out on Saturday so I have tv and bed to myself, I cannot wait! Sad I know

continualdiamond

Hope everyone enjoys a nice long weekend, if they get it that is.

Hubby is off tomorrow but has to work Saturday, but then is off Sunday and Monday, so not too bad at all really.

Tomorrow we're making an Easter rabbit cake together. Thought we'd so something different as normally just make a cake and put mini eggs on top, hahahaha.

Not sure what to do re Monday as hubby's parents rang asking if we were free at all over Easter to go out for a meal.

As some will have read last Wednesday we got left a horrible letter from his mum. It's not unusual at all but we've not seen or heard from them since last Wednesday until this evening. The phone rang earlier in the evening but I knew it was them and it said 'with held' so on purpose I didn't answer and then when they rang back I made sure hubby answered.

When hubby asked me (once off the phone) if I wanted to go out for a meal on Monday with them I replied 'not really' at which he said 'I knew you'd say that'.

Hubby didn't give them an answer but for me it's still a bit too raw to go out for a meal and play 'happy' families as unfortunately as horrible as it sounds I feel like this is how it's always going to be, just putting on an act all the time knowing deep down how they really feel/see me.

Will try and not focus on it too much. I know it's only Easter but looking forward to getting photos of my LO for her keepsake box. I bought her 'Spots 1st Easter' and I'm going to write a message in it for her and also got her an Easter egg from Thorntons and got them to write 'Happy 1st Easter Scarlett'.

Picked up a bargain Easter outfit that came with a rabbit hat from Morrisons today for only £3.50. Just wanted her to wear it on Easter Sunday and get plenty of photos as we did the same with her Christmas outfit on Christmas day.

I'm sad I know but just want to capture so many memories when she is little as time just goes too quick.

Crabapple

CD I have thousands of photos of the children, it's not sad at all to want to capture everything! Sorry about your in-laws, and I can understand it feeling all too raw to want to go see them.

I spent ages expressing milk for baby to have while I was gone yesterday, he slept almost the entire time I was away! The wedding was lovely even though I didn't get to go to all of it, I saw them actually married and there were a lot of people crying (with happiness) including the couple. Bride looked gorgeous and groom very smart. I've known him for over 25 years and so nice to see him so happy and being made an honest man of!!

Baby boy slept for 6 hours solid last night - well, 8pm to 2am. I got over 5 hours of that and felt amazing when I woke as I haven't slept that long in ages! Didn't get him back down again until gone 4 though. If he manages to keep doing mammoth sleeps I think I'd prefer him to start a bit later, but just sleeping for that time now and again is enough for now!

Today off to see my brother and his wife who are visiting, and we are having some family photos taken. I don't like having my picture done and hope I don't look too old and haggard on the final pics. I'm not holding out much hope of that to be honest!

fran-o

Thanks for the advice re morning boobs! I've not had the issue since I posted.... Because he's not slept through since but there is a small sleep improvement (looking on the bright side) that he's started to go down a bit earlier - between 11 and midnight instead of midnight and 1am.

Agree re long days out and difficulties getting it across to friends/ family. Went for a nice sunny walk with inlaws a week ago, we ended the walk around the time I expected baby to be hungry and he got a bit whingy. Inlaws were keen to go to park cafe and have a coffee but I wanted to go home for a cuppa so I could feed him on a comfy chair rather than a park bench. The previous week I fed him at a park with them and it was so awkward. Anyway I stood my ground and we went home, he screamed through the short car journey and we all felt awkward about me cutting things short. Thing is at the moment it's about working round him, not us...

katiechoc_2

Afternoon all, been a bit busy on here since I was last on so not had chance to catch up!

Re being out places past teatime etc I try and make sure I have something he can eat with me so if it comes to it I'm not too stressed over him missing a meal. Think some of your LOs may be a little young for them yet but Tilda's do some really good microwavable rice sachets for kiddos, basically rice with veggies in, and easy to pop in your bag. Not ideal for being out but when going to someone else's house for dinner etc, its perfect. Last night we were at mil's for tea with family, we gave G his tea first then put him to bed in his travel cot, then had ours, so me and OH could relax and enjoy it properly. Then just stick him in carseat asleep and home, barely wakes him.

He's on a mammoth nap at the moment, just passed the 2 hour mark! I *should* be working...

Bangton

delain wrote: »

I'm feeling your pain bangton and lao_cat. There are some things that are just not worth doing with babies, and long days like theme parks, zoos, and mammoth shopping trips are all out after babies stop sleeping all the time!

I'd better go and tidy up before OH comes home and asks what I've been doing all day

bring on school next week is all I can say. At least with it being nice the older children can go out and play but it's still been a long 2 weeks and there's been a lot of other stressful things going on as well.

agreed on the zoos, theme parks etc!! We really really enjoyed it up to a point. Probably 3.30 really and then it was just too long. my brother was great, getting lo out and carrying him around and lo adores him and kept giving him kisses so I feel bad for souring it. It's just a lesson that days out need to be finished in enough time to get home/avoid traffic and have time to stop at A service station of the journey home is around tea time! !! and as lao cat says I need to be explicit about the time we must go! !!

Well last night we had an awful night. There was an emergency with the gas on our road so at 10.30 lots of vans, drills and work men descended to fix it. This went on till almost 2am. The gas and electricity cut out so a host of burglar alarms started to go off! lo was disturbed and would not settle back down. unsurprising as it was beyond loud! thankfully he didn't need feeding till after 2 as we had zero means of warming a bottle. LO finally went down at 3.30 having got up around half midnight. got up at 6.30 thankfully so I got around 2.5hrs sleep last night!!

I've been out all day to keep busy otherwise I'd have struggled to get through. Had lunch with mum and auntie and lo 'chose' a bunny as an easter treat (a toy one). I say 'chose' we just waved them at him and eventually he took one and kissed it on the nose (kisses are his new trick) .

Well bed for me but just to say CD I wouldn't go. I'd let hubby go alone and invite him to tell mil that you saw the letter. I hate confrontation usually but I'd be really tempted to have it out with her! !!

Bangton

forgot I wanted to ask your opinion on something! If you had a playdate at home and the expectation was to put lunch on ( as other mums have in the past when they have hosted) how long would you expect people to stay assuming their babies were happily playing/happy to nap on mum?

I'm an all afternoon sort of person (I have two friends on maternity leave so im talking about when I see them) so when I hosted a play date this week I was expecting maybe 2 and a half hours, possibly 3, especially as I got lunch in. It only lasted an hour and a half and I was a bit like 'ho hum' now what! !'

am I just desperate? Would this be the norm? I love being sociable and wonder if I'm just overboard. I'd never expect someone to stay if their baby was unhappy ( and nor would I stay at someone's house) but if they had lots to play with, were content to nap when needed and had plenty of food/milk I think it's ok to stay a while! !!

continualdiamond

Bangton - I'd be the same as you, choosing to stay between 2 -3 hours if LO was happy enough.

When I go to the groups in my area I always try and arrive when they start as most are only 2 hours long and anything less just seems a bit short for me.

When I last caught up with a friend who lives over an hour away I stayed at hers for 3 hours. Time just vanished, LO was happy enough and her little girl was happy enough so I saw no point to leave. I only left cos obviously had a longer journey than normal home and didn't want to hit peak hour traffic.

When I catch up with my NCT friends we always seem to go out somewhere, which I don't mind at all as makes it easier for me as avoid the 'my turn' to host as I live in a flat so have no room to suddenly accommodate 3 mums and 3 babies.

Thanks for commentating about Monday as well Bangton. I suggested to hubby that he goes and takes LO with him, to make a point more than anything. I'm sure he told them he'd ring them back today to sort something out but he didn't and I didn't push it.

*Nutella*

I'd never stay longer than two hours - not because I don't enjoy being out and about, but because I don't want to outstay my welcome. I'd worry about my host wanting to get on with their day/have a nap/do the housework. Which is probably a bit silly, given that I love having visitors myself!

katiechoc_2

Depends how well I know the people. I've a couple of close mum friends and I'd stay at theirs all afternoon as I know they'd just say if they had other stuff to do! People I know less well I'd probably only stay a couple of hours.

Just spotted Sammie was on not long ago *waves* hope you and all your boys are well