Oh come on! Stake through the heart. A little sunlight. It's like falling off a log"

beanielou

With you sister, apart from kids for me.

please-let-me-be-lucky

I hope you both find the men of your dreams. You both deserve it Xx

in_need_of_direction

You forgot the unattached and unencumbered by baggage bit!

Sun_Addict

Hi Buffy - just catching up with you. I really wish I could magic a lovely bloke for you. And maybe a job you love too! Failing that a few good drunken nights out with your mates!

mothernerd

I was offered a young man the other week and turned him down. Currently trying to get my house on the market and buy something that suits me and my mother (she will come to live with me if/when anything happens to her partner - he is older than her, has dementia and other health issues and they have been sharing his house for the past 17 years). She has a house of her own but wants to keep her current tenant.

Every few weeks she mentions some house she has seen in the papers - I have explained we really need to get to the stage where we have at least a firm offer on mine. She seemed disappointed that I hadn't got the details on one she had mentioned (I had walked round to look at the street to find out where the house was - she liked it because it had a small extension with a ground floor bathroom and bedroom, which she doesn't yet need but may do in the future).

One week I had a little extra time and I went to pick up the details at the estate agent (I can look at properties on-line but she has no internet access). I picked up details on another property which was in the window next to the one she had asked about.

We were looking through the property details with her partner's twin grand-daughters who, due to the length of the relationship, think of my mother as a grandmother (her partner is a widower). Married twin suggested buying a property in her street, which has been empty for some time.

The other twin moved into her house late last year and has her fiance living with her (he has debts so can't go on the mortgage until these are sorted out as it could affect her credit rating). Fiance is one of those men who I say are a bit like having a labrador puppy around - big, friendly but not a lot of sense. Twin is currently trying to train him and some weeks are better than others - one week her 4 year old niece said she thought auntie might be better looking for another boyfriend.

Unmarried twin said mum could go to live with her but then they had a problem of what to do with fiance and decided I could have him - as I was used to boys. I said why were they picking on me.

Good luck on the 'suitable' man hunt. I bought my little house intending to live alone and am still dealing with the fall-out from deviating from this. DS3 is planning to move out and live with his gf next year but how they are going to achieve this is unclear - I wouldn't rule out the possibility of them both ending up with me but I haven't volunteered yet.

Peaceful night everyone (we can all dream about perfect men).

Buffythedebtslayer

thanks Mothernerd, good luck with all of them and the house!


Well, had been messaging a lovely guy on the dating site, very friendly and entertaining.


great I thought.


Made a joke about him being married......turns out I was right!!


so that upset me.


and then I got a bit freaked out about not having a job next term. I am ok with it really but it sort of hit me when my friend told me about her 50,000 a year job and I thought right.......ok........ermmm. !!!!.


One of the teachers left this week, she was on supply long term and she just quit and I was SO envious! Obviously she was unhappy and stuff - such a shame she was lovely.


any how tomorrow is Mother's day. realistically I am going to get sod all done for me.


going to have a little think.


xxxx

beanielou

Don't worry Buffy, I wont get anything done for me either the morra!!

Pooky

Doesn't matter how much you earn, what matters is that you are happy with life.

Buffythedebtslayer

beanielou wrote: »

Don't worry Buffy, I wont get anything done for me either the morra!!

I cleaned the piggies out. Place looks a like a barn. Hope you have a lovely Mother's day XXX

Pooky wrote: »

Doesn't matter how much you earn, what matters is that you are happy with life.

Well, it totally does matter how much you earn, I need to eat and pay rent, can't be happy with out that being covered! I agree money doesn't buy you happiness, but it lack of it can make you really miserable and in some cases frightened. Can you tell I have been reading the main board? I have no words of wisdom for these people who are in serious debt troubles. I remember that feeling, way back when I started here. I felt so frightened - even tho I was managing the payments there was no future. I could not see how to stop. I suppose in some ways I still don't - admittedly this debt was about my masters, the new car, the house. However it is still debt.


I remember in 2011, when I passed my test and paid my debts I felt so free. SO relieved.


I currently owe £4,278.36. Plus about 370 on spends CC. I had to pay the tax bill - 213.65 plus I am still covering the insurance from January.


*quick note about the spends CC - there were some spends
70 quid on new hoover, 35 quid on ottoman, 213 on tax bill.


plus because I paid off the car insurance in Feb I ran out of money which I shouldn't have but my shopping bill was huge (average 60 quid a week versus this week's 28 pounds!) plus cage for the hamster,
and clothes shopping - very needed.


the total bill is 709.99 - paid off 370, leaves 339.

I am ok financially really.


Puppy and pets = 180
Christmas = 121(pound a day)
VSP = 58.85
August = 200 (have paid back the money I owe it)
Car = 80


Am paying 200 into the August account, 50 to the car, 50 to the pets and spare change to the vsp each month.


So month to month it is ok. Just not much left to pay off the debt really. Outgoings are 1100 a month and that leaves well plenty really.
But it never works out that way!!


need to do more thinking.


(for thinking read basic maths with a pencil!)


XX

skintygerlinky

Hiya Buffster,

Just checking in on local library computer (don't ask) will post properly ASAP xxxxxxx