Less than 12 weeks pregnant club! Part 4!!

FreddieFrugal

OH has been waking up a lot in the night too. Still getting nausea.

Most of the trouble sleeping is due to worry, she keeps imagining it all happening again this time.

No booking appointment letter yet, hopefully it'll come tomorrow. Don't want a late scan, would be awful.

She's alright though, everything as it should be as far as we can tell.

8+4 today.

Jelly bean.

I've downloaded pretty much every pregnancy app available, I like the Glow nurture one most, has the most info, changes every day.

I really wanted one that shows the baby actual size on the screen, just to see, but haven't found one yet!

FreddieFrugal

Not today either.

Looks like appointment won't be til 10 weeks earliest.

That means chances of getting the scan at the right time seem to be getting slimmer by the day.

I was under the impression that people with higher risk pregnancies due to past complications would be given a higher priority.

If our scan had been any later last time, the termination wouldn't have been able to happen til much later. So she'd have had to been carrying the baby for weeks. Was awful enough for her carrying it for a few days.

Our appointment should have already happened, if it wasn't for their stupid system that lost the referal.

I've looked into private scanning but she doesn't like the idea of not being in a hospital with midwives around, which I understand. It's a lot of money as well.

It's just not what you need when you're already scared as hell about what's going to happen.

Especially when you see the stupid idiot women stood outside the maternity department, heavily pregnant and smoking a fag... And it's people like this that get to have babies and then hold up the process for everyone else..

I'm sorry, just really cross about it all.

pigpen

FreddieFrugal wrote: »

I was under the impression that people with higher risk pregnancies due to past complications would be given a higher priority. ... thats not the case.. mine was at 15 weeks and I am one of the very high risk cases.. they dont get much better than mine. 7 m/c, 6 sections, dodgy kidneys, previous bleeding (6 and 9 weeks) previous Downs baby m/c'd.. only you think you are special everyone else finds each case terribly boring!.. its their daily grind!

If our scan had been any later last time, the termination wouldn't have been able to happen til much later. So she'd have had to been carrying the baby for weeks. Was awful enough for her carrying it for a few days... whenever it was it would still be a few days.. they cant do things the same day.. chances are if it was earlier you'd have to have waited longer for a surgical procedure. For abnormality they only do surgical procedures here and they wont do those until at least 11 weeks and there is usually a 2-3 week list.

Our appointment should have already happened, if it wasn't for their stupid system that lost the referal.

I've looked into private scanning but she doesn't like the idea of not being in a hospital with midwives around, which I understand. It's a lot of money as well.

It's just not what you need when you're already scared as hell about what's going to happen.

Especially when you see the stupid idiot women stood outside the maternity department, heavily pregnant and smoking a fag... And it's people like this that get to have babies and then hold up the process for everyone else.. you cannot judge everyone else by your own experience or begrudge others antenatal care because of a past experience!.. maybe she watched her last child die of a terrible disease or from prematurity and this is her rainbow baby too.. probably not, but you have no idea what others have gone through in their lives.. and her baby isnt yours. I know it seems unfair but thats how life rolls sadly.

I'm sorry, just really cross about it all.

It'll happen when it does and nothing will change between now and then. I know you are anxious and the system seems to take forever and that is normal.. but so is everyone else. How many people here are terrified there is something wrong when they get to scan? Everyone feels the same, with or without a reason. Believe me.. once you hit second trimester the time simply flies.. these first few weeks last forever!!

If things are that bad go ask the GP for a referral to the early pregnancy unit for it to be checked.. the worst they can say is no you've lost nothing.

When I was waiting there were others getting their appointments through way before mine due after me but mine came.. it does really drag though.. really really drag! .. read back through December I did lots of complaining!

Surely the chances of the same happening again are very slim? These last few are the first time I have ever had more than 2 consecutive successful pregnancies... so I was convinced the last 2 would go wrong.. I'm still not convinced this one will be fine.. and my life is at risk too! It is one worry after another this parenting thing and it doesnt get better once they arrive either!


It'll be there soon..

FreddieFrugal

pigpen wrote: »

Surely the chances of the same happening again are very slim?

I know, but that's not actually much comfort when the chances of it happening the first time were so slim.

Sorry that you've had such a difficult time pigpen.
Didn't mean any offence to anyone here by my previous post.

My biggest fear is not that something's wrong with the baby, it's the fear of my wife having to go through all of that again. I'm not stressed because I'm panicking about whether the scan will be at the right time. I'm just upset by how worried she is about it all.

I'm meanwhile trying to be positive to support her and keep her going. She's hardly sleeping at all.

Obviously ended up venting a bit in my last post. I accept to some extent what you said Pigpen about 'not judging others by your own experience'.

However what I meant was, is that it's difficult when people make little to no effort to try and be healthy in pregnancy and yet manage by luck to have healthy children. While others struggle to do literally everything they can to try and tip the balance but still end up with heartache.

But actually making a deliberate choice to do something which is well proven to be potentially very harmful to the baby such as smoking or drinking alcohol is terrible.

pigpen

I understand totally.. some just don't realise how lucky they are, I'm sure there are people TTC who wish they had these problems.. which is why i suggested maybe speaking to gp about an epu referral might ease her mind and yours.

Their babies probably arent healthy though.. that is likely why there are in there! Ridiculous isnt it? If only we could make others see what we can... now we both sound really judgemental of pregnant smokers .. I'm judgemental of all smokers and smug with it haha

ThinkPink

Freddie, no offence taken at all, I know what you mean, whilst I'm probably not eating quite as healthy as I should (I'm going for its better to eat something rather than nothing on days when I do not fancy hardly anything) I dont have an awful diet, I don't smoke, haven't had a drink since Christmas etc.

I have to say, I'm actually more relaxed this time, Last time I was hardly sleeping, I was waking up and staying awake for a couple of hours just thinking about it non stop, whereas this time I'm just trying not to think about it. Last time I could tell you on week by week basis how big the little bean was, what had developed that week etc, this time I couldn't tell you. I feel this way I'm protecting myself a little bit if it's not good news (thats not to say i I wouldnt be absolutely devastated if it isn't good news next week, but I do feel a little bit more prepared this time)

Hopefully I'll get good news next week and then I can start thinking about what we need etc.

pigpen

think.. I don't even know how many weeks pg I am unless i think about it and work it out or go find other posters and see where they are are! I eat what I want to eat and drink what i want to drink (I don't drink or smoke either.. boring me!) I don't know how big it is, I don't care.. I'm fat, my clothes don't fit and thats enough drama for my life haha! Oh... and my OH is repulsed by my largeness.. he was told to keep it in his pants then

Wee all have our dramas!

FreddieFrugal

ThinkPink wrote: »

(I'm going for its better to eat something rather than nothing on days when I do not fancy hardly anything)

Same here at the moment. Once the nausea passes we'll get back to the menu, but it's most important that she's eating something rather than nothing as you say.

Tricky to plan ahead as tastes changing daily. So I've just got everything in the house in preparation for her next palatable order!


We've been looking in more detail at private scanning, made her feel better knowing we have affordable options nearby if need be.

Wishing you all the best for next weeks scan ThinkPink

FreddieFrugal

1. ThinkPink EDD 08.09.16. Booking in 09.02.16. Scan 2nd march
2. saver-j EDD 24.09.16. Booking in 19.02.16
3. Blueneleh EDD 25.09.16 Booking in 15.02.16
4. FreddieFrugal EDD 03.10.16 booking in TBC
5. Becky EDD 04.10.2016* Booking in 22.02.16
6. First_Trouble EDD 15.10.16 Booking in 24.02.16


I'd put the wrong EDD on before

Beckyy

Likewise:

1. ThinkPink EDD 08.09.16. Booking in 09.02.16. Scan 2nd march
2. saver-j EDD 24.09.16. Booking in 19.02.16
3. Blueneleh EDD 25.09.16 Booking in 15.02.16
4. FreddieFrugal EDD 03.10.16 booking in TBC
5. Becky EDD 05.10.2016 Booking in 22.02.16
6. First_Trouble EDD 15.10.16 Booking in 24.02.16

It sounds very frustrating Freddie. Could you phone GP and explain the situation and ask if they can book one over the phone?

I'll report back after our private scan, it's under £40 on offer so we figured that for the amount we would rather just have it and see, as we don't want to tell anybody before we know things are looking as they should so far. Most others I saw are around the £100 mark though, which is a lot of money. At least it's an option if you find you're waiting for a scan some time after booking in.

Still pretty hungry for carbs at the moment, not sure if I want to be weighed at my next appointment! :rotfl: