Less than 12 weeks pregnant club! Part 4!!

danielley

lilmissreading wrote: »

*delurks again*

if anyone would like some information on homebirth, I got some really useful stuff from others on these threads. Happy to re-post if helpful.

Yes people think I am mad too!

*relurks*

Please repost lilmissreading!


x

Princess_kate

millysg1 wrote: »

This is exactly how I feel!!!!!!!!

Me too!! I don't feel right, but I've had a horrible cold & been really run down with that but I think I thought I'd feel more pregnant by now, 9 weeks today. I've got myself into a right tizz something might have happened even tho I've had no spotting or bleeding, no cramps, nothing but have booked another scan for Saturday, to put my mind at rest. I'll only have just over 2 weeks until my 12 week scan then. I just can't deal with not knowing if everything is ok!

millysg1

Princess_kate wrote: »

Me too!! I don't feel right, but I've had a horrible cold & been really run down with that but I think I thought I'd feel more pregnant by now, 9 weeks today. I've got myself into a right tizz something might have happened even tho I've had no spotting or bleeding, no cramps, nothing but have booked another scan for Saturday, to put my mind at rest. I'll only have just over 2 weeks until my 12 week scan then. I just can't deal with not knowing if everything is ok!

Its crazy. All my symptoms are starting to go down, boobs don't hurt as much, bloating gone, constipation gone, needing to pee all the time has gone. All that's really left is queasiness in the afternoons and tiredness but I have those same symptoms with a preexisting medical condition I have so its starting to feel like normal (ish). Tho belly has swollen a little. I haven't had any private scans and don't plan to but I can see so much more now than I did 4 weeks ago why people have them. Just to put my mind at rest its happening. I still think they're a rip off tho.

lilmissreading

*lurking*

So the below is a combination of other people's posts, my post and some useful links which cover most of my decision making and thoughts about home births:

Quote: I have lots of reasons for choosing homebirth:
- lower rate of complication/intervention
- better level of MW care (the MWs are only looking after you whereas when I gave birth in the hospital the MW virtually only came to see me when DH went to find her and I ended up with interventions because of MW inattention)
- probably better MWs (I figure those attending homebirths are more likely to be competent and capable of thinking for themselves; when I gave birth in hospital *every* time I was given any medication the MW went to check with the Dr whether I should have a lower dose because I am thin even though my height means that I am actually above average weight and the default seemed to be run to the Dr rather than think for themselves)
- more chance of having my wishes respected and less chance of having things done to me without my consent as the MWs are guests in *my* home rather than me being at *their* workplace
- lower need for pain relief (which hence reduces risk of complications, interventions etc.)
- home is a nicer environment (when I had a homebirth I got to have everything set up how *I* wanted things e.g. low lighting and I was in a familiar place and the MWs had time to attend to me whereas at hospital I felt like I was considered an inconvenience and I had people charging into my room without checking first and with no explanation or good reason)
- home is more practical (DH is really bad at getting ready to go out when under pressure so based on how long he took the first time from when I said, "I want to go to hospital *now*", we would have ended up having a homebirth last time even if we hadn't planned it plus with the children it's more convenient to just be at home rather than have to faff about with arrangements especially if it's overnight and they're in bed sleeping)
- after the birth the whole family gets to stay together instead of having to be separated for extended periods of time due to limitations on visiting
- I would not want to give birth in my local hospital due to a very negative experience I had as an antenatal inpatient and as I am so close to that hospital the next nearest options are not that close by

Quote: The main one I guess is that I want to be in my own environment, I feel I will be much more relaxed and will therefore labour better (or so the theory goes)! We also live about half an hours drive away from the nearest hospital and DH doesn't drive so we would need to get a taxi or a friend to take us, also if it's at night and the children are here then we don't need to worry about shipping them off somewhere until the morning, by which time it might be all done! (Wishful thinking again)!
I want to be able to eat and drink what I want when I want, I want to be able to watch and film or listen to music, have the lighting and furniture how I want it too. I know you can do most of those things in hospital but I'm just trying to avoid the clinical environment I suppose.

I was dead against the idea at the start of the pregnancy and I dismissed it too when she asked at booking, for no particular reason other than I didn't think I would ever consider it, but after lots of research I have completely changed my mind and I'm really excited about the prospect now.

My own reasons:
Less chance of interventions meaning quicker recovery for me and bub and more time for bonding
My own and guaranteed birthing pool (even if only to labour in)
I can still have gas and air and diamorphine
More relaxed means a hopefully smoother, quicker labour - good for all of us
DH never has to leave because visiting hours are over but I am not in active labour
DH can easily get me a drink and himself something to eat and drink
You get 2 mws unlike in hospital
I have the illusion of control
The environment isn't homely or like home. It IS home.
I am not sharing a space with other people with different germs. This hit home when they did a standard MRSA swab at my 34 week appt
Not having to decide when to go in and shuttling backwards and forwards, being sent home from hospital
Not forgetting anything to take with us

Useful links:

http://www.nct.org.uk/professional/research/pregnancy-birth-and-postnatal-care/birth/birthplace-study/are-there-risks-asso

https://www.npeu.ox.ac.uk/birthplace

I also found out there is a fb group for homebirth in my area and they are meeting next Friday so may have more helpful feedback.

Obviously like any decision there is no right or wrong just some ideas to think about in terms of what matters to you and feels right for you. DH was initially very uncertain but the research has helped him realise the plus side to a home birth and he's now very keen, especially as he does not want to be sent home alone any more than I want him to!

*relurking*

x_missymoo_x

pinkshoes wrote: »

I mentioned to my head of department the other day that I'll need a cover lesson due to a midwife appointment. Her response was to say she didn't know I was trying, and she didn't seem impressed. I wasn't aware I had to inform my boss that I was having unprotected sex!!!!

I didn't realise you are also a teacher pinkshoes, have you told your HT yet? I've not mentioned anything at work yet as I've not yet had a hospital scan but will probably meet with her in the next few weeks. My HOD is lovely and I'm good friends with her so I know she won't have a problem, in fact my department as a whole will probably love it as it means they get more hours! We've got a couple of part-time staff who have had to have timetables made up with other subjects, so I'm hoping to come back part-time and then they can have some of my hours. I just hope there will still be enough for me in my subject, but that's a problem for another day.

Princess_kate wrote:

I think I thought I'd feel more pregnant by now, 9 weeks today. I've got myself into a right tizz something might have happened even tho I've had no spotting or bleeding, no cramps, nothing but have booked another scan for Saturday, to put my mind at rest. I'll only have just over 2 weeks until my 12 week scan then. I just can't deal with not knowing if everything is ok

I also feel the same (yet another similarity we have ) I have had no sickness yet, only a couple of very mild bouts of nausea, and I have to keep reminding myself I'm actually pregnant! When I'm in bed and not doing anything I can feel what I describe as a very gentle pressure, kind of like period twinges, but that is it. When I had my private scan they said they would do a complimentary rescan if I was worried or had experienced bleeding, but I don't think I can justify going just because I've not had any sickness and don't actually feel anything, I should be grateful as I know so many of you are really suffering I've got my dating scan on Tuesday so I'm hoping to see little moo has grown as he/she should have

Hugs to all those who are feeling rough - easy for me to say as I'm not, but just remember that sickness is a good sign and it shows that your body is working hard in supporting your little bean.

Princess_kate

You really are my pregnancy twin missymoo!

janed9388

Hi everyone, just moving over from the TTC thread as I got my positive this morning. Due date 17th May. This is number 2 for me and DD is going to be 2 in November. Not feeling too bad so far, a little nauseous which comes and goes, unfortunately tends to go if I eat which is not doing my weight any good at all. Sorry to hear some of you are feeling rough, hopefully it won't last too long.

millysg1

Welcome Janed and congratulations!

Stomache Cramp! Ouch! Too much choclate!!!!!!:EasterBun

betti911

Had my first appointment with my consultant today. It went really well. I explained that I'd had a bad experience last time and a bad start to this pregnancy and the consultant is putting steps in place to make sure it doesn't happen again which is reassuring.

I was also given more free healthy start vitimens. Is that normal now. It's great if it is! Last time I had to buy them from boots.

Big decision now is whether to have a planned c section or try for an pushing out birth. My consultant said it was up to me but I would have to be very specially monitored if I was having a push baby out birth and it could be dangerous. I've often felt sad not being able to share my birth story with other mums (it was the stuff of horrors)and it made me feel isolated at first. My husband very strongly feels that I should go for a section and stop being so self indulgenent.

millysg1

betti911 wrote: »

Big decision now is whether to have a planned c section or try for an pushing out birth. My consultant said it was up to me but I would have to be very specially monitored if I was having a push baby out birth and it could be dangerous. I've often felt sad not being able to share my birth story with other mums (it was the stuff of horrors)and it made me feel isolated at first. My husband very strongly feels that I should go for a section and stop being so self indulgenent.

I don't know much about this but I know my cousin had to make this decision with her 2nd and 3rd child, she is a midwife and she still decided to try and go natural if it happened before the pre booked in c section. It never happened either time so she had c section for all her kids.

As a midwife she must know all the info and she felt she wanted to give it a try if at all possible.