Less than 12 weeks pregnant club! Part 4!!

millysg1

jediquigley wrote: »

I remember my booking in appointment with my first baby my midwife scared me to death when she asked if I would like a home birth, where as this time around I am considering it.

I think I will have that same scared feeling about home birth as you (this is my first). The idea freaks me out but I think its because I have no idea what to expect. I cant even watch One Born Every Minute.

Two of my cousins wanted home births. One cousin on her first time (was a midwife herself and she only lives 1 mile from hospital) but unfortunately complications meant she had to have a caesarian. My other cousin did go through with a home birth for her second.

lilmissreading

Argh aunty pickle!

I appalled relatives at 13/14 weeks pg by replying to the 'how are you enjoying pg' question with a monotone 'I am sick and tired of being sick and tired.'

Good news - while I have lots of discomfort now at 34+3 for all sorts of reasons, I can eat and drink something without it feeling like a punishment. I can put something in the bin without worrying whether vomit will follow.

Having a proper bump when it arrives and people knowing makes it all much easier. I went into maternity leggings VERY early and wore dresses over the top. I got measured for new bras at 12 weeks. It turned out I was wearing my 32D and was actually a 36E :eek: (think I'm now an F with more to go) and I wish I had got a new bra earlier. They are one of the positive memories of the first trimester

I googled sleep problems in first trimester as I have always had good sleep until then. Blooming dr google kept telling me i was anxious and depressed. :mad: no I am pregnant, there is overlap in symptoms but I am not depressed. I was allowed loratadine in pg (prescribed) and that could help me drop off or get more sleep.

We had no fertility issues, I have had a healthy pg (no weight, bp, diabetes, bleeding etc issues) and while I was on the thread there was a poor woamn vomiting up to 6 times a day :eek: Despite that I found the first trimester INCREDIBLY hard (I had no idea for a start how tiring it was, let alone frightening and worrying).

I would extend a word of caution: my nausea gradually wore off but I think I might have been in 20s week wise before it went. I never threw up until the 2nd trimester and was SO disappointed that I wasn't magically 'better' at 12 weeks.

However it DOES get easier as time goes on. Physically better but also psychologically, once I got to the kicks stage it felt like this is really happening. I found the first trimester all very vague and that I was feeling awful for no gain. I was CONVINCED that at my 12 week scan they were going to turn to me horrified and tell me there was no baby there and I was mad.

Comparisons are odious. Yes maybe people are being sick more, but I would rather have the being sick and less nausea of my 2nd trimester and then no vmit and permanent crippling nausea of the first. Maybe you and I have the 'invisible' side of pg hormonally.

PS my hormones have calmed down but the weekend did find me rolling on the kitchen floor shouting at DH that I was hungry but didn't want anything to eat :rotfl:

Anyway that was really long but I do REALLY feel for you

danielley

I'm considering a home birth and this is my first pregnancy.


My midwife said that everyone just assumes that giving birth = going into hospital and being in agony but it doesn't have to be that way. At a homebirth they have gas and air and pethadine, the only thing you can't have is an epidural, but I would want to avoid that anyway as my sister has had back issues since having hers. If there are any complications during they labour the midwives call an ambulance and you are blue lighted to hospital asap.


If in the later stages of pregnancy I have issues that mean I would be better off in hospital i.e. baby position or pre-eclampsia then of course I will follow advice, but the idea of being at home, relaxed instead of in a bright white labour ward appeals much more at the minute.


I have told a few people about considering it and they have been very negative about it, so I am keeping it to myself for now The midwife said not to tell anyone as you will get criticism and negativity.


I turned 10 weeks yesterday and I am feeling VERY pregnant now as my tummy is quite rounded. I have my scan next Wednesday and I cant wait as I am sure my colleagues have already half guessed.

lilmissreading

*delurks again*

if anyone would like some information on homebirth, I got some really useful stuff from others on these threads. Happy to re-post if helpful.

Yes people think I am mad too!

*relurks*

millysg1

I fully understand why it appeals to some people and I have fingers crossed for you that pregnancy goes smoothly enough that you don't need to be in hospital.

For me, I know for my first birth its not something I want. I agree with you about epidural, I would like to try everything before having to resort to that, but I think a home birth is just one more unknown I cant deal with. Birth is freaking me out enough without adding the stress of being at home. Hospital is 20 mins away (30 mins at rush hour) and I just don't feel happy (this time round) with a home birth.

millysg1

lilmissreading wrote: »

Argh aunty pickle!


Despite that I found the first trimester INCREDIBLY hard (I had no idea for a start how tiring it was, let alone frightening and worrying).

I found the first trimester all very vague and that I was feeling awful for no gain. I was CONVINCED that at my 12 week scan they were going to turn to me horrified and tell me there was no baby there and I was mad.

This is exactly how I feel!!!!!!!!

Mrs_T_M

danielley, it's good that it seems that your midwife is pro-home birth (or at least choice!). If you're not completely sure on a home birth (I'm thinking about having one, but I'm not sure yet), see if there is a midwife led birthing unit near you or at your hospital. Ours is at the hospital down the hallway from the actual labour ward, and although I haven't visited it yet, I'm leaning more towards that. It's close enough to the labour ward in the event of an emergency, or you decide you want to go there, but not so close that it bothers you being too close. The lights are usually way more dim there, some have birthing/labouring pools, and usually your birthing partner can stay with you, and they can do everything but an epidural there as well.

A note about the birthing partner, most hospitals do not allow men/visitors on the maternity ward at night unless you're in active labour (as in, baby is coming in the next little while). I have extreme anxiety issues any time I'm sick, so it's actually written in my maternity notes that my DH MUST be allowed to stay with me 24 hours a day. You can write that in your own notes if you want, just be sure to run it by your midwife if/when you do.

*relurks*

Aunty-Pickle

Thank you so much everybody

It's so nice to be able to just go "bleugh" online and not have to worry - if that makes sense!!!

I'm not usually someone who cries a lot either so I think everything is just a bit weird for me!!

jediquigley

Just got the call to arrange booking in appt with midwife it's on 9th October at 10.30.

My boy was born via emergency c section, I had every intervention under the sun and at all costs want to avoid this again. My plan for my first was a water birth they have a special room at our hospital but I wasn't allowed in it as waters went and they found out I was a strep carrier so risk of infection to baby.

If you are thinking of a home birth I would definitely consider hypnobirthing.

millysg1

Mrs_T_M wrote: »

see if there is a midwife led birthing unit near you or at your hospital. Ours is at the hospital down the hallway from the actual labour ward, and although I haven't visited it yet, I'm leaning more towards that. It's close enough to the labour ward in the event of an emergency, or you decide you want to go there, but not so close that it bothers you being too close. The lights are usually way more dim there, some have birthing/labouring pools, and usually your birthing partner can stay with you, and they can do everything but an epidural there as well.


*relurks*

That what my local maternity unit is. It over the road from the main hospital. It also has special rooms (2 of which you can rent) and 2 which have birthing pools in them. Havent seen any of it yet though.