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Less than 12 weeks pregnant club! Part 4!!
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See I'm in the middle about it. Because my OH initially decided nobody except family would know before 20 weeks (I know right!) I told him I would not be comfortable doing that as it's ridiculous! (We used to work together and we always had customers prying on our business. He still works there, so I understand, but we bump into customers all the time and it would be hard to hide a bump...or a pram! They will find out!)
I think we've decided on 12 weeks if and when it happens. Two of my friends announced it with a picture of the test, one of which told us before her OH!
I want to be open about it from the start. Because of things that have happened before to OH I'm worried I'll be facing a lot of it on my own for fear of worrying him too much.Our Rainbow Twins born 17th April 2016
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I have told a handful of friends and family, but for colleagues I am waiting until I have the 12wk scan picture... I don't know why but I feel like I need it as a prop and to make it real to them.0
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If it was up to me I'd tell all my friends and family but my husband is insisist. I've been forced to tell my manager at work as I've been sick. Finding the actual pregnancy a lot harder second time round. If all goes well this will definitely be my family complete.Jan 1st 07 Car loan £4830.46@12% Personal Loan £11,517@8% variable Overdraft £1500 July 2009Halifax-£0Debt free date 14th July 2009 :j0
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just read that link. It was very interesting.
We plan not to tell anyone until 12 weeks. Probably because, as in the article, that's just what ive always thought5 was the normal thing to do. I thought most people told no one and was always happy with that idea. I am also a very private person and if I do loose the baby, I prefer to deal with it on my own. when im ill I like to be home alone and take care of myself. I would hate for my family to really excited (it is the first) and then have to tell them if I loose it.
BUT, I am already really struggling with the lies. I hate it. Im only 8 weeks and with 4 more to go (and still don't know when my first appointment will be let alone my scan), it just seems like its taking forever. Having to come up with excuses every couple of days on why I cant go out, or why im driving and not drinking. I think a few people will guess very soon. I just wish it was 12 weeks already and I can tell my family!!!0 -
My midwife made the very same point this morning. I think it's more to do with the fear of 'jinxing' things and seeing baby on screen at 12 weeks is reassuring along with knowing the risk of miscarriage drops by 50% at 12 weeks. Defo food for thought!
I had my booking in appointment this morning after what feels like waiting forever! Was a lot of form filling and going over stuff but she kept emphasizing that due to my spotting and cramps I needed to see my GP. This was even more so after finding out that there's a very good chance that the 12 week scan is likely to be 14-15 weeks due to the hospital I picked. GP was able to fit me in straightaway and I'm booked in for an early scan at the EPU tomorrow morning! Feeling very nervous now tho!! Also got my bounty pack and a whole handful of freebies - think the MW liked me!!
Gladly your scan went well missymoo, so reassuring isn't it?! Hope you're doing ok Carrot.Hola to all newbies, wishing you all a very uneventful few months ahead!0 -
danielly - your twins are due the same day as my (single) bean! April fools is a brilliant date :j
I've been quietly lurking in the background and glad to see everyone is doing well.
I have been feeling a bit worried as a lot of my symptoms have gone. Is that normal at 9 weeks? Still getting pains though. I'm trying not to worry as I don't have my scan for another 3.5 weeks (FOREVER AWAY!) and not seeing the midwife for the first time for another 2 weeks either. I think the hospital must be so busy in my area as I am supposed to be high risk but no one has bothered with me. Not even my specialist who has me on some seriously strong drugs which I am still not sure I should be taking at the moment. I have tried to contact him to say I am not happy to continue with my medication until I know what its doing to the baby but he has not responded. Very frustrating and scary.
any way, that turned in to a lot more of a moan than I meant it too. Sorry!
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Interesting article lulu! I agree with it too, but I'll still limit who I tell. We told my parents and siblings last night and plan to tell my grandparents this evening, but that will be it for the time being I think. We'll probably tell our close friends once I've had my NHS scan at around 9 weeks and we'll still ask them to try and keep quiet, then if anyone straight up asks either of us we won't lie. I lied to my friends who asked yesterday because I hadn't had my scan yet (it was only 2 hours away!) and I feel awful, I should have just told them but like danielley I think I need a scan pic as proof! I'm sure they'll forgive me when I do tell them, and they'll say that they already knew anyways
I'm still undecided about when to spill the beans at work though. I'm intending on letting them know by half term, but if I feel ill or I'm struggling then I may do it earlier. That's the bit I'm dreading most I think!
We also had a little discussion a while ago regarding Facebook and how soon people make the 'big announcement', if at all. My neighbour (who has since given birth to a healthy boy) announced it at 9 weeks which I personally feel too early, considering many people on my FB are old school friends I hardly speak to anymore! Having spoke to OH I think we want to hold out until 20 weeks, and even then we'll filter the audience of who we want to see it.0 -
Crazy daisey I feel your pain about lack of support from the hospital. I am also considered a high risk but can't even get to speak to a consultant till next week. My family doctor can't do any more for me save from offering me more time off of work which I am reluctant to take. I wish the health service took a more joined up approach to treatment during pregnancy and offered patients a facility to speak to an doctor or a midwife before our first booking appointment.Jan 1st 07 Car loan £4830.46@12% Personal Loan £11,517@8% variable Overdraft £1500 July 2009Halifax-£0Debt free date 14th July 2009 :j0
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Crazy daisey I feel your pain about lack of support from the hospital. I am also considered a high risk but can't even get to speak to a consultant till next week. My family doctor can't do any more for me save from offering me more time off of work which I am reluctant to take. I wish the health service took a more joined up approach to treatment during pregnancy and offered patients a facility to speak to an doctor or a midwife before our first booking appointment.
I so agree Betty. I've known im pregnant for 4 weeks and I registered with local MW Centre, as told by my doctor's receptionist, and I still have no idea when my first appointment will be and haven't spoken to a single medical professional (MW or doctor) and I've read I am suppose to be high priority due to a hormone imbalance. I always thought the first thing you should do when getting a positive on a pregnancy test is see with a doctor or Midwife to get a blood test. Not sit around for 6 weeks waiting. Maybe, now we have such easy access to the internet, we are expected to be knowledgeable about it all.0 -
Milly I was referred for consultant lead care by my doctor after various midwives failed to realise that my little girl had stopped growing at 35 weeks. She survived and us fine now although it has caused no end of worry. I also had pre eclampsia.
Apparently a midwife looked at my file for my second pregnancy and referred me to midwife lead care. Hospital changed it back to consultant lead after my family doctor and I kicked up a fuss. I have put in a complaint as the whole situation has made me really stressed. I really don't think the system is very well organised. It has certainty let me down.Jan 1st 07 Car loan £4830.46@12% Personal Loan £11,517@8% variable Overdraft £1500 July 2009Halifax-£0Debt free date 14th July 2009 :j0
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