MSE Pregnancy Club 27

emz118

I've told all of our parents (my mum & stepdad, my dad & stepmum, OH's Mum & stepdad) that we will let them know when baby is on the way (we live next door to Dad, so he will know when the car is gone that it's happening, and it didn't seem fair for them to know and not the rest!) but we don't want to hear anything until we let them know baby has arrived.


as for hospital visiting, it will depend on times and how long we're in, but I'd rather not have anyone visit really! I'd rather we were at home and settled first. If anyone visits it will only be our parents and my little sis, who's 13 so would probably have to come with Mum.


as for soon to be granny's at the birth.... I've said no way right from the start! Not for me at all!!!

mrshappy

I won't be able to keep my family away when this wee munchkin arrives! When I had the teenager my parents lived in the next street to the hospital and my dad was there all the time just looking at the wee dude!

AFM, I'm suffering from dreadful wind just now, I have the stinkiest backside ever, apologies for TMI, but I have no idea how to control it, so if anyone has any tips please share, thanks x

con1888

Just won an item on ebay, bottle warmer

Eiteews

sjlou wrote: »

Eiteews That's not too bad. We've got 4 x 2hr sessions on evenings and then a 6 hour Saturday session!
We didnt really have the option of free nhs ones, otherwise we might not have done nct either

Didn't realise there were areas that don't do them... Every time I think I've got used to the crazy variation in standards between PCTs something else comes up. Ours are evening sessions too, pity!

Regarding visiting... I think we'll struggle to keep family away from the hospital, I can't really strategise too much right now as I don't know where we'll be living yet (awaiting a new build completion) and the two different places have totally different policies and systems. Weird not knowing where we'll be bringing him home

con1888

Birdie85 wrote: »

Good advice about dealing with my Mum/visitors in general ladies. Thanks! Will have a word with her and explain that she's welcome to visit at home but to stay away from hospital. If everything goes well we won't even be there long enough for visitors anyway!

Exciting that you're so close to your due date Faerie!

Are you feeling better now Con?

A bit, thank you
I have a prescription for my indigestion, it's a bottle of something, haven't taken it yet as was told take it around 30 mins before bed and due to sleeping most of the day I'll be awake a while yet.

Also baby brain strikes again.. I bid on some curtains on ebay and I'm the winning bidder with 12 hours to go, I have just realised I haven't measured them or anything to see if they will fit the nursery window lol.

Have only bid £2 and its £3 delivery so if it comes to it I will have spent £5.. I like the material though so could use it on a canvas or make into pillow cushions I guess

missbunbury

Last time we were descended upon by visitors for the first few days. I really enjoyed having people there but with hindsight it did mean I overdid things which led to my episiotomy stitches getting infected which wasn't great. This time I plan to stay in bed for the first few days!

bigzippy

mincepiemonster wrote: »

BZ well it sounds like you did very well, I am fairly sure I will need an epidural if I end up being induced as he drip is said to make contractions intense! Sorry if I missed it but what were the antibiotics for?

Roll on Sunday at 10am!!!

I had a high temperature during labour that wasn't controlled by paracetamol and they were treating me add If I had sepsis. Because they were treating me that way they had to treat MiniZee the same way.

Yes they recommended I got the epidural prior to the hormone drip for similar reasons plus a few besides.

Good luck on Sunday if not before

mrshappy wrote: »

I won't be able to keep my family away when this wee munchkin arrives! When I had the teenager my parents lived in the next street to the hospital and my dad was there all the time just looking at the wee dude!

AFM, I'm suffering from dreadful wind just now, I have the stinkiest backside ever, apologies for TMI, but I have no idea how to control it, so if anyone has any tips please share, thanks x

Oats (porridge etc?) And peppermint tea are both supposed to help with wind. Worth a try?

Re visitors - we laid the groundwork from around 4 months pregnant that noone would be visiting in the first 3 days. We knew we'd probably reconsider if I had to stay in though - and we did. When we called to invite the relevant relatives/friends they were so appreciative and grateful that we'd "allowed" it, we definitely did it the right way round (for us).

Visiting hours can be a godsend too - restricted lengths of visits not set by you and enforced by someone else, plus no expectation of offering tea and biscuits etc

Bear in mind, if you're anything like me and are breastfeeding, you'll likely be up feeding baby virtually all of the 2nd and 3rd night, so you may want to restrict the length of any visits on the days following those nights. Also the hormones really kicked in for me on the 5th and 6th night, so you may want only reassuring praise type people around that time rather than any stressful (in law? ) type people.

I'll get round to doing a birth story at some point when I have both arms (and b00bs ) free and a laptop somewhere close

ETA: I was skeptical about some of the stuff on the hospital bag list but bought witch Hazel gel (for example) regardless, and I'm really glad I did. I've even sent hubby out for more since. It's cooling and soothing when put on a maternity pad -especially with stitches and I think it's helped with the healing too. For the change in sensation alone though, it's worth it. I used boots own version first (cos it was cheaper and I was skeptical ) and that was good. Bought Witch's branded one since and that is even more cooling (though might be less "pure"?).

I can thoroughly recommend Boots own maternity pads too. They've been the right level of padding for sore bits and I've never leaked etc (even though o worried about it). I bought 2 packs of 10 initially, and that would have been enough if I wasn't as sore and bruised as I am - I probably would've gone on to normal pads by this point if I wasn't as sore. As a guide, they recommended me changing my pad every couple of hours, what with the stitches....

*relurk*

lushlifesaver

Thanks for the pads and witch hazel tips BZ, I was trying to see if anyone had any recommendations about pads- I was just going to get Boots to get the advantage card points too if I didn't get any tips ;-) plus I'd kind of planned to leave witch hazel out!

Today my mum is getting the train up to visit today so I might use it as a chance to buy my hospital bag stuff with her as we haven't had much time to do any baby shopping together so it will be nice :-)

claire16c

SmlSave wrote: »

Oh no. Could the first 2 people not have stayed for an hour & then swapped with your mum & dad?
That's what we did Claire but it still caused tears. Was an emotional time!


DS found the girl clothes we'd bought and ran around with a dress round his neck this afternoon

Oh dear at least it wasn't you implementing the rules so they could just blame the hospital!

Ha ha!

mrshappy wrote: »

I won't be able to keep my family away when this wee munchkin arrives! When I had the teenager my parents lived in the next street to the hospital and my dad was there all the time just looking at the wee dude!

AFM, I'm suffering from dreadful wind just now, I have the stinkiest backside ever, apologies for TMI, but I have no idea how to control it, so if anyone has any tips please share, thanks x

Mine got bad ever since I started on the iron tablets. They didn't give me constipation in the end they gave me upset stomach and diarrhea and wind! The midwife told me the best way to absorb iron is through my diet and vitamin c so I'm now just taking the occasional tablet and trying to eat iron rich foods & try to remember to take my vitamin c tablets!

Mrs_T_M

I'm actually looking forward to my mom being here during the birth of our little one. She knows how to calm me down when needed and what to do when I'm not feeling well (which DH is still learning). I also know that if I ask her to step out, she will. Not to mention, having her here will mean that I will not need to do any housework while she's here (we never ask her to do it, she just does as a thank you!). My mom lives 4,000 miles away, and being able to have her here while I'm in labour and during the birth is one of the many reasons I've chosen to have a home birth.

As for other visitors, it honestly depends how I'm feeling as to when we will invite people over. Especially since it's our first.