MSE Pregnancy Club 27

9ja4life

I'm letting family and friends visit when they like on the condition that they will be my skivvies for the duration of their visit. So, will clean house, cook, sort laundry etc esp as that's what happens where I come from. In fact if I were back home, all I would do for the first few weeks is feed myself and baby. Family, friends and neighbours would do all the work around the house as well as take baby off you so you get sleep during the day - not out of the house tho as some keep babies in for a month before taking them out! Most new mothers also get bathed for a week by the oldest female around :eek:

All my family live abroad and being married into a different culture (inter racial) means I'm always upfront with my in laws! Saves me a lot of stress.

Con - I hope you feel better now.

I have bought the cheeky wipes and had it delivered but have started using the essential oils in my bath water. It smells so lush haha

38 + 1 today and birthing pool just arrived! Decided to use one yesterday, called and ordered and got it this morning. I am very impressed. Now need to move the furniture in the lounge around so it can be set up ready to fill.

Re - third stage MW is advocating no injection cos I'm having a home/water birth and to do it natural. I've told her to make sure she comes along with the injection otherwise... I plan to wait just 10 mins or so tho but definitely don't want to hang around waiting for the placenta to come. She was also trying to convince me to have skin to skin before hubby. I did ask her whose baby we were discussing about and she seemed to get the message.

Hope she does on the day as well as I can be very cranky when in pain!

No announcements? MPM and Jemb babies - get a move on, we are waiting

SmlSave

In fact if I were back home, all I would do for the first few weeks is feed myself and baby. Family, friends and neighbours would do all the work around the house as well as take baby off you so you get sleep during the day - not out of the house tho as some keep babies in for a month before taking them out! Most new mothers also get bathed for a week by the oldest female around

Ohh where are you from 9ja4life? That sounds wonderful. I seem to remember being told that the Chinese do something like this but could have remembered it completely wrong! Got terrible baby brain most the time

9ja4life

SmlSave wrote: »

Ohh where are you from 9ja4life? That sounds wonderful. I seem to remember being told that the Chinese do something like this but could have remembered it completely wrong! Got terrible baby brain most the time

Haha @ baby brain!
I'm from West Africa. I do worry about how I will cope having grown up expecting same to happen for me as well as doing same for others. The cost of visa and flight for someone to come from home for the first 3 months is scary on a reduced income (Looking at £800 or more) Will see how I cope...

Faerie

My family live 30 minutes away but DH's live 75 miles away. His mum is lovely but quite overbearing, she will be over here like a shot. I think having them at the hospital will be better as they can't stay too long and you can only have so many people around a bed. If they all came to my house they wouldn't leave! I'm getting a bit nervous now, 12 more days until his due date

Birdie85

Good advice about dealing with my Mum/visitors in general ladies. Thanks! Will have a word with her and explain that she's welcome to visit at home but to stay away from hospital. If everything goes well we won't even be there long enough for visitors anyway!

Exciting that you're so close to your due date Faerie!

Are you feeling better now Con?

tiny_courageous

Midwives are excellent at getting rid of unwanted visitors in hospital. If you think that people are likely to turn up or visit before you are ready, enlist the midwives for support as they won't let anyone on the ward unless that person is invited.

MrsBunny

Hi

DH and I have been talking about visitors lately, he doesn't want anyone to know I've gone into labour which I agree with (my mum wanted to know till dad talked to her saying he isn't having her pacing the living room for 'news' while interrupting his tv schedule!!! :rotfl::rotfl:) mum now agrees.

Our hospital operate a quick turn around too 3-4 hours and your out if no problems but you can also stay for up to 3 nights, it's completely up to me and how I feel. I want to go in n out as soon as possible unless baby or I are ill.

DH would like a few days by ourselves at first but I know that will not happen. Depending when I give birth I think first visitors to our home within 24 hours by prior arrangement only. Our families always phone before visiting anyway so we shouldn't have unexpected visitors. It will then be hard to keep my mum away (only lives 30mins away) but DH family live 60 miles away and mother in law relies on bro in law to being her up or the train, but she hates the train as it's two changes.

36 weeks today, 4 working days left till mat leave.....whoooooooooo :j

Off out for a meal with work tonight.....a freebie from one of our suppliers, they are all having a couple games of laser quest first (well now) and I am meeting them later for food! Yum!

MrsBunny
36 weeks :eek:

lushlifesaver

Evening,

Midwife went OK, whopping cough jab went fine and there is a littlw protein in my urine but she said not to worry as its normal around now to see it but she will monitor it. Next appt in two weeks :-)

grabbed some shopping whilst in town then got the bus back - its only 10/15 mins walk but with heavy shopping thought it better to get the bus :-)

Fright of my life once home; we don't have an oven just a combi microwave we use everyday currently so I put it on to preheat to cook some of the bake from frozen sausage rolls I bought today then when I opened it to pop them in the glass turntable when bang and shattered! Shocked and frustrated as its not ideal at any point but trust it to happen on pay day! The manufacturer want £31.99 plus p and p for a new one from them so I've ordered one of eBay and 'upgraded' to first class post. Hopefully they will post it tomorrow and it will be here on Tuesday when I'm off!! At least that way it should arrive before bf gets home from the airport on Tuesday! Luckily it only cost £16 including delivery which is coming from money I had left from last pay check (was down to my last £30 but now that's £14 haha) but as I say it was pay day today so its OK...

claire16c

SmlSave wrote: »

Visitors – We have a blanket ban from anyone visiting us without prior arrangement so that we can turn them away without guilt if we feel unable to cope. I’m sure we’ll be fine and have visitors everyday though.

It worked well last time because we’d pre-warned everyone.

It’s worth being aware of what your hospital procedures are in regard to visitors imo.
Ours allows 2 birth partners only and if you end up staying in the there’s 2hrs in the morning where 4 family members can visit and 2hrs in the afternoon when 2 people can visit (friends or family) Not knowing this caused tears as we’d assumed that 4 people were allowed in the afternoon too and had to turn Mum and Dad away.

Oh no. Could the first 2 people not have stayed for an hour & then swapped with your mum & dad?

I think you're allowed a couple of people at my hospital as when I stayed in one woman had at least 3 people there I'm sure and they didn't leave til late.

sjlou wrote: »

Its hard isn't it. Especially when its so nice that everyone is excited, you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.
I think you just need to make a decision on what you want and be up front about it.
Maybe a few white lies around hospital rules might work??

I've made it clear to OH that I dont want his folks just turning up at the hospital. But dont know what he's actually said to them. I think given the chance they'd be in the waiting room from the moment we get to hospital! :eek: I do not need that kind of pressure!
My mum is really good, they don't even just turn up at our house unannounced!

I'd love to not tell anyone I'm in labour and just send them a pic when baby arrives!!:D Although, I know this is highly unlikely to happen, especially if/once I go past my due date.

Yeah my friend had her parents and in laws in a waiting room for like 6 hours or something! I don't see the point it's much more comfortable for my parents to wait at home bad then just drive in when were ready to see them.

9ja4life wrote: »

I'm letting family and friends visit when they like on the condition that they will be my skivvies for the duration of their visit. So, will clean house, cook, sort laundry etc esp as that's what happens where I come from. In fact if I were back home, all I would do for the first few weeks is feed myself and baby. Family, friends and neighbours would do all the work around the house as well as take baby off you so you get sleep during the day - not out of the house tho as some keep babies in for a month before taking them out! Most new mothers also get bathed for a week by the oldest female around :eek:

All my family live abroad and being married into a different culture (inter racial) means I'm always upfront with my in laws! Saves me a lot of stress.

Con - I hope you feel better now.

I have bought the cheeky wipes and had it delivered but have started using the essential oils in my bath water. It smells so lush haha

38 + 1 today and birthing pool just arrived! Decided to use one yesterday, called and ordered and got it this morning. I am very impressed. Now need to move the furniture in the lounge around so it can be set up ready to fill.

Re - third stage MW is advocating no injection cos I'm having a home/water birth and to do it natural. I've told her to make sure she comes along with the injection otherwise... I plan to wait just 10 mins or so tho but definitely don't want to hang around waiting for the placenta to come. She was also trying to convince me to have skin to skin before hubby. I did ask her whose baby we were discussing about and she seemed to get the message.

Hope she does on the day as well as I can be very cranky when in pain!

No announcements? MPM and Jemb babies - get a move on, we are waiting

Not sure I could get people to do washing but they can definitely make their own drinks & Ill just leave out biscuits etc!

Do you mean they'd take the baby off you & give to the dad? I just assumed they'd always lay the baby on the mum first & then do skin to skin with the Dad second if the mum needs to be stitched up or something! My friend had to go into theatre as she had a third degree tear so her hubby did it then.

SmlSave

Oh no. Could the first 2 people not have stayed for an hour & then swapped with your mum & dad?
That's what we did Claire but it still caused tears. Was an emotional time!


DS found the girl clothes we'd bought and ran around with a dress round his neck this afternoon