Stepping into 2014- walking in My Shoes with Mooloo

Brighton_belle

gizmo111 wrote: »

It's very normal with new partners who hear one side of the story and don't understand the risks and legal orders etc -

For DGD to be returned to her mother she would first have to get leave from the court to be able to apply for reunification and her application for leave would have to be pretty detailed and comprehensive explaining and evidencing what has changed in her life since the SGO order was made to Mooloo that would make her the better parent and in the child's best interest. In the 9 or so years these orders have been in operation I have heard of only 1 getting leave to apply and the circumstances were unique. SGO orders are permanency decisions for children and I look on them as nearly as binding as adopting a child - but within the family.
No court is going to return this child to her mother -- if they do then I'll buy a hat and eat it!!

If I could thank this post 50 times I would. It's not going to happen mooloo and you are not going to have to even fight for it not to happen.


Stay strong about twin 2 - so hard I know, you're her mother. The strain you carry is enormous. But not rushing in this time may be the way she gets the help she needs. And you need the rest to have the energy to cope.

Savvy_sewing

I still want to pack our suitcases and fly off for a few days. Just for a change of scenery, to be out of reach and side tracked. But as BF wasn't too keen on the idea, I am just about resisting. But oh so tempted.
I realise it won't make the problems go away though.
Trying to keep positive, focusing on my home, and environment for DGD.
It's DGD2s birthday today she is 3.
But her Dad is having her today.
I have a back log of sewing that I need to get my act together and sort.

Savvy_sewing

Time for bed.
Should have booked holiday I saw. Double the price to go to same place for same date now.
Think I missed the boat.
I want a break, BF on text seems ok, ish, but now prices have doubled

Eager_Elephant

Have Twin2's keys been handed back?

I'm just thinking that if she can get herself back she will have her home still?

Even if the keys have been handed in can you get them back? Her landlord knows her behaviour. Did Twin2 sign something to say she wanted to end her tenancy? If she didn't and the landlord has just accepted the keys then this is illegal - even if she only had a licence and not a proper tenancy people can't just hand keys in.

Savvy_sewing

she has emailed them to say she's not coming back.
Even if she did come back then she would be out by the repossession dates or soon after anyway.
On hard reflections, she is best to let this house go. She is too vulnerable there, and a magnet for all the idiots in the town to use and abuse. It can't be nice for the neighbours, a lot of which are privately owned homes.
She is currently staying with a lad and his Dad, they have taken her in, and she is going to help the Dad in exchange for a roof over her head. It's not ideal, but at least she's not on the streets, and she can sign on down there I hope.
I'm too tired of fighting her mess. It's time to let go. Let her know I love her, but that This time Mum can't fix it.

Savvy_sewing

Is no news good news? Nothing to report from twin2, since she said where she was. Roughly, still no address.
Twin1 rang up, actually spoke to her daughter, of course she told her she would have her Tuesday. I reminded her it was IF her place was tidy enough, or she would have to come here.
I'm waiting to hear from Biggest about arrangements to check twin2s house.
DS hasn't asked to view anymore places yet.
I am baring up, pottering at home.
I have had several enquiries about making thermal bags, but so far they haven't confirmed. Have one person who can't afford a bag, offering a swap. That's novel, but depending on what crafts she does, more to help her, as let's face it, they are to save money in the long run, I may just make her a bag. As long as she pays postage.
Time for breakfast.

Errata

Mooloo wrote: »

Is no news good news? Nothing to report from twin2, since she said where she was. Roughly, still no address.
Twin1 rang up, actually spoke to her daughter, of course she told her she would have her Tuesday. I reminded her it was IF her place was tidy enough, or she would have to come here.
I'm waiting to hear from Biggest about arrangements to check twin2s house.
DS hasn't asked to view anymore places yet.
I am baring up, pottering at home.
I have had several enquiries about making thermal bags, but so far they haven't confirmed. Have one person who can't afford a bag, offering a swap. That's novel, but depending on what crafts she does, more to help her, as let's face it, they are to save money in the long run, I may just make her a bag. As long as she pays postage.
Time for breakfast.

How long do DS and his GF have before he has to move out? Where wil they go if they haven't found a tenancy of their own by them - these things do take time.
If you're dishing out help to strangers, I have a list as long as your arm of things you can help me with!

Savvy_sewing

end of July, the tenancy is up. I don't know where they will go, but it's not here.
The lady about the bag is a follower on another site. She wants to trade her knitted goods for my seen one. But I will have to see what she knits before I do decide.
I've several jobs to do, but been out in the garden trying to reclaim it from the weeds!

silvercar

The lady about the bag is a follower on another site. She wants to trade her knitted goods for my seen one. But I will have to see what she knits before I do decide.

Very generous thought, but you are not valuing your time at all if you play swappsies with things you make. This is meant to be a business and time is money.

Savvy_sewing

silvercar wrote: »

Very generous thought, but you are not valuing your time at all if you play swappsies with things you make. This is meant to be a business and time is money.

True. Too soft for my own good. I'll have a good think, before I commit to anything.